...arranged marriage \love marriage.....
By samshanb4u
@samshanb4u (59)
India
April 14, 2010 9:14am CST
are you a lover..? do you believe love marriage will be successful..? how many people believes arranged marriage get successful..?
share your comment..
5 responses
@sleepylittlerose (1648)
• United States
14 Apr 10
Either type of marriage can be successful as long as both parties are committed to the relationship. I would much rather have a love marriage.
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@sleepylittlerose (1648)
• United States
14 Apr 10
When in a love marriage the two people involved have made the choice to be committed to the relationship. In an arranged marriage the married couple has been told to be committed, and telling someone to be committed does not guarantee that it will happen.
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@samshanb4u (59)
• India
15 Apr 10
yes its a fact,though but in reality,when we look at the world more people divorced by love marriage than arranged marriage.. why this happen..?
@samshanb4u (59)
• India
14 Apr 10
You believe love marriage would be more powerful.why you thinks like these.. why are you didn't take more majority with arranged marriage..?
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@caliya (1170)
• Philippines
14 Apr 10
I do not agree to arrange marriage because I believe that in order for a marriage to work true love must be present. I also don't like the idea of marrying someone who I have not known personally. It would be very uncomfortable. It may work for some people because i know that for some it's part of their culture but I would still like to get to know the person that i know and it should be who will decide who i will marry.
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@samshanb4u (59)
• India
14 Apr 10
you know... in foreign countries more than 50% of couples get divorced by love marriage.. why it happen..? you said you believe in love marriage ,can you say how more people gets divorced by love marriage than arranged marriage...?
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@allyoftherain (7208)
• United States
14 Apr 10
Here in the western world we're quick to label arranged marriage as a bad guy. I'm sure you've seen at least one movie or one book that has the protagonist trying to run away from an arranged marriage. But the truth is, countries that practice arranged marriage have a lower divorce rate than countries that don't. The divorce rate in America is 52%. The divorce rate in India is 1.1%.
@samshanb4u (59)
• India
14 Apr 10
From your description i got you are believe in arranged marriage.I agree with you... but why most of the love marriage relation goes to divorce..? you said that 52% gets divorce by love marriage.. how it happen.. can you say...?
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@allyoftherain (7208)
• United States
14 Apr 10
Sort of a believer. I believe we shouldn't be so quick to call it the bad guy. I live in America, and I'm probably going to be choosing my own husband for love but I wouldn't kick and scream if my parents did try to set me up with a guy. I think I would trust their judgement.
You see, we often think of arranged marriage as a loveless thing, when in reality it's not. People who believe in arranged marriage don't think that marriage should be a business contract or should be without love. They see love as a product of marriage and not its instigator. People in an arranged marriage can still fall in love and learn to work together. People in a marriage for love might feel they fall out of love, and since they're so determined to be in a marriage for "love", they leave.
@samshanb4u (59)
• India
14 Apr 10
ya I agree with your opinion...you said that arranged marriage is not a loveless thing,after marriage the couple can start the love..that would be more powerful and successful, the love before marriage may not be successful because they cannot get chance to discuss all secrets.But the love after marriage have a little more chance to get successful..
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@EmilSpasov (152)
• Bulgaria
14 Apr 10
arranged marriage can be as much successful as love one
it all depends on the partners
you can be very much in love with someone and part with him a few months after you get together
while you can meet your life partner in an arranged marriage
and even if you are not crazy about him, you can learn to rely on him/her
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