How can you love a person over and over again who constantly rejects you?

Philippines
April 1, 2010 9:38am CST
How are you supposed to love a person over and over again who constantly rejects you?? Is this called martyrdom? ignorance or extreme insensitivity?? Can this be even possible?? Please share your opinions.
13 responses
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
1 Apr 10
No matter how much one loves me. If you reject me the first time, i will let it be. No one can love or live from rejection. TATA.
• China
5 Apr 10
That's you said is soooooo cool,but that's what I want to say .Actually I think I would try my best to let no one have a chance to reject me.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
5 Apr 10
I hope you all the best, then. TATA.
@joiele (49)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
i'm also not sure what do you call this. i was just in a 5yr relationship, haven't move on yet. i tried to reconcile w/ my ex but he rejected me. i don't know why, i'm to afraid to ask, so i just let it be. now i'm still in love w/ him, yes. but i will just keep it to myself. i don't want to be rejected again. maybe martyrdom best fits. or even true love. i don't know, really. but i know one thing, if one is in love, s/he will not mind taking the risk and being rejected at the end. this just shows s/he tried, never mind s/he failed.
• United States
19 Jul 10
A gluten for punishment. Denial is one reason a person would love someone and try to pursue them even though they get rejected every time. Also, if there is a chance open to get rejected multiple times that means the other person is still having some sort of contact with the person. If the line of communication exists in being rejected some people take it. You can't be rejected over and over again unless you had some sort of contact with the person who rejects you. Some people become so consumed with the idea of being with another that they take what they can get. Have you ever heard the expression, "I'd rather feel pain than nothing at all?" If there is emptiness there is no emotion between the stalker and person furthering the stalking. Even though its crazy and painful, the person chooses to feel pain attached to this person rather than emptiness. Honestly, these people need some help. Also, there should be no more communication between the person who is in love, and the person who is not. Its unhealthy period. This issue needs more than advice, it needs professional attention before it turns into a big problem. There is nothing wrong with asking for help, we all need some one time or another.
@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
Love is a very mysterious thing. And it is really hard for the person to accept the fact that the person they love has no feelings for them. Part of love is keep on hoping that the person you love will return the feelings...even do they love other person. There is something martyr or persistent with love and it even endures time. But in my case...I probably wait for that person to reciprocate my feelings but there will be a time frame. If I can't get her love for example with in two or three months then I will slowly forget that girl. I don't have that much patience. One must learn to accept the truth that not all feelings of love will be reciprocated.
@nemarose (26)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
Why do you need to love the person who constantly rejects you? I think he or she doesn't deserve your love. I know, when we love, we should not ask someone to love us back but if the person we love IS CONSTANTLY REJECTING us, we must think if it's still healthy for us. Rejection is a serious thing. When someone is rejected, he tends to have low self-esteem, self confidence, and even experience self-pity.
@jugsjugs (13045)
25 Apr 10
There are alot of people out there that do not know how to show another person love or know how to make the other person feel like they are loved.I also think that rejection from a person is sometimes due to things like stress aswell as they want the other person to break the relationship up as they do not want people to look down on them when they split the relationship up.I would ask the other person why they are rejecting you as that way you will know for sure what is going on aswell as the other persons true feelings.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
15 Apr 10
it's a way of life! maybe it's something that makes you happy! even if you know that someone you really love don't really love you at all,you still choose to love that person.all of us has free will to do things we like to do.so,we have a choice to love or not to love that person.for me,sometimes i just think that he is my inspiration.i know he will never like me or love me but i just love him.sometimes it really hurts a lot.why can't we be lovers.but,now i know and i accepted the fact that we'll just stay separate lives.i'm happy that in some way i've known him,i've experienced loving him.learn to be contented in things that come in your way.maybe there will come a time for you to find someone new.someone who will love you an you will love the way you never did before. move on with your life,no hard feelings!
• Canada
4 Apr 10
I've done this and I guess in a way I continue to do this. i avoid him now because he's not healthy for me or my other realationships. This kind of love for me is no longer of my hart and soul or mind but is stricktly chemical. I beleive that all these things need to work together for real, full love that's also healthy fr you and this kind fo love I have for teh kind of guy and relationship your describign exsists stricktly in the neaurons or whatever in my brain (not my logic). It happens to a lot of people and if it's happening to you, I hope you dont feel werid or abnormal because this is quite common.
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
I think that is one of the mysteries of love. You can't really say.Why do you fall in love with someone who doesn't love you back. It is a wondrous feeling. Some would call it martyrdom,why do you keep on hurting yourself and feeling pain.. Stupidity for some? Why love that person, when you know your not going to be with him
@drshav (205)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
Anything is possible when it comes to love. We tend to follow our hearts more than our mind. We did it because we think were happy loving someone who does not love us back. Just seeing them, talking to them make us happy. You may call it martyrdom coz your always hoping that one day, someday this person will love me back.
@greyz7 (861)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
It is called martyrdom for the wives who have been battered or physically abused and yet remain to be in a relationship ( for the children) after the husband wins over the wife with so many flowery words and promises___vicious cycle indeed! Or just an unconditional love?
• United States
1 Apr 10
The thing is lliaynth, it isn't realyl possible. No one can change someone's feelings and if that person isn't into the one that loves them.. well there is just no way for that love to grow. It may be hard but the best thing to do in these situations is to move on and find someone else. It sounds hard and it will be at first but the thing is true love, real love is created when the feeling is mutual. So when you find someone that will love you in return then the feelings you have for the one that rejects you will honestly just vanish. You deserve someone that will cherish you and love you for who you are. And the sooner you can feel that same love for yourself the easier it will be for you to find true happiness.
@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
Its a very complicated world indeed. Like we happen to like someone who happens not to like us in return. And no matter what we do and say he or she still dont recognize what we feel.I think if you truly love someone then by all means set them free. Let them live and love the way they want to. Let them choose the right ones for her or him .Easier said than done but thats the rule of love try it and it might be useful for you too. ;)