why do girls always suspect something?

United States
April 11, 2010 10:12pm CST
mylots Today when i woke up at like 5 in the afternoon my girlfriend thought i was out all night with another girl. Now what is wrong with that guess lets see here i was posting on here till like what 10am or so i went to bed around 11am do you think i can just wake up at like 12 or something i need my sleep gosh women these days. Mylots every been in this kind of fight with your girl over some stupid guess she has?
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@polino (54)
13 Apr 10
girls always suspect something because some girls have high standards when it comes to trusting especially us guys, we cannot blame them for that though but girls should not generalize coz guys as we are we also do get hurt right. just hope that in the end both involved are open minded enough for explanations and discussions.
@cbjones (1147)
• United States
13 Apr 10
I've been in relationships with women who have been cheated on. I think when you go through something like that, you tend to see the worst in people. I've had to end said relationships because of those allegations. If there is no trust in a relationship, there's no hope for it to last long term. Sometimes it's best to check your paranoia at the door.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
12 Apr 10
Hi there, My guess is that your girl has been lied to and cheated on by someone in her past. Sleeping till 5 in the afternoon as a rule would suggest a late night of something. Sounds like she just jumped to conclusions which is wrong on her part. It would have been better if she'd just asked and let you explain. I mean, there are a lot of reasons that would come to mind if I found my boyfriend still asleep at that hour and the first would be to wonder if he was sick. Did you tell her that you were busy on here? You shouldn't have to prove it to her but you could. I dated a man that was so suspicious of everything I did. It was pretty annoying because I am a very faithful person and I did nothing that he needed to be worried about. The final straw was when I went to the store one afternoon to grab a few items. I was gone about 20 mins. I got home and he came knocking at my door very upset. He asked if I'd been anywhere and I told him the truth. Apparently he had been spying on me and was expecting me to lie. I got a note in my car telling me that he did not believe me. He said I looked guilty when I answered the door. I was surprised to see him. He had other evidence. There was a can of shaving lotion on the table and a towel draped over the chair and a thing of duct tape on the counter. Also, he looked in my car and there was a rag on the seat. In his mind it all added up to me going out for a quickie! Un-freakin-believable! I could have proven that I had just gone to the store and the shaving cream was one of the items I had bought.I could have explained the towel, the duct tape and the rag in the car but he chose to concoct his own dillusional story and I was tired of defending myself for stupid stuff like this all the time anyway so I just ended the whole problem. No more worries.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
12 Apr 10
There are a couple big reasons a person always suspects something. 1. Because something really is going on and 2. Because they feel guilty about something.
@jaz2009 (117)
• Sweden
12 Apr 10
Some women are advanced thinkers and easily get jealous especially when it comes to their boyfriend or partner. Like men, girls need attention and open communication. You should have informed her also about your activities. It sounds too much but atleast, she is aware that you're not flirting with other girls. Just try to understand her and love her. Just be used to that, because that kind of fight is always present if you are in a relationship. It is one of the challenges that will test both of you. I think, she loves you and she don't want to lose you. That's it! Have a wonderful day!
@mike19 (7)
• Portugal
12 Apr 10
tell me about it xD My ex gilfriend was jealous of my UNTY!!! Well.. she very beautifull.. and we are good friends.. but she was and is and will be my unty.. for gods sake.. these women xD
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
It's inate to us girls to become suspective of anything especially when it involves our man. See? I said "our man" because we're not only doubtful we are cute, possesive little darlings too. It's just a matter of getting used to it, and in no time, u'll find our peculiarities endearing and hard to live without. I could hear my husband saying "not again". Haha!
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
12 Apr 10
women more rely on their instincts rather than rely on reasonable mind. So naturally, if she preferred suspicious to you if your answers seem convoluted
@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
12 Apr 10
OH man, I wish I could serve your alibi because I replied to every single one of your posted discussions even the one when you said good night. I know for a fact you were busy last night and busy that is on MyLot. Yes I have been involved in nonsense fight based on female ill founded guesses. Why would she even think you were with another girl? Have you ever given her reasons to think that way?
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
i think its their way of knowing what's going on. they provoke you with their nonsense accusation to know the truth. it is a more effective means for them of getting some facts.
@dimple27 (31)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
women sometimes suspects you if you have not enough time with her.. sometimes, women just want someone who will throw attention to them..
@greyz7 (859)
• Philippines
12 Apr 10
hi there, women are good in intuition. when we suspect of something, it is not all but usually true. it is sometimes based on experiences. but more of the female's intuition. Just don't give your gf sign to doubt you.
• United States
12 Apr 10
she probably doesnt want to lose you :G
@ssxiona (91)
12 Apr 10
You should take more care about your GF. Different from boys, girls are more sensitive. In girls' mind, they wish someone that can protect them and they are afraid to lose something, so ...... Get more communication with your girlfriend. Do more things show your love to her.