When times are tough, what brings you great comfort or consoles you?

@writersedge (22579)
United States
April 15, 2010 5:24am CST
When my Mother was in a lot of pain, I remember telling her, "Nothing endures forever,. . . this too shall pass." Plus I went to get help from the Nursing staff. It's a shorter version of the words from "The Trail of Tears." I also find gardening consoling, praying in the woods comforting, and some positive and upbeat music or meditation tapes to be comforting or consoling. So what do you do to be comforted or consoled?
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@veejay19 (3592)
• India
16 Apr 10
I have reached that stage of equanimity and tranquility of mind where i am not fazed by anything good or bad. Right now i am going through some serious financial problems but my mind is completely calm and undisturbed. Like you my mother, who passed away 4 years back, suffered immensely for 10 months but i used to sit at her bedside holding her hand and she would become calm and quiet. this was because my mind was very tranquil and those vibrations would pass into her and she would also become quiet and fall asleep.all this has happened because i have done some very deep spiritual yogic practices for the last 20 odd years which has given me this state. I don`t need to do anything, i just sit quiet, thats all.
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
16 Apr 10
Very nice! That must be great! I wish I could have comforted my Mom like that. 20 years would put me at 72, if I lived that long. Right now, I'm going through menopause, so trying to unclutter my mind from the tangle of emotions is a challenge every day. Each to their own way that works for them. Probably someone reading this, that path will speak to them and they will start it. You're a very interesting friend. Thanks and take care.
@celticeagle (111525)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Jun 10
Something about these people that are so calm and tranquil though. Hmmm?
@carmelanirel (21108)
• United States
15 Apr 10
Interesting that on questions like these, they are usually the same. Like what motivates me to work is the same thing that comforts me during bad times..MUSIC My friends know how I am when it comes to music, the CD's I buy, the music I put on my profiles, the music videos I save.. In face, my 7 y/o son already said he'd be embarrassed if we ever made it to a concert because I get very excited over music, it's my life practically..Well maybe not, but when I have a variety of genres that I can listen to when I am happy,sad,mad,or just plain bored, then you can usually find me listening to something..lol
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
15 Apr 10
I find the variety I've gotten so far very fascinating. Music helps me with some things, mostly to overcome seasonal lack of motivation or to inspire me to dance or exercise, and now to clean. But more and more, I find I like and need other things, too. I think it's my age showing, ha, ha.
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• United States
15 Apr 10
Oh come on, you can't be that old???? And if that is the case, may I never get too old...hahaha
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
15 Apr 10
I'm not too old, just old enough to start to diversify. Menopause does make me very nostalgic, like Ocean Tiara's response above is nostalgic to me.
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@globell45 (143)
• United States
16 Apr 10
When things get rough for me, I go get my candles and light them. As I light each one, I say a prayer to our Heavenly Father about what is bothering me and ask Him for guidance and strength. Usually in a very short time, God answers me and shows me what to do. I get an immense feeling of the despair being lifted off my shoulders and the answer seems to appear all the sudden. I realize that this will not appeal to some people, but in my circle of friends, when someone has a heavy burden, they call me to pray for them, because I am a prayer warrior. I truly believe that when I pray about something, that my Father in Heaven will answer not only for me, but for whom I am praying and He has never let me down. No, I am not a minister, I am just a Christian who loves her Lord, family, and friends. Just so you know, I only light the candles because when I see the light shining from them, it reminds me of my prayers and I say them again in my heart. The candles are not magical or anything, they just keep my prayers close to my heart and I repeat them again to God to keep them close to Him. That is how I deal with situations like this. God Bless All......
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
16 Apr 10
My emergency prayers are a little like that. Let's just say they overlap in some ways. I believe each person has a gift for helping themselves and others. Some of us have been well-gifted with the ability to pray. Some people can't even concentrate long enough to do that or have doubts or are afraid or feel they aren't worthy. Then there are those of us who concentrate and are very strong in our ability to pray. Some people have been given other gifts. I'm glad you have a powerful ability to pray. Maybe someone will read this, try, and find out they are very talented when it comes to prayer, too. Thanks and take care.
• United States
19 Apr 10
Thank you for your lovely comment. Remember....prayers are the greatest gift God has given us. God Bless All.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
20 Apr 10
Your welcome. I think giving us life is a pretty good gift, too. Thanks and take care.
@carolbee (16243)
• United States
10 Jun 10
I really enjoy being with our grandkids. I feel like a kid all over again when I can get on the floor and chase them on my knees or read to them. The mere image of innocent children. I also enjoy working on crafts where I can sit and take my time making whatever project, old or new, and have a blank mind. Blank is good at times..lol I use to love to be in the woods. As I get older, my time spent outside in the sun is limited. Always was a sun lover but can't do that any longer. Too many complications. The woods was always so peaceful and loved to hear the birds sing along with the gentle wind blowing leaves on the trees. Once in awhile to see a little critter run up a tree.
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
10 Jun 10
Those all sound great! But alas, I have no grandchildren. Maybe my friend will let me borrow a few some day!
@carolbee (16243)
• United States
10 Jun 10
Borrowing grandkids is a good thing. When they have a dirty diaper you can send them home.....lol
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
18 Apr 10
Hi writersedge! I refuse to accept the dark side. I always look for the light at the end of the tunnel. I live for it. I never take anything for face value. I always think of the bad as being a means to an end that is brighter.
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
18 Apr 10
Yes, it's amazing how something that seems bad might be something good in disguise. When I couldn't find any job and had to work in a prison. I thought it was the end of the world. But now I can retire at 55 and other people can't. I was vested in 10 years and some people aren't.
@hvedra (1623)
16 Apr 10
Sometimes it is doing something to help take your mind off the pain - gardening, walking, even cleaning the kitchen because sometimes it doesn't do to dwell on the problem.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
16 Apr 10
Hi New Friend! For some things, I like doing things to take my mind off, definitely. Gardening and walking are two of my favorites. Thanks and take care
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@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
15 Apr 10
When times are it is best if you rely heavily on God, for it is only He who can save you from the perils of disappointment or frustration.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
15 Apr 10
Fine, but what do you do to get comfort from God? Pray, Meditate, read a Book of God? Just have Fait that things will work out? What do you say to people who are in pain? My Mother was dying of cancer. That's a lot more than disappointment and frustration. So what do you say or do to console someone who is in pain?
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
15 Apr 10
for it is only He who can save you from the perils of disappointment or frustration. thats great that it works for you BUT thats not the case for everyone by any means..which means "he" is NOT the only one or thing that can help someone who is having a rough go..for some of us a "he/she" doesnt even come into play
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
15 Apr 10
Well I did ask what comforts or consoles each person. For this person that does. I'm not going to judge whether that works for all of us or not. If that is this person's way, then fine. But I think even someone who believes similar would need more advice or examples. Therefore, I requested more specifics to help people who believe similar to him. Or maybe there is some way that s/he puts his/her beliefs into action for consoling that this person never thought about and others could learn from.
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
15 Apr 10
Definately being outside....feeling the sun on my face, hearing the life of the world (birds singing, winds in the trees etc), having my feet in the grass and getting grounded and centred....Works everytime..UNFORTUNATELY living in the north its a seasonal thing for me..LOL trying to ground and centre barefoot in the middle of December or January isnt really a wise thing to do LOL
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
15 Apr 10
Hi Ravenladyj, From Medina, NY, I'm from Mooers, NY. I feel very similar in this. I have a friend, with money, who added a sun room to the end of her home and wow, is that wonderful! When I go there in the wintertime, that feels so great! Exp. on my old arthritic bones. Very physically comforting! It costs her more money when the sun isn't out, but when the sun is out, is it great! I love it when I go canoeing with a friend of mine in another month or two. I run around on rocks that are smooth and warm underneath my feet. I feel so strong, soothed, refreshed, and ready to come back to this world, but oh how I wish I could stay in that one.
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
15 Apr 10
I would LOVE to have a four season sunroom..in fact my hubby and I have talked about adding one to the house when we start renovating again...I suffer from arthritis too and the cold months are just painful so I'm pretty much trapped in the house during that time..A 4 season sunroom would be just wonderful! I use to love running but can't due to various health issues but I love bike riding in the warm months and living in the country its just beautiful around here to do just that!
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
15 Apr 10
Well, "run around" was more a figure of speech. I'm 52 years old, I really don't run anywhere. I love living in the country, too. Due to my knees, I need a recombant bike. Regular ones stress my knees. Yes, I would love a 4 season sun room. It's wonderful!