Court Yesterday

@tessah (6621)
United States
April 6, 2010 7:08am CST
people wished to know the low down of what transpired when i went to court with the maggot. so here ya go.. i, was decent per usual.. and allowed him to pay partial what he owed without any hassels. he, took possession of the house.. which i also havent any trouble with, let the place swallow him whole. what else transpired is quite frankly.. despicable. under veiled comments of "concern" , he threatoned that he is gearing up for another play at taking my sprite from me and having his sewer rat alcoholic ex junkie girlfriend be the one tending to her. ;sigh; claiming that her sleeping in a livingroom isnt acceptable and shes very unhappy. which she isnt.. shes expressed how much she LOVES being here on a pretty much daily basis. spoken relatively in the same manner as he did right after Corey and i lost the baby and he thought it "would be best" if we moved out and he and said rattook over the house.. hoping that in my grief (he proposed this to me three days after the loss of my child) i would just simply roll over and do as he wanted. when that didnt happen, i was served papers from the courts with his request to the judge to take the house from me. soo, after the same sortof conversation.. im fully expecting to recieve papers yet again with him requesting the judge make me hand over my little girl to him and this woman because he now has a house.. and i do not. regardless of the fact i no longer have a housebcause he orchestrate3d it that way. the auction and foreclosure that forced me out? was cancelled months ago because he filed chapt 13.. but never bothered to inform me that the house was no longer on the block so id beleive i HAD to vacate.. which i did.. so that he could move back in.. which he has. so there in a nutshell.. was my "victory" yes.. he was brought up for contempt.. which *I* have to pay for apparently.. and i recieved partial payment. so it basically boils down to i have wound up having to pay over a thousand dollars to hand him the house.. and recieve 130 from him. not much of a victory.. and now hes got me and my sprite in his crosshairs again to cause more problems.. because he just doesnt seem to think hes hurt us enough. (insert advice & input below)
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@gemini_rose (16194)
6 Apr 10
What an utter shite he is. That is my input and that is being polite. Advice, I have none unfortunately, although my hubby has a shotgun haha! Am I allowed to put this on here?? Oh well. Tessah, I cant believe how much you have been through its awful xxxx
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• Canada
7 Apr 10
What a friggin mess. They should let her testify if she is nearing 12 yrs old or older. The judge WILL listen to her. He can speak to her with you present or not, in his chambers, so the stress of the courtroom isn't upon her.
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@tessah (6621)
• United States
8 Apr 10
she just nearing ten.. and i dont want her to be put into that situation.
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• Canada
8 Apr 10
The courts might suggest it or even ask a Child Services worker to interview her and take notes about it or record it. It doesn't have to come down to "who would you rather live with", so that she would feel pressured and feel guilt about a 'decision' she made. They would likely do it as part of their investigation into the both of you, separately, to decide for themselves which home life is more beneficial and happy for the sprite. How else are they to decide? Just on what you or he says about the other one. Parents often lie, they know this (true for maggot, untrue for you), so they don't often just take someone's word for it. They may even interview her school, teachers, other students, other parents. Just about anyone they can think of that have had ANY contact with the sprite in order to help deliver as much information to the judge to make an informed decision. Although, that said, they often leave the child with the mother, but not always the case nowadays, is it? If she has siblings that you have custody of, that will also help decide in your favour, in the interest of 'keeping the siblings together' (or half sibs). Is there any dirt you can gather up on the new gf? To help prove your claims against her character. Anything you can get would be helpful. Anybody that is willing to testify, or even at the very least sign an Affidavit. Also, you will need as many people that you can get (no number is too many) to attest to YOUR mothering abilities and your positive interaction with your sprite. Anyone that has had interaction with you and the sprite together on any kind of regular basis, that is not related (if possible). Teachers, other parents, anybody of adult age really counts. Likewise, if there have been ANY witnesses to his (the maggot) lack of parenting skills, get those people to sign something on your behalf. Don't you have a lawyer to suggest any of this to you, by the way? Or can't afford one. Cause I am a paralegal, but I don't know your US laws.
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• Canada
17 Apr 10
Well, both sparks and I have done our own background checks. Um, email sparks about this, as she subscribes to some service now that I sent her a link for. As to your lawyer being useless. I would fire him and get another. Some can work on consignment, or 'paid after judgement', I think, you just have to hunt around and make the phone calls to find them. Here in Canada, we have a Service called the "Lawyer's Referral" service. New lawyers subscribe to this listing in order to build a client base. It is run by the Law Society. You call a toll free number and get given a list of some lawyers that work in that area of law that you need. You call and make an appt with one, and you get a 1/2 hr consultation for free. Those are the lawyers most likely to do some 'pro bono' work in order to get you as a client again later in life when you are more prosperous and able to afford them. Plus, word of mouth, on how kind they were to you, also pays off in the long run, to generate more clients, thus future income for them. We also have a service called "Legal Aid" and you would most definitely be approved, if you lived here. It is based on income and our country won't see someone go without legal representation solely because they are too poor to afford it. Lawyers are a dime a dozen, so there should be many for you to choose from. And if the one you have is ineffective, YOU are the client, so you can decide at any time to get another instead. Don't you have such a "Legal Aid" system there in the US at all?
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Apr 10
Sounds like my cousin, only her ex is a family court lawyer, so he knows all the tricks. What a nightmare! I only hope that the judge sees through his crap and doesn't do what you are fearing.
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@Draeke (324)
• United States
8 Apr 10
I'm quite cetain we all feel this way
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