False alarm

Philippines
April 11, 2010 1:19pm CST
have you ever been stalked? like followed by someone? maybe a secret admirer, or an ex co-worker, or a friend, or maybe an old lady? lol. the last one is just creepy. anyway, how will you handle this situation if ever this happens? i've met with my ex girlfriend earlier. we had a short conversation during lunch. y'know, catching up with each other and after that we went home. after i arrived, she called me saying that she's being followed by someone so i immediately rushed back to her. when i finally got there, the guy was gone. she had a security guard with her, whom she had nagged apparently, cuz she was so afraid at that moment she needed protection. i was thinking, a stalker in broad daylight, that's pretty dumb. then her brother called her saying she has to go to an establishment to buy something then he added that he thought he saw her walking along the street to their house a couple of minutes earlier. she said she was walking along there but she took a little detour cuz someone was stalking her. her brother asked what the stalker was wearing. she said 'black cap, green shirt, denim pants and sandals' then her brother hung up. a couple of minutes more, he showed up with the exact same description. it was a false alarm. lol. but when a real stalker stalks you, what could you have done?
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@mishyyu (217)
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
I used to experience some stalker situations when I was younger, I remember when I was still 14 yrs old, I was with my mom at the mall strolling around at the greeting cards area, and there were three college guys apparently following me, I then realized that they were really targeting me in a perverted way when my mom left me and went to the other side of the rack, and I was alone in between two display racks of greeting cards and these college guys went in to join me to blocked my way out, they were pretending they were reading some cards while I was trying to shoved past them to exit, and I noticed that they were smiling like they really like it, I was really really scared.. imagine at that age I kind of felt harassed.. that was my first kind of stalker experience, but there was this "real" stalker experience at my work in a bank, this is quite a long story, it happened three years ago.. one day, I received a phone call from an anonymous guy asking me to be his date for a special formal event in a hotel that he said we were invited by some random selections and he is going to send me the invitation.. I pretended to jot down the details of the party and told him politely that I won't give him the assurance that I will come, so he just said its ok and just call again tomorrow for my confirmation, then ended the call professionally.. after a few days, I didn't receive a call from him, I was even planning to get his name because I forgot to ask him, however, he didn't call anymore so I felt so relieved not to worry about some strange calls from a stranger.. however, on my day off, an officemate texted me that there's a guy who came at the branch and was looking for me, and surprisingly he knows my complete full name, she told him its my day off and asked him what he wants from me, he said he was there to fetch me for our date to a special event...and then I recalled that that evening was the night he told me for the event to take place, and it just so happen that eventually I was at the mall infront of the hotel where he said is the venue of the event, so on my way home, my mom was driving the car and as we passed along that hotel, I was looking through the glass windows and as far as I can see, there seem to be no event at all.. a week after that, there were several times our security guard called my attention that there's a guy watching me outside, and he doesn't want to come in when the guard asked him to and instead just keep looking at me through the glass doors.. from that moment I was so afraid to get out alone.. I don't even have a clue what this guy looked like because I don't even know how this started to happen, I don't have ex boyfriends because I never even have one since then.. so every time I heard a guy calling my name, my heart skips a beat because I was so nervous thinking its probably him.. as much as I'm afraid to, the confrontation finally happened, on that day, my supervisor asked me to accompany her to the atm machine outside, I told her that I was so nervous knowing that the strange guy was outside watching me according to our guard, so she asked the guard to go along with us, so as we went passed the door, I asked our guard if he's around, he said he probably left so I was relieved, however, as we went back to the branch, along the way, our guard suddenly said he's back again.. and I was so nervous that I kept on asking where he is, and then a strange old guy suddenly blocked our way.. omg.. I just couldn't breath normally, my throat was so so dry that I couldn't utter a word.. I was really that nervous, so my supervisor came to the rescue and did all the talking, she interviewed him about how he was able to know me, what was the special event for, and he was stuttering while giving us weird answers, and then on his hand was a small gift box, he said its for me, its a chocolate cake with a ring on it, finally I was able to say something, I told him I'm sorry I don't accept gifts, and he was still insisting, then my supervisor told him we're not allowed to accept gifts, and then he went a bit overboard when he suddenly went towards me forcing to accept his "indecent proposal" then our security guard blocked his way before he gets near me and shoved him aside... then we walked past him hurriedly... and as we went back inside the bank, I was so relieved and finally able to breath again.. it was a very terrifying experience.. and I started to recall where I had met him, and then I remembered at one time, he went inside the branch and came to me asking for the requirements on opening a bank account, and that was all there is, I didn't even sensed anything weird at that time.. so I guess that's how he saw me and became a stalker.. oh well, since then I keep on praying that I won't see his face again... it just creeps me out.. and so far, so good.
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• Philippines
13 Apr 10
Wow. Does it freak you out til now? That was kinda scary.
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@mishyyu (217)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
just the thought of seeing his face again freaks me out already... I just can't bear that to happen.. It was really a different feeling at that time, I just can't help myself from being paranoid every time I hear a guy's voice calling me or every time I sensed some guy approaching me.. I just can't believe how my body and emotions reacted, like it was kind of traumatic, I was only wishing that I have a boyfriend that time for someone to protect me and probably will discourage him.. I didn't tell this to my parents because I just don't want them to ground me like probably they might not allow me to go out on my own or with friends..
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• Philippines
1 May 10
You should just figure out what you should do in times like those. Maybe carry a pepper spray or something. Yeah, you definitely don't wanna be grounded cuz of that.
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@hexeduser22 (5854)
• Philippines
1 May 10
I've never been stalked nor I've stalked someone before. Does stalking from snatchers and robbers count? If it counts then I'm sure I have been stalked many times before This discussion lead me to a definite conclusion. I know now why you broke up, your ex girlfriend had some eye problems and you took advantage of it and when the girl finally got a clear vision of you, you broke up
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• Philippines
1 May 10
Nope. This discussion is actually all about you. You should stop stalking while you're drooling. At least stalk without spilling any saliva.
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• Philippines
2 May 10
How did you know that? I think you're stalking me to know such a vital information