How do you treat a stranger?

India
April 12, 2010 9:11pm CST
Hello dear members, Company of our friends always delights us the most. We feel comfortable when they are around. Also it is important how we treat them, as our relation depends on this. But this rule does not apply to the strangers we meet everyday. You really don't have to treat him so well, still most of us do. Most of us even treat him better than we do our familiar ones. Some people of course, are paranoid, and I think they have every right to be, in today's world. When an unknown face smiles at you, how do you feel? Do you feel delighted, irritated, paranoid, shocked? When he says "Hi", do you feel like calling 911? There are a hundred way to treat a stranger. We can treat them as strangers. We can treat them as if we've known them for a long time. We can also beat them to jelly and let the doctor treat them instead. How do you treat strangers? Feel free to comment. Thanks in advance for your response. God bless you all.
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18 responses
• China
13 Apr 10
Hi, there. It depends upon time, places, surroundings and what the stranger looks like, etc. Actually I pay little attention to strangers. Of course, most of the time I'll smile back if a stranger smiles at me. Just a smile, but you should be cautious especially when you're outside alone at night. :)
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• India
13 Apr 10
Hi, Yes, I totally agree. There is a good reason to be cautious. Smiling is good for yourself. It always brings an elevated feeling of confidence and satisfaction. Even smiling to strangers are good. Thanks so much for your response dear. A very warm welcome to myLot. God bless you
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@mokkka (883)
• Bulgaria
13 Apr 10
I also try to smile back each time...And really often I do this thing-smile to unknown people just to see their reaction.I love seing people happy and as far as I have notivced even one smile can change your whole day.If you start your day with a smile no matter if it is given or received from a stranger may make your whole day a positive one.
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• India
14 Apr 10
@mokkka It is really a great practice. Staying happy is a choice and finally our happiness depends on whether we are consciously choosing it. Smiling is a massive positive force. It spreads positivity and optimism within and without. Thanks for responding. God bless you
@dzeanne (79)
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
Personally,I don't talk to strangers, unless they talk to me first but I'm never the one to approach a stranger first. It's just that it's been hard for me to trust strangers since I've been robbed a lot of times since I was a kid.
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• India
15 Apr 10
Hi, You have been robbed? Oh dear, robbing a child sounds so terrible. Its okay if you don't approach first, but there are times and situations when a person has to get help in every way possible. Sometimes strangers come forward to help us and then they become our friends and stay with us for the rest of our lives. But, that is probably all governed by God. Thanks so much for your response. God bless you
@caiye786 (95)
• China
13 Apr 10
refers to a stranger,first i treat him or her a good person before he or she Do something on me,i am willing to help strangers when they come to me,in old china there was an old man kongzi,he said men is kind when he come to this world
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• India
15 Apr 10
Hi, I completely agree to what you said here. I also think that all men are born the same way, and that they are basically good human beings. Some of us are lost in wilderness. They can be back at the right track if guided properly. Thanks so much for your participation. God bless you
• India
13 Apr 10
I try to know more about him/her and then only let them know about me. It may be dangerous to disclose much about you to a stranger. It feels good when someone smiles at you even if you do not know him. But that carries some sense of confusion as to why that person is friendly to me. There are people who smiles at you for some cause and not just to make you feel good. Smiling is always good for all and there is no harm at smiling at someone but we should be careful as to how much value it may pass to the next person. May be someone misunderstood your smile and that can come back to you with some strange steps. Keep smiling with care :)
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• India
14 Apr 10
Hello Ajay, I completely agree. Even in order to introduce yourself, revealing too much may be a bit risky. Yeah, even when smiling at random strangers you must have a solid reason for that. I used to smile, not to any particular person. Its just that I had a high dose of meditation, and I felt strange euphoria all the time. So I smiled even when I was quite unaware of it. Then one of our new professors was offended. It was her first class. Thanks so much for your response. God bless you
@razim17 (194)
• Malaysia
13 Apr 10
I have this habit of being kind to strangers,some say it is harmful but i like the feeling of helping them and making them happy as someone are still concern about them.I treat the old strangers very well and it is delightful.
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• India
13 Apr 10
Hi, There is this saying that being with old people will make you calmer and indifferent, and being with children will keep you fresh and enlightened. Its nice to hear that you feel comfortable with old people. They are often the most neglected ones. Being kind to strangers is a virtue that you should be proud of. But there is certainly a need for being cautious. Thanks for this wonderful response God bless you
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• United States
13 Apr 10
Right after 911 I started saying hello to strangers, especially Muslim Americans. I wanted them to know I didn't blame them. Before I wouldn't say hello to anyone. Now I am polite to ant stranger I happen to meet.
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• India
13 Apr 10
Hi, I really appreciate your philanthropic attitude. Yes there is a need to remind these people that we are not taking them responsible for what is caused by a few extremists. Obama's speech to the muslim community played a vital role in global diplomacy. But we shouldn't be carried away by this philanthropy as none can be achieved by being deceived in being a medium of terror. Thanks so much for yet another wonderful contribution in my discussion. God bless you
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@npadecio (161)
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
Be somewhat polite but at the same time, be very cautious most especially when you're on the field. You'll never know what these people are thinking about you, it could be nice and it could be not. Don't entertain them so well when strangers ask you something, make it short and concise. Also, warn yourself when strangers approach you as a group.
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• India
13 Apr 10
Hi, Like I said earlier in my comments, things can be pretty predictable in most of the cases. If a man is lying, or hiding something, he is bound to have some contradictions in his speech. Logical relationships in the words are the proof of a sane and transparent mind. We often loose opportunities to meet nice people when we become paranoid. Yet, there is a need to be cautious. Thanks for your insightful contribution. God bless you
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• United States
13 Apr 10
You smile back because they are the beautiful person God has made them. I am not getting all religious on you, just to say that everyone has the right to get that smile back. Some people will misunderstand, but taht is the price you pay for being a good neighbor and 'fellow traveler' here.
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• India
13 Apr 10
Hi, You have every right to get religious on me. I will appreciate that. Yes, there is always a way of looking at something with a religious point of view. Religion is about people. Smiling back is good for yourself. I mean, you are sticking to a philosophy which is quite independent on your surroundings. No matter what happens, one should not compromise with his spirituality and nobility. Thanks so much for this wonderful participation. God bless you
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@nykel88 (1003)
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
If a stranger smiles at me then I'd smile back at him/her but my smile would resemble like something is fishy or is this a friend I just didn't know for a long time? Kinda like that of a smile. But if you are talking about strangers + stalkers then I'd probably call the cops and maybe get away from them before they do harm. I don't really mind simple people but I do mind the suspicious ones. I don't know if its just me but I tend to feel that some people are good and I can feel those who are not.
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• India
13 Apr 10
Hello, Well there are only very few people who can actually hide their intentions under an apparently harmless smile. The people we take as our friends were strangers once. Even our relatives and parents were strangers at the beginning. As we grow enough matured or probably after having children of our own, we get to know them better. Now, they would always have been strangers if there wouldn't be any voluntary introduction on our part. Suspicious strangers should be handed to the cops, if not killed in self-defense. LOL Thanks so much for this insightful response God bless you
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• Philippines
19 Apr 10
when a strangers says hi to me.ill ask them what they want,or what i can help. if they smile ill smile back.but you have to be carefull with strangers nowadays.many are pretending to be needing help.but when you turned your back they become a predator
• India
20 Apr 10
Hello, I completely agree to that. There is good reason to be cautious about it nowadays. Though we may not react overtly, but alertness is always advantageous. Thanks for this contribution. God bless you
@ghieptc (2525)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
It depends on the person we encounter. We gave back our smile when a stranger smile. We treat them if personally if they are inside our house offering drinks and food to eat. It will depends on your heart.
• India
15 Apr 10
Hi, I completely agree with you dear. It totally depends on the person you encounter. If he is pleasing enough and apparently honest in his expressions he has every right to get better treatment from you. Now, there is a good reason to stay alert as some people may induce a magical effect to make you deliver the things they want. Thanks so much for your thoughtful contribution. God bless you
• United States
14 Apr 10
I try to just smile at them and make eye contact
• India
15 Apr 10
Hello, Making eye contact is very important. Eyes are like windows. They tell you everything about a person. If a person is not being straight with you, he will try to avoid having eye contact. Thanks so much for your response God bless you
@guburcuk (12)
• Turkey
13 Apr 10
This is one of the most necessary question to ask in mylot..I have really very hard to decide about this situation.I guess my first impression is the most important one.If I have some good ideas about the person who I have met, then I think there is no big problem but I always try to be careful because only a person can hurt a person really, I think. All in all, people are changeable and everythink can verify in time.Unfortunately this is the life.
• India
15 Apr 10
Hello dear, This is a question asked not only related to social networking sites, but to your real life as well. The difference between myLot and other social networking site is that in myLot you can choose your friend by carefully observing his activities. So there is less risk. In other sites you just don't know the person who just sent you an add request. Its quite unpredictable there. Thanks so much for your valued participation. God bless you
• Pakistan
13 Apr 10
well when ever a stranger looks at me i just walk away from him and if he comes to me and asks any help so yeah i do that.
• India
15 Apr 10
Hi, Helping others is always good, until this stranger is coaxing you in doing something wrong. One has to stay alert. Thanks so much for your response. God bless you
@pratheep87 (1228)
• India
13 Apr 10
I can treat a stranger as friend if he doesn't irritate or disturb me in any sense. If he irritates or disturb me unwanted then will fire him up.
• India
15 Apr 10
Hi, LOLzzz. Yeah, there are certain person who irritate you to a great extent, sometimes by asking absurd questions, or, peeking over your shoulder to read the magazine you are holding. They may also sleep beside you as if they are child and then wipe his snotty nose on your shirt. These attacks are quite unprecedented. If any of this happens you certainly have a reason to be paranoid. Thanks so much for your invaluable participation. God bless you
@werty009 (404)
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
well just speak politely to the person to some discussion so that you could create an friendly relationship,then feel free to express yourself cause the person is a stranger,the person might share some point of view and other stuff just treat the person politely if the person is not suspicious looking haha lol!!
• India
15 Apr 10
Hi, Yeah, there is a need to treat a person politely, even if he is a stranger. It is for your own sake. Being a good human being is a habit that you shouldn't let go of. Thanks so much for such a nice response. God bless you
@airakumar (1555)
• India
13 Apr 10
Yes, I totally agree with you. To make the strangers comfortable, you need to treat them very well especially when it comes to work. When I first joined one of the company, we have got a small party where all the new joinees were invited and we were treated so well, greeted well that i was so comfortable next day working with them. It's a natural phenomena when you know someone then it is nice to work but if you feel like strangers in your own office then it is very difficult to survive. So treating strangers with nice welcome is a good idea. At least we can make think strangers nice and comfortable so that they feel better and proceed.
@airakumar (1555)
• India
15 Apr 10
Yes, even today personally we are strangers, aren't we? We are friends at myLot after so many discussions. Yes, sometimes it is very risky to open up with someone, who know what would happen and we may also get abducted but alertness is what one needed as you said. I truly believe in it. Thanks a lot for this wonderful advice, whoever gonna read this, will understand the fact. Wish you all the best in life. Have a nice day!!
@manunulat (605)
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
There was a saying, "Trust no one." but we should always think that in every rule, there is always an exemption and the word, "if..." I think the problem with people nowadays is having the fear of getting an interaction, a real one. We have to remember that action speaks louder than words, sometimes it means a lot and we have to break the chains of being too paranoid about not giving because we are holding the thought that we may get nothing at all or simply be disappointed. Procastination is one dangerous move. Some people thought it is a way to get off the hook but it is in the mind where thoughts are made and you have to simply get your heart in tune with it. Listen.
• India
15 Apr 10
Hello, Well, being paranoid often does more harm than it protects. Once you feel dejected and isolated from the world, you start to feel lonely. You become obsessed start to anticipate assault from every stranger. There is a limit we should maintain in everything. Moderation in our habit can be the only way to stay safe. Thanks for your insight. God bless you