love and dishonesty

Philippines
April 5, 2010 6:48am CST
I was chatting this afternoon to a former officemate. I told her that a former officemate of ours who is also my friend has resigned already from that office where we used to work. I came to know that after I received an email from her. I thought the reason why she resigned was because she got fed off with the authoritative character of the owner. I was shocked to learn about the reason which I haven't verified yet if true from the person concerned coz I don't have her cellphone number anymore. It seems that after a long time, she changed her number. I was told that the reason she left that office was because she was imprisoned for embezzlement or theft. Actually it was not really money that was stolen but she became an instrument in diverting the goods. I was shocked because she was a very trustworthy person. I love her as my friend. I felt very sorry for her. The reason told was that she fell in love with a guy who used her to commit that kind of dishonesty. I feel very sorry for her. I want to help her. But I don't know how.
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@kharlav (1673)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
If your friend really was in prison, maybe the right thing to do would be visiting her in prison. In this way, you will show to her that you support her and that you will always be there for her. And another is that, don't spread out the rumor,because by spreading out the rumor, whether it is true or not, you will make you friend look so bad to the eyes of the people. You will ruin her life.
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
I think she was able to get a bail. She might be out of prison temporarily. Hope she is.
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
well, in this situation i found a bit hard to answer. you mentioned here that your officemate and friend at the same is trustworthy person. but because of love she'd able to do things which is and be considered a great lost to the company. You know even sometimes in our life, the togetherness we have from our friend is difficult to forgot because this is a worthy friendship miles., but what have happen to her was that she deserves it. We feel sorry for our friend in this situation. But in this situation also we should consider the status of the company where we are attached, What have happen was a very great lost to the company imagine, diverting goods outside the company. This is a very bad situation.
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
Incidentally, I've left that company a few years ago because the owner isn't treating his employees well. Maybe that's what we call bad karma for the owner. But I don't justify the wrong act of my friend. Even if that happens to my own company I would have been very very angry also.
• India
5 Apr 10
such a pathetic story even i feel so sorry for her!!
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
If you had known my friend and how good she was before, the more you will feel sorry for her.
5 Apr 10
If you love someone from your heart just PRAY and see the reason automaticaly from the GOD and GOD'S gave u proper way to what should you do for your love [-o
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
I haven't talked yet to that friend of mine. I am sure if what accused of her was true, she did it out of love. Unfortunately that was false love. Yes, God will show me the way how to approach her so I can help her with her problem. I may not be able to help her financially ('coz I think the case is still pending in court) but I'm sure I can help her by showing that no matter what, she still has a friend in me.
@ernkjha (47)
• India
5 Apr 10
I think if you love someone, you can't be dishonest to him or her even if you try to do so but exceptions are there and always exists. some people may cheat others for the sake of money or reaching certain heights in career.
• India
5 Apr 10
you shud never cheat anyone for achieving ur own end coz thats going to come back to you vry soon...n trust me...iv seen ppl suffering...it does come bak
@phynx15 (248)
• India
5 Apr 10
I think that a very sad thing for you, sometimes we really don't know what type of persons our close friends are. What we thought is true can be a big false and vice versa. But I think in this type of situations, it is always good to talk to the person if you really want to help. Knowing all her details accurately and finding a solution will be the best instead of looking from a far and listening to gossips.
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
That's what I am thinking. But I don't know what exact words to say. I am sure she never imagined that fate will ever happen to her life.
• India
6 Apr 10
lol People in love can behave crazy, they can exploit each other at times, what you speak off is really sad, try to convince her to remain away from this guy, he is not trust worthy... Thanks for this nice post, cheers God bless you. Prof
@1anurag1 (3585)
• India
6 Apr 10
i think you must not help her in any way. as you first cant do alot. and the other thing in this way she will be able to fight with the reality and will become more immune. i think if you just try to help she will not get any fruitful result as you will not be able to change the mind of anyone
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
I think she don't need help. That the life she chosen. She is old enough to know what is right and what is wrong. She must face the consequence of what she is doing. I think what you can give her right now is support. To face the problem until its over.
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
When you love someone or if you truly love someone, YOu think of your partners welfare. Could this thing be your doing could ruin my partners life? Is this a good thing for her? Can she benefit from it without doing something nasty? These are somethings you should think about when you are in a reltionship. You don't push that person to show his/her worst but instead you guide her/him to become the best as your partner can be/...
5 Apr 10
Hello there! Yes you can help her even by letting her know that you care and your just there beside her.Being her friend could already lift her spirits up you know.Love and dishonesty,when i think of this two,i could say that these has got no match with each other at all.Meaning to say if you'll turn dishonest because of love, then you better check it out because it just can't match at all.I would say dishonesty and love is just like the ends of a the same pole magnet.
@khalida (1130)
• India
5 Apr 10
well i would say in this world wher one wouldn't know whom to trust, its very difficult to decide on things like helping others. . . . keeping yourself at stake. probably u can help ur friend in some other way than trying to get her the job and risking ur job. right??
• India
5 Apr 10
Your friend became victim of circumstances because in love her sense of better judgment became blurred. The man she loved made her do something, which she otherwise might not have done. She did the right thing by going away. She did not leave her new cell number with you because she was to break away from her past. Nothing you can do in such matters. Besides, you do not know the whole truth. It is better you keep yourself out of it.
@minasar (30)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
To fall in love with a guy doesn't mean you have to be submissive all the way. If you sense from the start that something is not good in him, then you have to make a move right away to divert your feelings to that guy and think of the consequences that might happen later. Nobody is to blame but your friend for falling in love and sacrificing her career or work, which i know, she knows what she is doing. The only help you could extend to her is to talk to her and explain that she should refrain from seeing that guy again. Her love is not worth giving to that guy because it caused her so much humiliation. so the next she fall in love, make sure that she check first the personality of the person. Guys with those kind of attitude are not worth such kind of love.
@elamel (127)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
oh this is a sad story about love. love is blind as what other says. but if that love embarrass you will i guess you need to do your move.
@anurag3786 (6275)
• India
5 Apr 10
I think if you love someone truly then how are you dishonest about them.. I think love is a true feelings in which both persons are band together .. so it is not good if you are doing dishonesty with other.. have a nice day and keep mylotting always..