My nephew refuses to be potty trained!

have them put that blue liquid in the toilet that makes the water turn blue and tell him its magic water that turns GREEN when you pee in it. If he doesn't believe them, have the Dad pee in it to show him that its true. Kids LOVE it! Also, you can throw a few cheerios, fruit loops, or apple jacks in the toilet bowl and have him do target practice on them, by trying to pee on the cereal in the toilet bowl.

blue65, My pediatricians advised me not to even begin potty training until age three (unless for some reason a child is self-motivated) because then, both physically and emotionally a child is ready and at the proper developmental stage. What happens with the overkill you describe is that a child begins to feel guilty and ashamed, rather than motivated. You are right; sooner or later every child gets tired of being soiled and gets better control of his bodily functions. I saw this in my grandchild as well; she was ready when she was ready, as in ready, willing, and able, and then it seemed to happen overnight. So many parents resent having to go through the diaper stage and the cleanup involved. Their impatience creates a problem for the child. (Parenthetically, when we reach the other end of the age spectrum and our bodily functions and control decline, adults who may have to care for us, can be really nasty and hurtful because life is again messy.)

ya...all go around this when we are young...and let him figure out himself.... and let him know the things by his own....