Can you pretend to people that you're ok even it's not?

@markmoney (2868)
Philippines
April 8, 2010 11:11am CST
There are people like that, you cannot see on their faces that they have problems, specially those ones who likes to smile a lot. Are you one of those? Can you pretend to people that you're ok even the truth is not. Me, I find it hard to pretend that I'm ok if I'm really not. It's hard for me to smile if there's a pain inside me. My face is quite transparent. You will see on my emotions if I'm ok or not. How about you, can you pretend to people that you're ok even it's not? I would be glad to hear from you. Have a nice day! Happy myLotting!
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28 responses
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
8 Apr 10
Yes sweetie, i am a proffesional when it comes to that. I hate sharing my problems, so i just pretend that i am fine. TATA.
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@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
Good for you Saph! It's good that you can solve your problems alone. Actually I also tend not to share my problems sometimes, but the problem is I'm not really good in pretending that I'm ok, even if I do, the real feelings can still be seen. Thank you for your response. Happy myLotting!
• Hong Kong
9 Apr 10
Hello saphrina, I think so, I don't want people worry about me, that's why I like smiling.
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• Philippines
8 Apr 10
I am one of those people. Hypocrite, they might tell me. I don't want to ruin people's days because of something bad that happened to me. That is why I keep a face. Poker Players like me are trained to be this way. A smile can change somebody's day so smile even though deep done, it burns. Have a nice day as well :)
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
Hi joe! I admire those kind of people. You are very good in hiding your feelings. You can pretend and act opposite of what you really feels. I guess you can be considered actors. Lol! Thank you for your response. Happy myLotting!
@bunmi2501 (465)
• Nigeria
8 Apr 10
Sometimes you really need some inner strenght not to allow whatever is going on inside you to come out, it is not really pretending but you need to learn how to master your emotions, but if you really got pains in your body, then boy you cant hide it, its got to show all over you, for me, emotionally, I like to handle my stuff inside, but physically, it just shows.
• Hong Kong
9 Apr 10
Hello bunmi2501 That's right to learn how to strengthen our mind and should have control our emotion, that's the way to care about others' feeling and learn how to handle problems by ourselves.
@mishyyu (217)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
I always keep a straight face when I have to pretend that I'm ok and confident, even I'm already freaking out inside. I usually do it when I was nervous on something but I have to do it and surpass it, most especially when I'm at work, even I don't feel good on a certain situation or with someone, I don't show it on my face, I just keep a straight expression, like no feeling at all, that way, it doesn't disrupt me from working and it won't create a major scene especially when nosy people observes me..
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
Everyone can pretend. Of i can pretend that i'm ok. It's an advantage for me cuz i always want to deal with my problems alone. As much as possible, i don't want anyone finding it out.
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
8 Apr 10
Hi frontvisions! Yes, there are really people who likes to keep their problems to their selves. It's good that you can solve your problems alone. I'm also like that actually, but I'm just not good in pretending. Thank you for your response. Happy myLotting!
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• Brazil
10 Apr 10
Yes, I can! I made theater classes when was a child, so I kind of learnt to pretend some things, and hide my feelings is one of them. Because I don't like the people worrying about me, they have problem enough in their lives, why care about the mine? No... I don't like to show if I'm bad and don't like to feel bad. I try the maximum to feel good even I'm not, it makes me better and help to cure the wound fast.
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
When I am not okay you can see it on my face. When i am feeling bad like i feel a pain in my body, you can see it through my eyes and lips. When I am angry it is shown in my face and I move away from people. I don't talk when I am feeling bad about something. I let my anger in writing or by screaming in a private place. I don't pretend. I only pretend in front of my bosses. I let my true self out eversince and my friends and family knows it.
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
I wear my heart on my sleeve every single day, so unfortunately, I'm not good at pretending. although sometimes I get humiliated that my co-workers can see how upset I am. sigh. I am working on it, though.
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
I wear my heart on my sleeve every single day, so unfortunately, I'm not good at pretending. although sometimes I get humiliated that my co-workers can see how upset I am. sigh. I am working on it, though.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Apr 10
It really depends on the people that I am around whether or not I am able to hide my emotions. When I am around people that I'm not really that close to, then I am able to hide my feelings. However, when I am surrounded by the people that are the closest to me, it is something that I'm not able to do. The reason for this is that the people that I spend the most time with are able to read me much like reading a book.
• China
9 Apr 10
Well,I should say I am learning to be a person like that but i jsut can say I haven't made it so far.When I feel bad ,I do no want shouw it to others ,but it's no so easy to do this.I try my best to pretend myself.I am not sure if others can smell it out cause I usually look terrible when I feel upset though I do hope not.
@arakawaii (270)
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
I can't hide my emotion, yet I am not also the type that would share my probs. Whenever I feel down, I keep it to myself and dont share it to my friends because sharing it to other people would just make me weak and I hate me being weak!
@khalida (1126)
• India
9 Apr 10
well i can pretend like i am okay in a very convincing way. only people close to me can sometimes sense that there is something wrong with me. but then i think sometimes its better to show your foul mood, otherwise when people bug you a little bit itself you would get angry and they would misunderstand you!
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
Lately, I've been having lots of problems. One of my staff came to know about this when my husband called the office and said something. She said that she didn't notice that I'm having problems. Actually what my husband told her was just one of those problems. But, fortunately, now that I've gained strength of character, I am now more able to handle these. My way of approaching it started when I had a very difficult financial problem two years ago that I almost wanted to die. Why? Because I felt that there's nobody who could help me. I felt very much alone in my struggle. What I did was to clear my thoughts and analyzed the situation. I said to myself, that this problem might bring shame to me but I had no choice except to face it squarely. I said to myself that I'm a brave person, and my favorite term that I coined was "head on collision". Since then I've learned that there's "no problem that can't be solved" and that "I'm bigger than my problems".If we just look back to all the difficulties that we've encountered before, we'll just laugh at ourselves. Although there are some instances in my life that I also feel depressed. People around me will notice that I don't open the internet. What I do in times like this is to relax or get some sleep. Then after wards I'll say to myself. "Okay that's enough. I'm back!" Cheers!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
9 Apr 10
I can not put on a fake smile for long before it falters and my true feelings start to show. I try my hardest to just grin and bear it when I am down but sometimes it's easier to just let it all out and then be okay after that. I don't think it's quite fair anyway to be put on a charade because you could burst and then get mad at someone and things turn bad.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
I can't pretend to be somebody that I'm not or be fine even not. If I feel pain I can hide it. Pain is the only feelings I can hide. Beside pain is also love. I prefer to hide my feeling of pain and love. But every thing else. What you see is what you get.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
I'm a person who doesn't smile all the time- but i do smile..so it's not obvious if I'm angry. I also hide my feelings because I think I need to.
@cloud31 (5809)
9 Apr 10
For me depends on the situation and people around me, I can simply say I can carry myself when I'm not ok especially when I'm dealing with people about business or in some any other situation. But when It comes to my friends and person close to my heart I cannot pretend myself to be ok when I'm not I usually tell them when I'm not ok and its for them to understand how to deal with me and my emotions,when I say I'm not ok its for real,I don't pretend for them since I don't want to hurt the relationship and they have to know what makes me feel that way and its their turn to mend if they were the reason and cause of my resentment.Happy muLotting
@jinjer168 (1596)
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
Hello mark, well i can pretend to people that im okay but deep inside, im not, but it all depends in the situation im into or the people i am with and the severity of my emotions inside. For example, if me and my husband got into an argument or fight of the century and then suddenly his cousin will knock on our door, i can pretend that nothing happens between us because we don't want others to talk about our misunderstandings but if in case that the problems we got was so severe, then ill just hide myself in our bedroom for i can't pretend that im okay anymore because what im feeling was already serious.
@shivhae (51)
• Netherlands
9 Apr 10
I can pretend pretty good myself at most times. If i dont want people to see that i have problems or when i feel bad they wont notice it on me im the kind of person that goes on and on and on. It takes really someone whos good at it to see that theres something going on and i dont have any of those around me any more. But if im angry and i want people to know ya then they see a thunder cloud above my head. But if i have some personal problems i keep them to myself and just go on with what i always do without them knowing or notice