Is it okay to marry a poor guy?

@jinjer168 (1599)
Philippines
April 1, 2010 6:19am CST
My friend consulted me a while ago and she has this problem that bothered her so much. She's in love with this guy and he already ask her to marry him, problem is that he's not even a middle class type when it comes to his family's financial condition. It is said that 2 heads are better than 1, may I ask your opinion regarding this matter my dear myLotters?
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11 responses
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
i think its ok.as they say as long you love him. and i think its ok if he's poor as long also as he is doing his job to gave you a better life. as long as he got good characters that in the end will bring you to financial stability.
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
Hello unstopabble! I've got your point in there, that its okay to marry a poor guy for as long as you love him and that he has a good qualities and character that could be the key for him to uplift his financial status in the future. Its true and many people started from being a poor or middle class type, they used their hard work, talent and persistence and in the end became very successful in their chosen field of endeavor. Thanks a lot for your response and have a nice day ahead!
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
What matter is, There is Love.... and May God Bless Us All, Always, to your Friend as well...
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
HELLO DWEEBS! Yes indeed, money isn't all that matters but true love. We need money yes, but we also need to love and be loved. Thanks a lot for your response, have a nice day too and God bless!
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
1 Apr 10
It should not matter the class of a person. Money does not grow on trees, and not everyone has the privilege of good money. Money doesn't matter, or atleast it shouldn't. I married my husband but not because of any amount of money had but because of who he is.
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
Very well said SomeCowgirl and i admire you for that.
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
1 Apr 10
I am glad to hear you think it is very well said. Have a wonderful day and happy mylotting to you!
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
4 Jul 10
Well love doesnot see for status, as long the love is true, it doesnot matter for love and life.
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
5 Jul 10
Hi besthope44! I agree with you, it still the feelings towards one person that truly counts not his or her status in life. But we still live in a material world and its really essential to have financial source for one people to continue his life here on earth, so its better if we choose the one we love and be an inspiration to each other so you will both have the drive to succeed and gain a much stable life. Good luck!
@jd107nette (1456)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
your friend is quite right to ponder about that situation... with the crisis we are going through right now... i know it does not matter if the guy is rich or not, money could be earned.. if your friend is ready for the consequences and if she and he loves each other unquestionably, then i suppose they would be rewarded not far in the future..
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
Hi jd107nette! Yes, that's why she made lot's of consultation from her friends including me. If she's really that impulsive, for sure she will listen to her heart only and not seek advice anymore. I believe it also that money should not be a hindrance for you to love one person its just that you will also consider that thing because of the hardships of life nowadays. Take care!
• United States
21 Apr 10
Even though money is the main cause to the distruction of most marriages in the U.S. today. Your friend shouldnt be afraid of marrying the person cause they are poor it should be cause they love that person. Cause after all you can love the poor man for who he is but if you marry a rich guy an he loses everything you will not like who he becomes cause in the poor guy you are seeing the real him not a money powder puffed guy that just hands you everything!!
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
Hello Ryguy1980! well its true that money was not the main reason for you to enter into a deep relationship with one person, of course, money was very much needed for us to stay alive in this world but its not a guarantee that you will be successful with your marriage if one of you decided to marry you just because of money. Love I guess was the best reason for you to enter into a lifetime commitment, and if you are both in love with each other then, you could be able to stand still together despite of life's challenges that may come your way. Thanks a lot and have a wonderful day ahead!
@caiye786 (95)
• China
16 Apr 10
So uncontrollable !Every minute ,there are many love stories happened just like Queen and Cinderella in the reality world .A rich girl fall in love with a poor guy ,or a rich boy be in love with a poor girl .But only few couples could gain a happy ending .their parents often disagree their marriage ,and in my opinion ,without parents 'wish ,you won't happy .
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
hello caiye786! I would agree with you that parents of both couple was one major factor for you to have whether a happy or sad relationship after marriage. Sometimes the parents would really interfere with them and the result was quarrels between the couple because of their parents. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and have a nice day ahead!
@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
6 Apr 10
Well it depends. Is he poor because he just has not had the right opportunities yet, or is he poor because he is lazy and refuses to work and better himself? Just because someone is poor does not mean he will always be poor, does he have the potential to do better. I think if he is poor because he chooses to be and does not want to better himself and your friend is very in to material things and needs a certain amount of income to feel stable and this man will never be able to fullfil that for her then a marriage between the two of them can be rough. However, if she does not care and cares more about love then money then it could work out. It really depends on each of the attitudes about the future.
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
Hi ms ladym, what you said will really put some sense into my friends head. ThAnk you for giving us your honest advice regarding this problem. Keep on smiling!
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
3 Apr 10
Well, finance is the most topic sensitive in married. MAny married ruins because problems in financial. I guess it is better fir him to make him stable first in finance then they can get married.
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
4 Apr 10
To wait for the time that he will be able to be financially secured is another way to ease my friend's worry. Tnx ifa!
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
Absolutely yes. You're going to marry him because you love him. You love him because you see something in him, something that is good and admirable. I guess no one will marry someone who is irresponsible. So deep inside you even though you know that a guy is poor still you know that there is something good about him that makes you fall in love with him.
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
Thanks a lot for sharing your opinion artofbizniz!
@Simi234 (142)
• India
1 Apr 10
Money is not a permanent thing. There is no guarantee that a rich person today will be rich all throughout his life and a poor person will never have money. But being practical one cannot be with a person who has no future. So if your boyfriends is a good person and qualified to have a good future with atleast a good job atleast to survive with basic luxuries in life, then it is fine consideration marrying him. But your friend also has to understant, that since it is her decision to marry him despite knowing his situation, she will also be responsible to help him. Probably even she might have to work so that they both can have a better future and there might be times where they might go through hard times and she will to stay be at his side come what may be.
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
You're absolutely right Simi,don't worry i will tell all of these to her..
@Mimie03 (109)
• Malaysia
1 Apr 10
It's true that money can't buy everything, including love but everything in this world need money...You've to pay even to enter public toilet, am i right? We need money in order to survive so if the marriage just based on love & no financial saving, the marriage won't be last! Even if it's still last, the couple will be fighting with each other every single day because they had no money that they needed which means they won't be happy with the marriage! If the guy love the girl so much, he should be working hard to earn money in order to ensure that they won't have any financial problem in future. Love without money will leads to unhappy marriage but love with marriage will ensure the family are secure in financial & create a happy marriage.
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
Yes, i believe in you that money indeed is one factor in ensuring one's marriage success.