how will you cope missing someone you love...
By egonzales921
@egonzales921 (172)
Philippines
April 4, 2010 5:49pm CST
My friend is a smart girl in fact she's working in a reputable company. recently she resigned for simple reason that she can't stay focus to her job because she thinks too much of her boyfriend who just left the country to work abroad. I don't like what I'm seeing to her right now. Everynight she goes out and get drunk. well, last night she went over to the house and drink again, alone, and then cry again. I always cheer her up and avoid any conversation that will lead to his boyfriend as a topic but i can feel that she thinks I am being insensitive and not empathizing with her loneliness. What's the best thing to do aside from letting her cry until midnight. honestly I'm kinda sick of seeing her crying everyday.
8 responses
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
The very best thing that you can do is to ignore her. You've been a good friend to her but the more you tend to tolerate her actions by being with her during the times when you're together, you're no longer helping her. Sometimes, it's best if we'll prioritize first ourselves. She knows that you'll always be available that's why she get use to it. If she go home drunk and all that, let her ruin her life then one day she'll realize that what she's doing is wrong. If she was a friend to you, she wouldn't enjoy witnessing you be affected with her deeds.
@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
5 Apr 10
it is hard to lose someone that you love. i know that some people can cope better than others when it comes to such things. i personally have difficulty being away from the man i love and if i know i am not going to see him for a bit i get very anxious. if we were to break up i would be devastated and at this point in my life i do not know how well i would handle it, but i do have a son and i would need to go on for his sake and in a responsible and respectful manner. but it would not be easy.
@churchill1980 (764)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
when i badly missed someone, i cry my heart out for a while, taking time in remembering the things we used to do, and how it turned out that we are away with each other. after entertaining those painful things, i tried no to think about them anymore and focused on some things that are more productive. i go out with friends to go shopping, watch movies or just give myself to my job. i think, it was a mistake that she left her job, because with the greater idle moments that she have, she will likely to think of her boyfriend more often which will lead into missing him more.
@maanrodriguez (604)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
I have been in a ling distance relationship for about 3 years now. Though it's not nearly as new as your friend's situation, it is still hard. I still cry every time he would leave or sometimes when there are days that I miss him so much that I shed tears. Long distance relationships are really really hard and unless you've been in that situation it might sound pretty pathetic to you, but as a friend, I hope you can just support her for now. she needs all the help and support she can get.
@louierrific24 (1114)
• Philippines
4 Apr 10
Comfort her, teach her how to enjoy life in spite of all the bad things that happened. Go out, drinking might not be the best thing to do nor it's part of the solution so try to help her channel her frustration into different avenues.
Don't pressure yourself too much. If she don't want and can't help herself, you probably can't help her.
Happiness is a matter of choice.
@basqui (3888)
• Philippines
4 Apr 10
Well, if she really misses him then she shouldn't act that way. They should have talked about the relationship first before he left the country. What your friend is experiencing right now is normal for those who are just boyfriends/girlfriends. They should have got married first before the guy left for abroad work. Maybe your friend is thinking also for the less assurance that he might forget about her. Some girls think like that.
