Does it bother you when people just jump in your conversations?

@newtalent (1114)
United States
April 9, 2010 6:41pm CST
If I am talking to you then I do mind it much, but when I am in a public and having a conversation with someone, I cannot stand it when another human being jumps in our conversation. Today was one of those days. I was irritated but could deal with it. The conversation was nothing spectacular just a lot of garbage making the time and all go by faster. Does this happen and do you get irritated, or do you just start having a conversation to a perfect stranger like you knew them for years? That is what happened to us and we were a little bothered by it and could cut her off by telling her it was a private conversation. It was like talking to the wall.
14 responses
@nehmer (609)
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
Yeah it really bothers me especially when i talk to my crush and your conversation just started and some other guy just jumps to the conversation. i just wanna really punch him in the face.. but you cannot do it because your crush is watching^^ haha.. maybe tell the person directly next time he or she butts in that it bothers you. be frank dude :p hahaha
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@newtalent (1114)
• United States
11 Apr 10
Right?????? People just cannot take a hint or have no clue sometimes. No we cannot get violent, lol especially when were trying to make a good impression on someone, we tried, no clue whatsoever... It is like she was from another planet, she continued to talk, talk and we left, lol. thanks for responding.
@clocks123 (1228)
• United States
10 Apr 10
i have to admit i do jump in on conversations at times. i want my point of view to get across. it in rude, i know. i get irritated when others jump in on my conversations, too. i feel belittled because they don't respect what i am saying. i better think before i speak so i don't blurt out my opinion. it is a process.
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@newtalent (1114)
• United States
11 Apr 10
I try not to, especially if i am asked or told it is a private conversation. I understand sometimes it is hard though, i really do. It is a process to stop doing this action, and it is a good quality to have. if we are waiting in a line it easy to start having a conversation, i would not mind that too much but not sitting down. Maybe that is what i felt too when it happened to me, I know I was upset. I should have just calmly got up and moved or left without letting interfere with my psyche............ Thanks for responding.
• United States
10 Apr 10
It all depends on the conversation and the circumstances surrounding the interruption in the discussion. If we are standing in a long line waiting for something and a friend and I are just talking about random stuff to pass the time, then I wouldn't mind someone jumping into the conversation. If we are discussing something personal, though, and someone just walks by and puts their two cents worth into the conversation, then it would probably bother me.
@newtalent (1114)
• United States
11 Apr 10
No if we are in a line or something like that I do not mind either. We were sitting down in like a an atrium and having a conversation that this person invited herself to join. I mean she sat down with us and proceeded to take over the conversation like we were best friends or something. We were a bit shocked, i could not do that at all. Thanks,.
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• United States
11 Apr 10
Yes, that is quite weird, and I can understand why it would bother you. When you know the circumstances of the situation, then it makes it a lot easier to determine whether or not it would bother you. In your case, I might think that the person is either a busy-body or just extremely lonely and trying to find anybody to talk with. There are some situations that lend themselves to strangers starting up or including themselves in conversations, such as standing in a long line waiting or sitting near each other on a train or bus, and then it really seems more normal. When you are sitting in a park or atrium or something like that taking a break and talking with a friend, though, then it is an entirely different matter.
@allknowing (69418)
• India
11 Apr 10
I would not get irritated but would merely size up that stranger who barges in. It would be like an uninvited guest and that is how I would treat her.
@newtalent (1114)
• United States
11 Apr 10
Yeah we tried that , she just kept going on until we got up and left. i think that is rude, especially when you ask the person kindly to butt out. we told that we were having a conversation and can you please let continue privately. Nope she kept on, we left.
@geniustiger (1699)
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
I got this case also but just look at her and find out why she jump w/ our conversation. I will stop and listen how important is the topic she is inserted in the private talk we had. After listening I can found out that it is needed okay goes with it. But if it is not so vital I tell someone ,, let's go back to the topic until she can notice that the thing we have talked is very important. I just respect her and observe then do what is best.
@newtalent (1114)
• United States
11 Apr 10
That is a good idea. i did not think of that. i think we or i just was in shock at first by her actions that I really could not see passed that. May be I will try that next time, thanks.
@monkeylong (3146)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Apr 10
As far as I am concerned, I think if there si some one that just jump in my conversation, I think I will get so upset.Beacuse he may have disturb my speach a lot. I may not remember to say the words that I have been prepared,and do not know what to say the next.
@newtalent (1114)
• United States
11 Apr 10
That is true, you do lose your train of thought or where you where going with the topic. Its the suggestion or telling the person that this is a private conversation, please let us continue without your remarks, interjections, or putting your two cents in it. This is true you do forget how to phrase thing when you get caught off guard.
@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Apr 10
newtalent I am with you, when I am having a one on one conversation with a friend, and a stranger breaks in it is very annoying. I do not mind on mylot as that's a whole different thing, but in real life, its rude to butt in, at least the person could ask do you mind if I say so and so, thus giving you the opportunity to tell them politely yes this is a private conversation. Some strangers just do not get it at all, while others will say pardon me, not get angry and just walk away.
@newtalent (1114)
• United States
11 Apr 10
Hi Hatley, That's is exactly what I am saying. Some rude people out there.
@doormouse (4619)
9 Apr 10
it depends what mood i'm in,i like to hear everyones opinion on things,what does annoy me is if i'm chatting with friends and someone comes in the room and butts in,coz they have'nt heard the whole conversation so don't really know what you're going on about,also when your kids start chatting when you're trying to have a conversation,my sons terrible for doing that
@newtalent (1114)
• United States
11 Apr 10
I have a child that demands our undivided attention when she speaks, it drive her dad crazy. I can deal with her because she is my child. I can talk to her and tell her give me a few minutes, but total strangers taking over my conversation, no. thanks for sharing.
@jugsjugs (13045)
9 Apr 10
This happens alot of the time and it gets on your nerves after a while.I think it is worse if it is always the same old people who but into the conversation.I find it really funny when the person who buts in do not know what they are on about aswell, or better still thinks they know what they are on about and you know that they do not have a clue at all.
@newtalent (1114)
• United States
9 Apr 10
This was a perfect stranger that decided to engage in our conversation and proceeded to basically sit down next to us and carry the conversation with her experiences, how she solved it and so forth. We kindly informed her that we were talking to each other and would appreciate it if she would let us continue where we left of alone without her interfering. Please leave us alone. We had to get up and leave to get her to stop. That was annoying.
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@nitu1952 (286)
• India
10 Apr 10
no it does not bother to me when people just jump in my conversation. it all depends upon the current situation. if we are sitting in the whole public then if anyone interrupts in between then one have to face such situation. so it's all depends upon the current environment or situation
@jabzzz (9)
• India
10 Apr 10
This matter is very common and it is very annoying.we cant tell people directly to stay away from it as they may be our friends.In this condition i discontinue the conversation if i think it is not good to carry it on in front of other peoples and sometimes it is good to involve other people in our conversation so that they can give their valuable suggestions
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
I think it is very unethical to just butt in an ongoing conversation most especially if these people are not very close to you Some people just have to know when to keep their shut their mouth and that they must realize that their opinions are not necessary at all times. I get irritated too by those kind of people.People who are so opinionated. (^_^)
@razim17 (194)
• Malaysia
10 Apr 10
I know some of these kind of people.They are just not bothered about their attitude that affects other people.One time i was not in the mood to tolerate,I directly talked to him and he just walks away and get mad for it.They just dont get it how much they are interfering in other people's life.
@reco13 (605)
• Philippines
10 Apr 10
It does not bother me at all. I think I even like this than people not minding what I am saying. Joining in the conversation means they are interested, right? So just be patient the next time it happens to you... :)