Ever felt like wantting to get married on the spot?

@laydee (12815)
Philippines
April 5, 2010 8:39am CST
I'm wondering if you guys ever think of such? I may be in my life's crisis right now for there's nothing more I want than to get married. I don't know why, perhaps it's the hormones thing. I know that financial security is vital prior to marriage, but why is it that I feel this way for several weeks now. May it be because my 30th birthday is coming up in a week's time? Ever felt like wanting to get married so bad? Any tips so I could keep my head above water?
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@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
5 Apr 10
I know exactly how you feel. I was going through an emotional time in my life where I had the wedding date set, but I just wanted to marry my fiance right then and there because I was tired of waiting for the wedding day to get here! I also didn't have the approval of my parents for my upcoming marriage, so I thought eloping would be my best choice. However, I've found that in emotional and hard times, a person should NEVER make such huge decisions. It's always better to make these decisions when our head in on straight, so to speak. I don't mean anything against how you're feeling right now at all! I know how you feel precisely! I can also tell you that I'm so glad I waited for the right time to get married because it truly was worth the wait. I'm glad I planned a wedding so my family and friends could share that special day with me rather than just eloping. They say the best things in life are worth waiting for, so if you know you want to marry this person, think long and hard about your decision and weigh the pros and cons. Make sure it is the right decision for both of you when you decide to get married. Best of luck to you!
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@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
Oh, don't worry about me eloping or suggesting such things to him because he doesn't know of my 'emotional things'. He does know I want to marry him, but he doesn't know how deeply I want to be married, so to speak. Hehehe. He's in the shadows as for me wanting to get married right now, unless he starts reading posts in mylot. I think I'm just frank here in mylot, but I still am shy with regards these matters in real life. It's good you didn't elope with him. It's good you waited. Thanks for dropping by.
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@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
6 Apr 10
Hey there! Thanks for your comment. I know you are a very wise person. I'm very blunt here as well sometimes - LOL! - but that's not to say I enjoy confrontation in person either! Too funny. I wish you and yours the best. Hope all works out well for the two of you! By the way, you could always drop some subtle hints. Perhaps he'll get the hint. (LOL) Take care!
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• United States
6 Apr 10
Hi, Laydee! My husband and I have been together for so long, I can't remember ever not having him in my life. Marriage just seemed like part of the nature of a wonderful relationship we've shared since childhood. I wondered, after reading your post, if I would want marriage very much had I not already been married. I suspect I might. That feeling of sort of belonging to one another is such a joy. Knowing another person so well that we can practically read each other's minds is a dream! I do hope you find somebody wonderful very soon!
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@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
I can't say I'm not envious, it's true that there's just that sense of belonging to one another when you're married. Perhaps it's a false sense of security and most would probably say it's just pen and paper. But still, we all know marriage feels a lot more than pen and paper. Thanks for sharing and I pray you and your husband will have more wonderful time together and that love will surpass all other loves!
@khalida (1130)
• India
5 Apr 10
may be that's a sign that u should get married :) you can start going on a dating spree lol :) is there someone in your mind?? may be your sub-consious mind is hinting something to u! :)
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@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
5 Apr 10
Oh I do have someone in my life, but we're not yet ready because of financial strain.
@yndy1621 (38)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
You could be experiencing quarter-life crisis as one of the respondents have mentioned in the earlier posts. It could also be because most of the people around you, like your friends or officemates are married. I'm in my mid 20's andwill be setlling down soon. During my early 20's I was surrounded with people who are married and there was a time that I was even thinking of getting married because all I can think of that time was it must be great to be married and have a family because of the stuff I'm hearing every day. The people around you I think is a big factor with the way you are thinking and perhaps hormones as well, your biological clock. Maybe try to hang out with single people, those who are not into any relationships maybe that could give you something else to busy yourself upon...
• Canada
5 Apr 10
I'd be really careful if i were you. Number one, don't listen to your parents if something seems not right with your relationship dump him. Number two don't let your parents tell you that you don't deserve better.
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@Wizzywig (7860)
5 Apr 10
Think of all the advantages there are to being single and ask yourself if you'd want to give them up.... for ever
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@crackx (628)
• Belgium
5 Apr 10
It is possible that it is some kind of crisis, perhaps the quarter-life crisis. There were some things where of you said in the past, this is something I really want to do later (in this case the marrying). But I can't really prove such a thing. I haven't reached the 30s yet, so I can't really tell how to keep your head above the water. If you look up the term of the crisis, you might end up finding some solutions, a lot of videos are about quarter-life crisis (in youtube though) I hope I helped you.
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