How to tell a friend....

@ackian (33)
Canada
April 15, 2010 10:34pm CST
How to tell a friend that he/she has a body odor....without hurting his/her feelings? It's not that I have friends with that, (actually I do)... But I think this might come in handy if its a must... I have this one with me... Scene: ME: (Sniff) Can you smell that? smells like a deodorant or something.... Anything in mind? want to share?
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@kharlav (1672)
• Philippines
16 Apr 10
hmmm... I think that would be impossible not to hurt a friend when telling him he has body odor. Hmm?.. I think it would hurt most if he hears "you have body odor" even if its through a joke rather than letting him feel he has body odor; example, you could give him a deodorant as a gift, then maybe it would give him a sign that he has body odor. it might still hurt but i think it would be less hurtful than words.
@ackian (33)
• Canada
16 Apr 10
"...be less hurtful than words."I agree.... But I think, giving him/her something that would sign him/her with something. I guess he/she might get embarrassed, and hurt..... I guess..... :)
@kharlav (1672)
• Philippines
16 Apr 10
yeah, i know.. all the things that you would do, whether in words or in action, will always hurt. Hmmm.. I think the giving of deodorant wouldn't work with your situation. I had this experience when a close friend of mine was having a bad body odor, and her newly arrived relatives thought so too. We have this culture to bring something/give something from a foreign country to our homeland and give it to our relatives. So one day her aunt gave her a deodorant because of bad BO. It wasn't really as hurtful. But in your case, i guess it's different. By the way, why does your friend have body odor? doesn't your friend take a bath, or use deodorant or what?
@ackian (33)
• Canada
16 Apr 10
"why does your friend have body odor? doesn't your friend take a bath, or use deodorant or what?" im not sure though...... maybe he's having a hygiene problem of some sort...... i dont know......lols
• India
17 Apr 10
Hi, The best way is to give him a deodorant as a gift and then insisting on using it. This would be an indirect yet effective way of dealing with such situation. Sniffing around a guy doesn't look right. Even saying it straight on his/her face will offend the person. Thanks. God bless you
@ackian (33)
• Canada
17 Apr 10
yeah...... but....uhmmmm..... i think it depends about the gender..... with some observations, guys are less likely to get offended coz they're..... uh...... less sensitive than girls....... just an observation though.....
• India
18 Apr 10
Yeah, but you can be sensible too. There are ways to show love as a cause for your criticism. You know what I mean. Just like glucose converts water into lemonade, love can convert anything into pleasant and bearable discussion. Say what you have to say but say it when its just the time. I promise you, she will understand.
@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
17 Apr 10
i would look for the slightest reason to give him a gift. and that would be a gift of soap or a perfume.
@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
17 Apr 10
by the way, welcome to myLot. it's been great here. have fun and enjoy your stay!!!
@ackian (33)
• Canada
17 Apr 10
geez, tnx for the welcome..... and yeah, just recently started mylot (uh...yesterday....) but i sure is having a good damn fun here...... (:
• United States
16 Apr 10
I think a friend would be a person who respects you as a person and who is not jealous of who you are. I also think a friend is a person whose nice to everyone and not who they want to be nice to.
@ackian (33)
• Canada
16 Apr 10
I'm not sure though what you're trying to say.... Or what you're pointing out with regards to this smelly BO problem....
• South Korea
16 Apr 10
i think you will still hurt her feelings even if you did in your pleasant way...but let her know that you are telling that because she is your friend and you cared for her..
@ackian (33)
• Canada
16 Apr 10
Right..... He/she is your friend after all and I guess a thing like this isn't a biggie for the both of you.... Just be straight forward and tell him/her right away rather than other people do first to notice....
• India
17 Apr 10
Its better u tell him or her in softvoice....many a times people wont be knowing about their bad body odour and their foul breath also....so if u tell them they find a solution for their problem...i had a friend of mine with same problem and even i faced same problem.....if u respond for means this we can have lot of discussion on this...