Meeting with friends, iy you have tight budget, would you still go?

Philippines
April 8, 2010 6:14pm CST
Due to conflict in schedules, me and my friends find it difficult to see each other to catch up. But recently, they planned to meet to have coffee at starbucks accessible to all of us. At that time, I really did not have enough money but since I really want to see my friends, I told my partner that it's okay, we can go and it does not mean that we have to spend. So he agreed and when we fetched my best friend, I told my best friend that we did not have enough money because or budget was really tight. My best friend offered to treat us since her birthday was upcoming. I really felt so happy at that time because even if I did not ask for it she still offered. That was the way we used to do if one of us does not have enough, then someone takes over. I just told her that I'll make it up to her, she smiled and told me "what are friend for". It made me smile and we enjoyed the rest of the evening talking and planning and it all went fine. How about you, would you still go even if you even don't have a cent?
8 responses
• United States
8 Apr 10
Yes! Any gathering of caring friends is worth going to! Most of the time going to a coffee shop with me and my friends means, let's meet at the coffee shop and take a walk and catch up.
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
Yeah we also go to coffee shops to do some catching ups or if we do have some extra money we eat out. And we make long term plans so we still have time to save money. At times drink at a friend's house so that it would be cheaper.
• United States
11 Apr 10
I understand that. We have karaoke parties at the house about once a month. We never know who will come, it's always fun. The one day we had 20 people crammed in our tiny house.
@oxio10 (135)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
Depends on the situation. Sometimes if its cost nothing then I'll just go anyway if one of your friends invite me for a treat then its safe. But if the situation is like bring your own then I don't have enough, I better reject my friend and just make a promise to catch up with them the next time.
• Philippines
15 Apr 10
Really, what if they offer to take over for the mean time? Would you still not go? At times, your true friends are willing to shoulder for you first if they have just so that they will be able to spend time and some fun with you. What do you think?
@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
It entirely depends with the situation. I can always find a way somehow to borrow money from my sister or my parents if I really don't have money when my friends wants to meet me. Maybe my ego and pride would not let me have my friends pay for my foods. But if they will insist and they have much higher salary I will go for it. Spending time with friends is one of my happiness in life. I remember one time we have a summer vacation that was out of time in a far away beach. I need to bring pocket money but I don't have money at that time. My best friend lend me money and I was able to go and enjoy bonding moments with my friends.
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
Really? But I understand where you're coming from. Guys are really like that-ego and pride. But if they insist just to spend time and have fun with you, then why not right? You can always make it up if you have the extra money right? Good day!
@Yula015 (71)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
I would not.There are many times that I can go with them so I dont wanna risk my budget just to chill and have fun.This is one of my problems nowadays.Im still a student and also have an exact budget for school.I hate it when some of my friends invites me exactly at the time that I have no money to spend.haha
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
I was also like that when I was still in school. I really feel shy whenever I needed to ask money from my mom for gimmicks. But then, I learned to save and use that money if I wanted to go out with my friends. At present, if you are already earning your money, it really has to be spent wisely.
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
yes i would still go and i'll be honest to tell them that im on a tight budget. They would understand im sure..just like your friend they would tell what friends are for. Im lucky to have a friend that i have now.
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
Yes me too, I just had to say that we are in a tight budget because what if they would think of going somewhere after having coffee?It feels so relieving that even if we rarely see each other, we still have the same bond and this was not the first time that they are more than willing to cover for any one of us who are really in a tight budget. I just feel so proud to have known and to be with the friends I have now. We've been friends for almost 10 years and counting and what I can say is that nothing compares to them.
@atv818 (1988)
• United Arab Emirates
8 Apr 10
Good for you. It's nice to enjoy to be treated by friends and unwind. I had been through financial difficulties for over a year now. Once or twice, seen friends through get-together and everything was free because they know my condition. Lately, I had declined several invitations because I don't want them to think that I'm taking advantage of them by using my current situation. I know that I'll be out of this rut soon and I have plans to return their good gesture. What goes around, comes around, right?
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
Yes it feels good that in friendship, money really is not a big fuss. Just as we spend time, do some catching ups then everything is fine. Money nowadays is very hard to earn, that is why I cannot afford to lose my job.
• China
8 Apr 10
I think I will not go to have coffee with my friend ,if I have tight budget except my best friend. because common friend ,do not usually check for you ,long time he will dislike you ,but the best friend understand you ,he will support you.
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
It's not necessarily my best friend who shells out money, my other friends would also do the same.It just so happened that it was my best friend who texted me and I told her that I really have a tight budget and she offered to cover for me and my partner as well.
@kyleuy (271)
10 Apr 10
Yes, I would still go and same goes with my friends if they are the one in that position. We never let money be an issue for us not to see each other because our friendships worth is way more expensive than money and it cant even be replace by monetary value. It is automatic in our circle of friends that the group will share to cover the expenses for the one who doesn't have enough dough because the experience is way better when we are complete as compared to if someone is missing. Friends are treasures that can never be replaced while money is just a thing than can be earned back again. :)