Would you rather be in a relationship or be single??

United States
April 6, 2010 5:17pm CST
Most of the time, people are in relationships because they found someone they want to be with. A lot of times, people just like the thought of being in a relationship even though they haven't found their love yet. Sometimes people prefer to spend time as a couple than be single. However, some people would rather be single. They might like the idea of not being trapped in a closed relationship. They might like idea of freedom and being able to do whatever they want and date whoever they want. What do you think? Would you rather be in a relationship or be single? And what are your reasons?
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@rosegardens (3044)
• United States
7 Apr 10
It depends. If someone is in an abusive relationship then it is better to be single. I think relationships are over rated; one should get comfortable with themselves and being alone and do a little self-introspection before getting involved with someone. People that are in and out of relationships just for fear of being alone are very unhappy. It seems people who are single by choice are more satisfied and happier with their life overall than those who are involved with someone who is not right for them.
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• United States
9 Apr 10
I agree that someone needs to find out who they are themselves before they try and find out who another person is. That is a very interesting statement by saying that people who are in and out of relationships are unhappy because nothing seems to be working for them and they try and try, yet seemingly always fail. People who are single do not have that problem of trying to please someone else, they can concentrate on pleasing themselves. The problem with relationships is that even if someone is not the right person it is hard to let them go because of all the experiences they have shared together. In the end people need to do what's best for them. =)
• United Kingdom
7 Apr 10
I'd definitely want to be in a relationship than being single but the person with me in that relationship should be the one I want to be with because relationships started just for the sake of having one end up becoming burdens and the result might be hurt feelings and broken hearts.You might get irritated with small things the other person does and might hurt him in reaction.So one should never rush into falling in love,but wait for the right person!!..:)
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• United States
7 Apr 10
Very true Nithinshukla. I am in a current relationship that is not going to lead to anything in the future, therefore I am in the relationship just for fun. We do argue a lot and feelings and hearts will be broken. My situation is complicated. I guess it's a catch-22. The right person will come one day. =)
• United Kingdom
7 Apr 10
I don't think that relationships are for everyone and I'm certainly someone that falls into that category! I have been living alone for many years now and I really love my independence, I love being single. Obviously there's some things I probably miss out on and that is the love and companionship that a relationship brings but I have become so used to my routine now that I'm actually comfortable with it. I think that being single is proving to be quite popular in the modern age, there's no longer a negative stigma attached to this state. I think that if I gave up on the idea of being single now then I would probably start to feel crowded and I would definitely want my own space! Andrew
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• United States
7 Apr 10
For sure, being single gives you the opportunity of having your own space. That's good if you're comfortable being single. It's different for everyone. I agree with you that there is no longer a strong negative stigma about being single. I also think that it depends on one's culture. Some cultures demand that someone get married sooner or later. It's good to just have fun and cherish your youth while you can. THere's always time to get serious later on in life whenever someone is ready.
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
Being in a relationship means that you are trapped. It means that you will want a partner to share your happiness, sorrows, ups, downs, achievements, etc. Each of us are meant to be with a partner right? But freedom should not be an issue because in the first place if you are not ready to be in a relationship, if you are not ready to please, understand, listen to your partner then it would be better to stay single. Being in a relationship should not be forced because I believe that chances are, it will definitely not work out. It really depends if you want to be in a relationship or you want to stay single. It's a matter of preparing yourself so that you won't hurt anybody.
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
7 Apr 10
I believe that people were made in a way that they cannot live well alone, they need to feel loved, and give love, and be in a relationship. I dont think i would feel well if i were single. Life is so full and lovely when you set up a family.
• United States
9 Apr 10
I think it is okay to be single for the young people. People, at least in Japan, are opting to get married later and later. When people get married it seems that both individuals slow down from their former life. Marriage or relationships become rote and often times love diminishes. The trick to staying in a happy relationship is to not let the relationship become routine and continue to do activities that peak the interest of both you and your partner. I feel that at least at one point in time a person should be with someone or be married.
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
12 Apr 10
Yes I agree that marraige cannot succeed if each spouse takes the other for grnted and life becomes a routine. That can cause a lot of bad feelings and easily snapping at each other. It can happen when children are born as they dictate the routine of life a bit. So it is important that there is support, care and sharing between the husband and wife.
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
12 Apr 10
Yes everything has to be shared, be it money, possessions and responsibilities. It is hard but that is how it should be. After all if a divorce or separation occurs everything has to be shared by law. Besides the main notion of marraige is sharing together and making little everyday sacrifices for each other. Giving space then comes naturally, it is not a matter of over possession doont get me wrong.
7 Apr 10
for me, i want to be in a relationship because it gives me the love that i don't find in my family. all of us will be in a situation that will find someone who will comfort, love and understand who we really are and we need someone that will be with us when we get old and share the times that they have.
• United States
7 Apr 10
I'm sorry that you don't find love in your family. We'll all get married someday. I find that girls dream about their wedding day more so than men do. Why do you think women in general dream about their wedding day more so than men?
7 Apr 10
because it is one of the special day that happens in the life of a woman and it is the time that we commit our self to the one that we really love.
• United States
7 Apr 10
Why does a man not feel the same way a woman does about his wedding day? The stereotype is that man dreads his wedding day, maybe because the man can no longer mess around and spread his seed with other women. Who do you think is generalized as more promiscuous man or woman?
@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Apr 10
I'd rather be single than be in a bad relationship. But if it's good, I'd rather be in a relationship. Makes me happy, that's why.
• United States
9 Apr 10
So, basically you'll test out the relationship and if it's not working then hop on out of there but if it is working out then you're happy to be in a relationship. The problem with that the only way to know whether the relationship is bad or good is to actually get into a relationship. By this reasoning, it seems that you like to test relationships and see where it goes. Wonderful. =)
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Apr 10
I'd rather just get in and stay in, but it doesn't always work out that way...
@palonghorn (5486)
• United States
9 Apr 10
For me, I'd rather be single, at least to some point. I have divorced 3 times, and my last live-in relationship ended a little over a year ago, after almost 4 years. At present, I have two close friends, one that comes here, he lives 4 hours away, about once a month for a weekend. The other lives nearby. And although, I like being on my own, it's nice to have friends that worry and care about you. They both call, just to see how I'm doing, and if I need anything. Matter of fact, one stopped by this morning, to drop off his lawnmower, lol. I haven't gotten one yet, since I've only lived here a month. I think we all get along so well because we all have one basic thing in common, we are all wildland firefighters, and we love what we do.
• United States
9 Apr 10
I'm glad you have your friends to support you and hold you up since you do not have a significant other. Usually when a relationship falls apart family or friends step in and help fill that lost void. It's good to have commonalities with your friends and even your loved ones, as having common traits means that two people will get along more and not clash. Sometimes I get confused how people say opposites attract. Would you rather have someone just like you or the complete opposite of you. I feel that if someone is the opposite of you too much conflict can occur. Good luck to you and to all your future endeavors. =)
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@shivhae (51)
• Netherlands
7 Apr 10
I always been single and loved it. But then when u getting older u do gonna miss being with someone u can spend time with esp if u dont have much famely and no brothers and sisters. Thats why i got a bf now, we dont live together and im not up for that for a long time yet but its good to have someone so you not alone. Altough i must say i will never get married because a part of me still likes to be free
• United States
9 Apr 10
It is surprising that you say you never get married. It seems that you just want to be with this boy, because you are lonely but you are scared to ultimately commit yourself. I'm sure there'll be a one day in the distant future that where you'll decide to change your mind and get married. Usually girls dream about their wedding day, since they were young, so it surprises me how you never want to be married. I guess everyone truly is different. Sweet. =)
• Canada
7 Apr 10
I think it's better to be in a relationship. I wouldn't want to be alone, it's nice to have someone share your day with or to share your problems with.
• United States
9 Apr 10
Are you in a relationship right now? So far right now it seems that the responses to this post have been around 50/50. Some people want to stay single and some want to be in a relationship. It is very interesting how people's idea about being in a relationship can go either way. It really is nice to have a companion with you that you can share your day and problems with. Someone who will be there to listen and to make you smile. =)
@hilarion (72)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
i rather stay single because i want when i enter into a relationship it is for a lifetime commitment and i am the perfect man for the woman that i love. personally, my opinion when young people enter into a relationship is that they want some sort of enjoyment rather love itself as if they are taking love so lightly. love is a bilateral and mutual relationship both should treat the other one with care
• United States
9 Apr 10
Love means something different for everyone but I do agree with you that two people who are in love need to care about each other. I think that it is easy to fall in and out of love but if the love runs out, that is when the real problems begin and heartache kicks in. Have fun being single until you find the love of your life. =)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
I think i'd rather be single. Being single is fun. You can date anyone you wanna date, you can go out without anyone trying to phone you and ask you where you are at that time of day, you can do anything you want without hurting anybody. There's no emotional baggage, and when you go to a bar, you can dance and flirt without having to worry that you're committing some sort of infidelity because you know your partner's at home waiting for you. There's no fear of being cheated on, or having to worry about someone else. You don't need your phone that much because you won't be calling him or texting him, and you're certainly able to cut down on expenses. You don't have to fight with anyone, or be forced to agree to anything. And you will learn to enjoy everything about yourself. I haven't been single for the longest time until I got married. Now that I'm married, i know i can never go back to being single. But one thing that I'm very thankful about my husband is that I can do almost anything (minus the flirting, the dating, and anything which includes another guy and some non-friendly gestures) just like I was single. :-)
• United States
9 Apr 10
I'm glad your husband is understanding and still let's you hang out with your guy friends. Well if you truly wanted to stay single then maybe you should have waited before you got married. I hope you truly are in a happy marriage. I hope you also got to have all your single fun out of you by clubbing and flirting with cute guys. At least now you have someone you always rely on. =)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
I used to think that I can live alone so I thought I would be single forever but when I met and fell in love with my boyfriend I thought of building a family with him and stay in the relationship that way, I would enjoy his company and love and we would together enjoy our family in the future. People now say that it they would rather be single for life but I know that there will come a time that they would feel emptiness and would opt to be in a relationship.
• United States
9 Apr 10
I agree with you that although people want to be single temporarily they'll start to get lonely and want some companionship. Men are meant to be with women and women are meant to be with men, both according to the Bible and according to nature itself. I'm glad you and your boyfriend are doing well. I honestly hope that it does work out and you two can start a happy family together. =)
@gracie04 (4555)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
I am very much happy with my partner so I'd say that i'd rather be in a relationship than being single... You know, it is nice to share your life with someone you truly love... it's nice sharing beautiful and not so beautiful things with her... we have been together for five years and 1 month and we have decided to live together four years ago... i love her, i really do.. i wouldn't trade her with anyone or anything else in this world...
• United States
9 Apr 10
I'm glad you and your lover are very happy together. =) All relationships need work so it is to be expected that you girls share hard times together. Wow, I can't believe how long you two have been together. Are you two every planning to tie the knot? Have you only been with women your whole life?
@razim17 (194)
• Malaysia
7 Apr 10
For me it is absolutely being single.It has so much freedom but it kinda get lonely sometimes but you should have some girls around too.Its fun to be in a relationship too but i prefer to be single.
• United States
7 Apr 10
To each his own Razim. I'm glad you like being free. You're right it is fun to have girls to hang out with. If one has a jealous girlfriend then they might not be able to hang out with girls as much. It's fun to mess around while you'r still young!! We all have time to get serious with a relationship when there's time.
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
There are already a lot of people especially women who prefers to be single these days. They dont wanna be attached to somebody and they are enjoying their lives as single ladies. There are advantages I think cause there are so many people who wanted to enjoy their lives cause they dont have to think about other people but themselves. My sister is still single and she is enjoying her life a lot. She's got a lot of money and she has so many savings. Sometimes I think she never worries at all.
• United States
7 Apr 10
Lol, that reminds me of the song "single ladies" by Beyonce. You said my sister is single, does that mean you're taken? It sounds like you miss single life. I think it is fun to be single if someone is active and goes clubbing and flirts. I think if one's single life is boring then I think that person should get a bf/gf. One should get a bf/gf or not depending on their life styles and situation.
@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
Yes thats true some other people just like to be in a relationship for companionship not yet for the real deal .But hey just as the other topics and all it still depends on everybody's decision and beliefs.In my point i would rather be in a relationship,i think life is much more meaningful if you have someone to share it with. I dont havea anything against single guys and girls out there for i dont know the reason why they are single but having someone to share every smile every laughter and even tears is much more exciting and fun too. Have a great day!
• United States
7 Apr 10
Some people want to be single, so as to not have to deal with the drama that comes with relationships. Another reason to be single is to be free to flirt and mess around with anyone they want to. Young people especially like to be single, it is not only until one starts to feel the years pressing that being in a relationship and one day getting married becomes important. You have a wonderful day yourself. I love our communication. ;)
• Philippines
7 Apr 10
I've almost thought about just being single maybe.. I don't want to cling on someone that I'm not self-assured. I don't wanna be wasted. I'm just enjoying my freedom now, I got time for myself but in a certain time or in some ways that you need someone to express your feelings. Yeah, in other way around its a good thing if you are in a relationship 'cause its more inspiring but hope not distracting. So better choose the one you wanna be with. The one will uplift you along the way, not to turn you down, right? But if you really want an exciting, fun just go on take a bite. It depends upon one's decision what he/she wanna be.
• United States
7 Apr 10
Yes, sometimes relationships can be distracting to the other things you had going on in your life before that. It'll be good for someone who has a lot of free time who does not do anything to get into a relationship, however relationships might not be good for busy people. Busy people have a lot of things going on and must either sacrifice the relationship or other prior commitments and relationships with family and friends in order to make the new relationship work. I just feel that people always feel that the grass is greener on the other side, in other words if one is in a relationship they often think of what it feels like to be single and if one is single they often wonder or want to be in a relationship. We live in a society today that always wants what we don't have, hence capitalism rules much of the world.
@monkeylong (3147)
• Guangzhou, China
7 Apr 10
As far as I am concerned, I think I would rather be in a relationship ,which can me a lot of comfort and happiness.I just want to have a someone to be with ,and enjoy the happy time with her. If I am in alone, I think I will get annpying sometimes. I do not want the feeling happens to me.So I think a relationship with do.
• United States
7 Apr 10
Why do you get annoyed when you are alone? When I'm alone I'm lonely and when I'm with someone I end up matching beliefs and wits with someone. Sometimes, because they are not you and you do not completely understand them, to me that person can get annoying. I'm in a complicated relationship right now with a friend that I used to be together with. We act like we're together but we are not in a relationship. Sometimes relationships can be confusing.
• United States
6 Apr 10
There is something to say about having someone to share life with. Not just being there, but Being there for your partner. Trusting enough to talk about anything and everything, share stupid moments to monumental ones. Someone that will listen and actually hear what your saying. Those are what I thought I had a few times. I am single now, I have not the ambition to even date anyone. I just feel that I make the wrong choices and I end up getting hurt. I sit here and wonder if there is such a person for myself to be able to just sit with, be with, enjoy life with. Argue with to understand our own differences and able to respect each for that. For some, they find that and last a life time together, like my grandparents, my grandmother was 14 when she married my grandfather and was with him until she passed at 65. They were about 15 years apart, but you couldn't tell it. I loved being with them. I have met other couples like that, younger ones, that you just know, they will be together forever.. Myself well, the future is ahead, I leave that to God's hands.
• United States
7 Apr 10
God indeed does work in mysterious ways. I believe that there is at least one person out there for someone and if not, you still have your friends and family to love. My dad is 55 years old but divorced, so he does not have anyone to love except his two sons, me and my brother. The greatest gift that I can give to him is to be a good son and to not fight with my brother. He has lived a content life and I intend to be with him for the rest of his life here on earth. Good luck to you and all your endeavors. =)