Who cheats more? the guys or the girls?

No cheating! - who is the real cheater?
Philippines
April 1, 2010 2:58pm CST
Ladies and gents...WHO IS THE REAL CHEATER?? Who cheats first? I myself cheated in a relationship but not intentionally. He cheated first! Despite of all the sacrifices I've done for him,he cheated! Our relationship was ideal enough. Everything fell apart for me when I discovered everything. Flings,secret courtships to other women,etc. He's been so unfair to me that's why I gave him a dose of his own medicine. Pretty bitter huh? But serves him well. He's still my bf now for almost 3 years. And I can see he's learned his lesson well. But sadly,cheating costs him a lot - TRUST. How about you? Your comment counts! happy blogging! :)
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48 responses
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Apr 10
I read all the responses and it just seems to me that you need to dump the guy. So what if he doesn't want to let you go? You have a say in this too. I would say his cheating was worse, but what you did was still cheating. Still I understand the why behind it. I think you should go and find yourself somebody new and start over and stop investing so much into somebody who is basically just using you.
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
Sigh. So hard to love someone. Why does it have to be this way. anyway happy blogging. :)
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Apr 10
It hurts big time, but when it's wrong, it's wrong. but best of luck...
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
Time wasted. sighs. Wish I've never been a fool for love. Now,things are damaged beyond repair. My life is ruined because of him. But I know, I've been blind.. It's my fault too.. anyway,happy blogging! :)
@hagirl (1296)
• United States
2 Apr 10
IN todays society I think it is a toss up...... Not many people value marriage or a relationship anymore like they should..... They forget if they cheat they lose respect and trust
• Philippines
3 Apr 10
Yeah. Some people get married so easily without thinking of the consequences. Then if they want a divorce,they get a divorce then marry again. Today's society is a mess really. happy blogging!
@hagirl (1296)
• United States
5 Apr 10
People don't think anything about the piece of paper the marriage license is based on...... They forget about the commitment they gave to each other to get that paper also..... I think it is very sad especially when children are involved.
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
very mature answer! Well,sad reality. Cruel world. How did our society became like this? Happy blogging! ciao!
@basqui (3890)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
Well I think almost all men and women do. It's just that men brag about it so they get caught. women are so discreet about it that they keep it from other people except the one they have affair with. But I think it's no losing thing for guys if ever they are cheated on. They have nothing to lose if that girl goes out of the relationship. He has already got his share of hers right? Well, cheating women have more to lose because they have lost the purity of themselves.
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
Wow so harsh but true. Cruel world. Happy blogging! :D
@basqui (3890)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
Well, yeah. I cheated on my girl while she was abroad. then she came home then I told her about it. Then months after. She found her ex and eventually she dumped me. argh! I got the smack! But I'm happy that I could mingle with other girls now!
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
ooohh..smack hard straight into the kisser!!! :D that hurts. tsk3. when karma strikes. ;) happy blogging!
@bystander (2299)
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
cheating has nothing to do with one's genders. probably, one's morality, even values one lives by. to say the least, one can't right a wrong with another wrong. nice try, sharmaine.
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
Hehe. Well,but this time. He got a taste of his own medicine and he's starting to change. He's crying to me recently when we talked on the phone and begging me to not leave him. I can say he's serious now. Well,all is fair. ;) But now,that he's changed, I think I've changed too. I don't go after him anymore. Maybe I became like this because of too much pain he did to me. It's like he's pushed me to become too hard on him. well happy blogging!
@bystander (2299)
• Philippines
11 Apr 10
what a way to grind one's ax and execute biblical justice... thanks for the response, shermaine...
• United States
2 Apr 10
My opinions tend toward the derogatory side when it comes to men, but it's because of real life experiences. I'd have to say that men cheat more than women. I have noticed that the way men and women love is different. This is just generally speaking and I know there are always exceptions to every rule. But women love with their whole selves. It is in everything we do and think. We would do anything for the people that we love. Men tend to hold love as just a feeling in their heart. They appear to do fine with the feeling, but not with the doing that comes with love. This half heartedness causes them to stray on a whim. The results of cheating are horrible. The trust is gone and is very hard to get back - and only if the cheater really puts forth the effort to regain it. It is hard to give your whole heart in love to someone you don't trust.
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
Righteous... For me,you're one of the best responses here. I love your answer. It is not bias but realistic. Some may protest but for me,it's true. Happy blogging! :D Seems like you're so experienced when it comes to love.
• United States
2 Apr 10
I only wish I was experienced at love. More like lack of love! Thank you for the great topic!
@delkar (1716)
• Romania
2 Apr 10
I think that for a woman it`s easier to cheat her partner . For a man it`s a little harder . If we speak about emotions, for girls it`s harder . I really think that girls cheat more than boys . But this depends of a lot of different factors . For thouse that i see every day cheating their partners, my trust it`s almost zero for every girl . But it depends . If she knows how to make me trust her , it will be so different .
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
Yeah. I think the cheating part is a bit harder on boys. I know how you feel. And women,can get away with it because of the martyr image we've all been used to. Well,happy blogging! :)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
Yeah,i understand you. Happy blogging! :)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
I do think guys cheat more, but like what lamb said I do believe there are still guys who can be trusted out there. I myself am proud to say that I've never cheated on any of my boy friends, not even once despite everything they did to me. I think it's a matter of self respect as well. Anyway, despite my stable relationship with my present boy friend I still get paranoid that he still might be cheating. I don't know. He's a politician and the image that has been built in my head of them are somewhat related to cheaters. I do hope I prove myself to be wrong. The Estrada/Ejercito clan in our country have linked womanizing and politics!
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
Yeah.. I know not all of the guys are cheaters. Some are true too. But I think guys are really much prone to cheating because of temptations. You know. ;) When the bats come out,the cats come out to play.. happy blogging!
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
Oh yes, I have to agree with that. I still think that even if there are men who can be loyal to their women, there are still more men who cheat. Anyway happy MyLotting to you too!
@stanley777 (7178)
• Philippines
11 Apr 10
I think guys cheat more since they are more tempted..but girls also have the responsibility to keep their guys from cheating by being attentive .
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
Yeah. That's why we put too much effort on keeping ourselves beautiful so our man can be satisfies! ;) right? haha. Well,right now the tables have turned for him. It's his turn to cry since I've been cold to him lately. Well,karma strikes so good. haha. wink! Happy blogging!
@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
11 Apr 10
I wouldn't be surprised if women cheat more than men. Women have ways of calling things by another name or justifying their actions and therefore, they are not cheating. Why you would stay with this guy and make so many sacrifices is beyond me. He is taking advantage of you and using you...of course he doesn't want you to leave. He doesn't love you or respect you and I can understand that when you constantly put up with his bad behaviour. As for teaching him a lesson, he now knows he can cheat on you and get away with it. All he has to do is tell you not to leave and you take it. Sad really.
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
yeah. so sad. i'm so stupid really. the last line you've said is soooooooooo right. but as of now, i've been so cold to him. He realizes everything now. But so sad,he might really lose me. And the tables might turn around as I can see. happy blogging! :)
• United States
4 Apr 10
I think it is a tie, there are just as many women who cheat as men. Think about it, if a straight guy is cheating , isn't he cheating with a woman?
• Philippines
4 Apr 10
Yeah. you're pretty much right. nice logic. happy blogging!
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@dhablue (122)
• Indonesia
3 Apr 10
I had better cheats with girls because comfortable and satisfaction but if cheats about business I had better like cheats with man!
• Philippines
3 Apr 10
Yeah right. But if the girl is good and loving enough,don't cheat on her. Might as well not get into a relationship at all and do your thing. well happy blogging! :D
• Philippines
3 Apr 10
Hate to admit this gentlemen but I think we are prone to cheat more than the ladies. We cannot help staring at good looking women and get tempted every now and then. Boys will be boys, I guess. We grow old but seldom grow up.
• Philippines
3 Apr 10
Righteous. You got it dude! At least you're honest enough to admit the truth. I admire you for that. Happy blogging! :D
@myzire72 (1157)
• Singapore
3 Apr 10
It seems like it's always guys who are in the limelight when cheating is concerned. We know about Prince Charles, Bill Clinton, Tiger Woods, and many more. Anyway, so you are taking revenge on your boyfriend, isn't it? You must have felt bitter over your cheating, but you went ahead because you want to let your boyfriend get a taste of how being cheated is like, am I right? Well, since it's now known that both of you are cheating each other, then I think it's best for you to split. This cheating incident has caused bad blood between both of you. You wouldn't want to fight over it in the future after you got married, if that ever happens.
• Philippines
3 Apr 10
Yeah,i know. But my cheating technically is a set up. My cousin and friends knew about his horrible cheating on me and so they wanted to set my bf up. While I'm using facebook,my guy cousin asked me to make him jealous by sending me messages on facebook. And so we chat in facebook,pretending my cousin was courting me. And I intentionally let my bf see what we're talking about as a part of the set up. And so he got jealous. but i told him the real deal about the set up a few days after. he trusts me but i dont trust him anymore. he knows i wouldn't cheat on him but i know he would. happy blogging!
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
3 Apr 10
Who does it first, or more, or whatever, doesn't matter. You sleep around with someone other than your spouse, you are cheating. But you two are not even married, so really neither of you cheated. He could do it again, and it still wouldn't be cheating since you are not married. That's the whole point of marriage, to make a life commitment to another person. He has not done this, so why should he remain committed to someone he did not commit to? Doesn't sound like it cost him much if you are still with him. I wager he sleep around again. No reason not to.
• Philippines
3 Apr 10
Hmm. So,cheating is allowed until you're not married? So what's the point of entering a relationship if cheating is allowed? Isn't it that relationships are is where marriage begins? Entering a relationship is already a commitment. And so with marriage. You can't go straight into marriage without testing each other's loyalty during a relationship,right? happy blogging! :D
@jdyrj777 (6556)
• United States
3 Apr 10
I dont think the answer is gender based. Its usaully done by insecure people. Many countries dont even consider the male having other females as cheating.
• Philippines
3 Apr 10
Wow. I don't know that. Well happy blogging!
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
2 Apr 10
I really don't see it being a gender issue. I see both men and women cheating pretty equally. It's not good for any relationship. As for the trust issues, I would say both you and your boyfriend lost out. I hope you find a way to trust each other again.
• Philippines
3 Apr 10
He does trust me now because I told him what the real deal behind the set up thing I did to make him jealous. He knows I wouldn't cheat on him. I'm the one who has lost trust to him. Thanks anyway. Happy blogging!
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
Hi shermaine1112, well I think men cheats more than women. You know men are born promiscous, 90% of them. Our culture is different from the culture of the West; in the West if men cheats so the women would retaliate. In our culture, we are Asians, women are martyrs. But you know because we are great imitators, this doesn't apply anymore. Some women cheats too. But it's always the men that cheats first.
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
You have one of the best answers. You really got my point. Happy Blogging! ciao! ~.^,
@renifa12 (104)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
i think the guys normally cheats becoz are naturally polygamos
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
yeah. their hormones are imbalance. just kidding. happy blogging! :D
@greyz7 (860)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
wooh! i could pefectly relate to this discussion because i myself was once with a bf who's a cheater..it's so sickening! guys when they cheat are easily caught and denies to the highest level. girls also cheats but discretely.. My point is, whoever cheats more or less, it is still cheating.
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
Yeah. true much. At least you know how I feel. Happy Blogging! :D
@judelen (428)
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
Hello!I think it's the same. Men and women are seems to be tempted. Tempted in the ways that we are human being. When a relationship is not well developed and have more point in life to be observed especially when it is not good for each of you, that's the beginning of a cold relationship. I think prayer is the key of a strong relationship especially when you are married already. We are human only and weak to response temptation.
• Philippines
2 Apr 10
Yeah. women and men are the same. But when it comes to temptation,I think we know whose more prone to it. Well,happy blogging. :)