Does Love Exist without Trust?

Philippines
April 10, 2010 12:58pm CST
I've been in a relationship for almost three years. As time goes by, i realize that we have different point of views in life and different priorities but i'm aware that the love still there. The problem is when we quarrel he keep blaming me from my past til i found out that until now he didn't trust me at all where in the first place he is aware of who i am and that i have a son from my ex-b. So what do you think? Does love exist without trust?
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
10 Apr 10
No, trust is very important in any relationship. Without that there cannot really be anything. I can understand that you love him, but if he doesn't trust you, what is the use. TATA.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
11 Apr 10
Hey mirajean! That is a very difficult question to answer! I am not really sure if love can exist without trust! I also am in a relationship with a man who has been in prison for 13 years, out for 3, has children, most that he has nothing to do with, long story and he is very secretive and private while I am the opposite! I tell him everything, just about! He keeps all his personal stuff to himself and I don't totally trust him and we live together for almost 3 years now! He is almost off parole and I am afraid he is going to leave me (we live together and I am 11 years older then him and he is black and I am white). I am very worried because I love him and he loves me, but not in the same way or not as much so I am taking a big chance and have been and he could walk out on me in a minute! So, you think that only you have problems? How would you like to be in my shoes? And I'm alot older than you!
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• Philippines
12 Apr 10
Oh really, will your story was unique.... maybe you just LOVE that person, that's it. No matter what happen just don't lose hope. Sometimes love is cruel, it doesn't matter if you gave everything for him but the most important things you showed him how much he means to you. Maybe love exist without trust sometimes. :)
• United States
11 Apr 10
There's love and there's LOVE. The Greeks have several words that all express a different kind of love. But if you want a love that will grow and change with you and give you what you need all of your life, there must be trust. Love allows for different points of view, but it doesn't allow one point of view to overbear another. If he really loves you, he will seek to stop the 'blaming' and strive for understanding, and you will be ready to forgive when he fails. It will take effort on both parts, but if you really love, trust is a part of the equation that will make it a committed love
• Philippines
11 Apr 10
hi! for me love never exist without trust. Trust is the prime factor why people fall inlove with each other. If there's a story between a person who love a person in the absense of love well that's need to be investigate (laugh) but anyway. if you want to be loved in return always put your trust on him or her.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
11 Apr 10
Well, when its true love it means its a trustful relation. When its not love, then there will be happiness for some time and untrustful times for the rest of life. Example, me and my wife loved for 7 years and got married. We do have differnce of opinions, but above all we trust each other. We never feel the love is less or low. So we feel the trust in each other through our love. We never lose trust as both of our thoughts are difference. love gives the acceptance each other and mutual trust. If no trust, then i think its not a love at all.
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• Philippines
11 Apr 10
Love and trust are two different things but absolutely related and should always go together in any kind of relationship. But I would say love would exist without trust. Because love is the feeling that you feel towards yourself and to others. And you can continue to love a person no matter what or whoever/whatever he/she maybe. As you said, you are still aware that love is still there, so it means even if he doesn't trust you, he still love you, so love do exist. What had gone is the true essence of your relationship, that both of you should really talk about.
• India
11 Apr 10
nolove does not exist without love
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• India
11 Apr 10
Love doesn't mean without trust. If such a love exists then it is not a love. The base of Love and Friendship is Trust
• Philippines
11 Apr 10
For me, I don't think it's possible to love anybody and not trust him/her. It's like a pair of socks, they always come together. A relationship cannot survive without it because distrust keeps the eyes and ears closed to any explanation. It can make simple things complicated. It can go to the extent of poisoning one's mind and eventually make the heart numb resulting to decreasing affection. Even if you have enough trust, but if your partner lacks it, you cannot have a happy and fulfilling relationship - this you need to tell him if you want to stay with it. Good luck and God bless! :)
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
11 Apr 10
Love and trust are needed in so many different relationships. I don't see how a meaningful relationship can survive without both love and trust. It's like asking the sun not to shine.
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
11 Apr 10
once trust been broken it hard to get it back.when a mate do somthing dishonest it hard to trust them again. it like that little voice questionong everything your mate does.and the sad part is the dishonest mate don,t understand why u feel the way you do.which is sad.you will even question the love they claim they have for you.
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@sani30 (35)
• Philippines
11 Apr 10
i always believe that trust is the foundation of every relationship. love is given for every lovers, they should keep working to build trust to one another. love cannot exis without trust because it is intertwined with one another. you do not love a person if you do not trust him/her. maybe in the long run, the absence of trust can ruin your relationship.
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• Philippines
11 Apr 10
Hi I personally think that love w/o trust has no firm foundations. So, for love to last; we must trust our partners and choose wisely. hope this helps :D
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@mimiang (3777)
• Philippines
11 Apr 10
It is futile relationship if there is no trust
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• India
11 Apr 10
TRUST and UNDERSTANDING are the important factors of any relationship. LOVE, or any other relationship doesnt exist without them i believe.
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• Philippines
11 Apr 10
Trust is very important in every relationship with out it a relationship is doomed for failure. Where will love lead you both if he has fears, worries and doubts on you? This will just end up with both of you fighting over it over and over again. I think you bf has to let go of the past and try to move on. What is important is the present and how both of you handle your relationship. Godbless!!
• India
11 Apr 10
No, trust is the base for any relationship, whether its husband and wife, parents, lovers or any. You gain the trust not in a day or 2 day, its gained with the time and it takes true efforts to build the trust in relations. I feel that love cannot survive for longer without trust and mutual understanding. We should give space in all relations and respect each others opinions. Be true to yourself and the one who love. Trust is base for love:)
@marianna45 (1400)
• Romania
11 Apr 10
Trust is essential in any working relationship, especially in love relationships. But yes .... love can exist without trust, you can fall in love with a murderer, you can be in love with a married person ... love is not very smart, and not ask questions. Love exist without trust, and sometimes is more powerful, just because what is forbidden is more sweet...but a relation without trust can t be foe ever, in one day will ended, just because don t have a future, if both, who are involved are not equal in love, equal honest, equal correct.
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• India
11 Apr 10
naahhh....trust is d only answer to a successful relationship!!! ;)
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• India
11 Apr 10
trust any relation should have trust . there should be metual understanding then only the relation comes true and that will end in a good manner
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