A piece of advice...
April 8, 2010 8:00am CST
Are you a person who likes to advise people what to do? What advise do you often give" I often advise people about children. I deal with little children every day and I talk to the mothers about them. Some parents often feel so worried about their three year old son who does not know how to recite the alphabet. It's funny but of course a three year old boy is just starting to learn things on his own so it is not impossible for him not to know the alphabet. Parents are sometimes too excited to see their young child be able to read a book which is not good. Children are individuals with different learning abilities so what John can do does not mean that Jane can also do. Share with this discussion and tell us what advice you often give to others.
9 Apr 10
It's hard to be an "adviser" -- they see you as a "wise sage" it's a little burdensome. I actually advise other people on different issues, solicited and unsolicited it rarely matters as long as I am concerned with the person. They somehow feels that I'm doing a good job in telling people what to do on the contrary they expect me to do that every time. They also think that I'm a person who isn't affected by any problems. They think I can do great without any help from anyone. But the fact is I also get to a point wherein I don't know where to go.
9 Apr 10
On the other hand many people don't see the fact that the "advisers" also need some help in their life. They also has problems to overcome and they also need people who will help them along the way. They think the "advisers" are tough, that they are going to come out with flying colors every time but the truth is we (advisers) are just like any other people.
10 Apr 10
That's very true louierrific. Perhaps because they think you are an expert at giving advice so they think you can solve your own problems. They don't understand that people who are good at advising are people who have also the same problems but who know how to handle them. Thanks.
8 Apr 10
Hi Masmasika, I don't think I advise people that often, or if I do I don't do it in a clearly advise given way. I don't like being advised too much, it feels like interfering. So when it comes to giving advise I do it I the way I like to receive advise, namely through experiences. If someone is asking me what to do in a certain situation then I will tell them of a situation I have been in that was similar and what I did and then I allow them to take what they need (if anything) from what I have said. Same too, when I speak to people and I hear stories about experiences from them I learn and use that knowledge as advise later on. I find it better that way because I don't get insulted or think the person is patronising me when they aren't. Also it makes me feel closer to the person because I know a little more about them and them about me. All the best, Dranz
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8 Apr 10
I try not to give advice if its not asked for (however I do always give my opinion)...BUT ppl tend to come to me quite often for advice in life on a wide variety of things from child-raising, to relationship advice to spiritual or religious advice and so on....I never claim or try to come across as a know it all but I have a LOT of life experience to back up what I say and being the analytical person I am I can easily see a situation from various angles which helps..
8 Apr 10
actually its easy to think of advise to other people and easy to tell them that everything is fine and ok and just forget it and etc. but once it happens to us then thats the only time we realize that its not really easy. so someone have problem and ask me for help i just let her talk first everything and let her cry as it help a lot to relieve what she felt inside, then after that i will ask the question back to her and let her decide instead, and i will just listen.
8 Apr 10
I usually advice from what I have learned and other info's that I recommended which I may say is a good advice. Weak people follow stonger ones. Those who need help not just observe or wait for it, they should asks and be assured to receive it. Good advices can be seen from someones fruits.
8 Apr 10
I don't really give that much advise. If only someone asks me for advice, that's when i give some. I'm not that good in giving advice though. I just think about the situation when i'm in it then formulate my own way of solving it then tell it to them.