Do you often cry or want to cry?

Tianjin, China
April 13, 2010 12:28am CST
For myself,i often want to cry or cry really.i feel sad with something. I often cry for 3,4 times every month for different reasons.My husband is boring. However, i often think a lot of thing and hard to out.i feel unhappy,and cry. what's wrong with me?what can i do ?
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@noeluy10 (16)
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
It's normal to cry you know. Sometimes we need to do it to let out all the pain and the hurt we feel. Take it from me, you will feel your burdens become lighter when you cry, crying is effective. Anyway, what made you say your husband is boring? Maybe I can help.
• Tianjin, China
13 Apr 10
He is boring when i cried. he think crying can bring bad luck and can make me ill.
• Tianjin, China
13 Apr 10
he said that i must adjust my mind-set by myself.
• Philippines
15 Apr 10
by yourself? what is the use of him marrying you if he wants you to deal with your issues alone?
@ypyanyan (956)
• China
13 Apr 10
people said that woman is made of water !! you should overcome it . you can cry when you are very sad and depressed . if you often cry ,it will affect your marriage . your husband will hate you . I seldom cry for my character tend to boy's character . Best wishes to you .
• Tianjin, China
13 Apr 10
Thank you for your answer. Yes,my husband was bore me when i cried. He think Cry can bring bad luck and affected his mood. I want to overcome it,i divert my mind ,reading,playing games ,but sometimes i didn't control my tears and my mood.
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
It is the best thing you can do , divert your minds in anything that change your mood maybe there are things that can make you cry. Do not take it too much so that you can prevent it from crying, it is not good to see a women cry it sounds irritating to others.
@werty009 (404)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
well i do not cry often cause im a type of person that is always happy maybe the time i last cried is because of a break up but im really really a happy person even just a simple joke could make me laugh
@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
22 Apr 10
you are female, there are often times when lots of females, especially at certain times of the month, can find any reason to cry I'm more of an "Abby Normal" female, I seldom cry or for very long if I do.
• Tianjin, China
23 Apr 10
Abby Normal?? I adjust myself,i seldom cry these days Thank you .
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
23 Apr 10
its a quote... http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0072431/quotes?qt0504329
• China
15 Apr 10
I used to be a weepie too. When I feel sad or angry, my tears would flow down before I say something. It's not a bad thing to cry, but sometimes crying is really annoying, especially when things are not so bad to cry for. Tears can make air sad and embarrasing, especially in some situation that people need laugh or courage or happiness. So controll your tears to make it more valuable.
• Tianjin, China
15 Apr 10
what you said is right,making my tears more valuable. Thanks a lot.
• China
15 Apr 10
My pleasure :)
@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
hi there, i can feel for you. well i don't usually cry (unless i'm watching a touching movie...hehe) but there are times that i just feel like crying. i feel so lonely and kinda sad. i feel like i'm tired but all just last a day or 2. i think one reason for me to feel this way is because i am living far from my parents, and my husband, well he's not boring but there are times that he's really really busy and i am usually left alone in the house. sometimes i get bored with myself...and there my mood starts to swing...sometimes i just wake up in the morning feeling so down...one thing i know is that i am missing my parents and even if i wanted to be with them, i just can't do. its just good on my part that my husband is there to console me and try his best to keep that feelings away...but sometimes i just can't stop myself and i cry in front of him saying that i am kinda tired and missing my family... anyway, on your part, do you have a child? me, i don't have so this is another thing for me. but if you have, you can focus your attention with them and try to do some activities with them...or maybe you can go out and enjoy...don't confine yourself in the house...that's what i do sometimes, i go out with friends and unwind...
• Tianjin, China
13 Apr 10
Hello,ckyera. Firstly,thank you for your response,and sharing me with your story. i can know your feeling. you are pretty strong. Secondly, i answer your questions. i have a child,and i very love him .he is took care by my mother-in-low.My husband and i go to see him every week. i go to work every day. that is my life . Good luck,my friend.
@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
ah okay...maybe if your child lives with you, your sadness will be lessen...
@AmbiePam (45855)
• United States
16 Apr 10
Would it be possible for you to see a counselor? If you're not fond of being on an anti-depressant and don't want to see a psychiatrist (many people don't), you could always go see a trained counselor. Or if you attend church, perhaps someone in your clergy? People seem to think if one is depressed they will be put on medication, but often times just getting counseling works. Whatever happens, I hope you find someone to talk to. For the past month I have been crying every night before I fall asleep. I don't tell anyone because there isn't anything anyone can do. My grandfather passed away about a month and a half ago. And at night when I'm lying in bed, all I can do is think. Think and pray. During the day I can keep myself busy. But at night the silence leaves me too much time to grieve. And I cry.
• Tianjin, China
16 Apr 10
I am sorry to hear that. However,I hope you go out of sad quickly. Time is the best medicine. Recently,i adjust my mind-set.I feel better than before. I will try my best to see the bright side of the things and try my best to keep smiling! Have a nice day.
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
we both the same. i cried almost everyday. every time we got argument with my husband. even just a little argument. he said im just too over reacting with the situation. but what can i do, i can cant control myself, i wish i could. and he ask me, why am i crying. its just an argument. For him its nothing, but for me it can make me feel very sad that sometimes i want to leave him. maybe this is the disadvantage of hysterectomy (when you go under surgery, remove your uterus for some reason). maybe there is some medicine for a hot tempered person.
• Tianjin, China
15 Apr 10
Yes,we are the same. Recently,I adjusted my mind-set. Try to see the bright side of the thing.when i focused on one thing and couldn't find the result or began to feel sad,i did my best to shift my attention . I feel better. Your husband is a hot tempered person? Thank you for your response.
@tankut78 (120)
• Turkey
13 Apr 10
I regularly cry:)
@sugaree (109)
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
which is healthy, at least for me.. it is good to release negative energy, and i think crying is effective.
@caiye786 (95)
• China
13 Apr 10
if my wife crys,i must make it clear what make she so sad to cry,it's my fault? comfort her,give her a hug,a kiss,make her feel good as possible as i can and make her understood i will solve the problems yes,sometimes i don't know why she cry ,so it make boring,what worth so much tears,a saying explain that girls make of water,while man make of stones
• Tianjin, China
13 Apr 10
You are a considerate man.you are right,giving her a hug and a kiss will let your wife stop crying as soon as possible. sometimes i don't know why she cry,and what worth so much tears. my husband has the same problem. yes,the girls are made of water,they need to release sometimes. thank you ,caiye!
@bestylish (923)
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
I don't often cry and I don't want to cry. There's nothing to cry about. I'm pretty strong! LOL!
• Tianjin, China
13 Apr 10
yes,you are pretty strong! Good luck!
@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
Psychologists say it is good to cry. You are able to relieve yourself of ill feelings, so go ahead, it's for free, cry when you feel like crying. One day you will be tired and your eyes will be dry from too much crying.
• Tianjin, China
13 Apr 10
yes,my eyes is not comfortable after that.
• China
13 Apr 10
I think many girls are crybabies.Take myself as example,I will cry when I watch a touching movie,when I feel happy,when I meet a old friend,when I am afraid and so on.I do not think cry is a very bad thing.But for man,cry is boring if you often cry.I think you should make your life hopeful and sunshine.Try to look at the bright side.If you smile more,you can get more love from you hubby,you will be happier.
• Tianjin, China
13 Apr 10
The key for my is that try to see the bright side of the things.
@hanyelin (126)
• China
13 Apr 10
hi my friend . i think everyone can cry , it is always based on many reason. family , work , life ,and many more , it is not wrong for us to cry , it is very normal to us , do you think so ?
• Tianjin, China
13 Apr 10
Hi,hanyelin. I think so. i will try to put mind-set in a correct place and adjust my mood.
• India
13 Apr 10
No, I do not cry often and do not want to cry. At a time it’s difficult to stop me from crying, when I come back from my native place to my work place, I try not to cry but II fail to stop me from crying. Last time I cried was the same situation, coming back from home. I think we should not stop our self from crying as it gives you some relaxation. When I tried to stop me from crying, my throat was paining and hard to come out of that unless I cry loud. Be happy and I expect not to cry often. :)
• Tianjin, China
13 Apr 10
Thank you for your response.
@monkeylong (3147)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Apr 10
Yeah, as far as I am concerned, I think there is no chance for me to cry before a person , no matter who he is. I just as a man, I do not have the right to cry. I just need to try my best to make a happy life for my family. I have the responsibility to do this.
• Tianjin, China
13 Apr 10
What could you do when you feel sad?
• United States
13 Apr 10
Yes, I always cry. Before I had children, I always enjoyed being someone with a tough personality. Someone that doesn't cry so easily. Now that I have children, I cry when they go through a major milestone birthday, when my husband does something really sweet, when a really sad part of a movie comes on. I just love to cry. It actually feels really good and like a cleansing in me. It is a really good way to remove any pent up emotions for the day. If you love to cry, go for it.
• Tianjin, China
13 Apr 10
thank you .
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
Try starting a journal or notebook. When you feel you start to cry, write down the thoughts you have in your mind, no matter how silly or stupid they are. When you calmed down, go back and re-read them. See a pattern what made you cry then work on it. Don't just stuck on that idea, make things that turn into positive. In a little way you can overcome crying without any further reason.
• Tianjin, China
13 Apr 10
Thank you! I used to writing,but i didn't re-read them. It sounds a good idea, see a pattern what made you cry then work on it.Don't just stick on that idea,see the brighter side of the things.i will try. good luck,my friend.
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
Yes I cry when I feel like crying. There is nothing wrong with that. Sometimes when I am bored, i listen to music. if I listen to songs that is really sad I cry. Sometimes I cry when I want to sleep. I just remember the saddest events of my life and I will cry instantly. there is nothing wrong with you. That is just normal. When you are sad and you feel like crying, just cry. You will stop crying though. There are just times you will feel unhappy, because it happens to me too, but not all the time.
• Tianjin, China
13 Apr 10
thank you for your understanding. have a good day.
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
13 Apr 10
Do you have health problems?Do you have a bad man, an inconsiderate man or wife beater for a husband? THen I understand your trauma. On the other hand , do you have some expectations from someone else?- Are you disappointed because your expectations are not met? THen I would suggest something.-Keep your expectations from yourself and try and do soemthing productive for yourself.It can be any small thing-like preparing a dish, practising some craft ,some house cleaning, gardening --whatever is within your means .Do this simple task to the best of your capability an d start taking pride of performance.You would feel happy for your own sake.Engage yourself in some productive activity . Or there is an even simpler solution.Take a good romance or humorous book and read .THere is no better escape route than reading. Streamline your activity and keep yourself busy through the day.Keep performance as your motto.You won't feel like crying.
• Tianjin, China
13 Apr 10
I don't have health problems, my husband is a considerate man.He is worried about me.and he always persuaded me.Properly speaking,crying make him boring and fidgety. Yesterday,he said to me. I always cried because i thought about something,and coundn't find the solution for the problem,maybe the thing was not near me,maybe it was no chance to happen .but i thought a lot a lot ,made me want to cry.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
13 Apr 10
if you want to cry, please cry. not been indicted. sometimes crying can make us glad. I often cry because of problems I faced. I always cry if I want. I never hold back. because after I became a cry of relief, as if half the load had been lost. indeed many people cry no avail, but if you make a better relief to cry.
• Tianjin, China
13 Apr 10
cry may make us glad,but it can affect others mood.