Is it possible for a husband and wife to fall out of love?

@Masmasika (1922)
Philippines
April 16, 2010 10:09am CST
People change, just as relationships change due to some circumstances that aren't expected to happen. There are husbands and wives who fall out of love no matter how much they were in loved when they tied the knot and married each other. This is because there are many factors that cause the falling out of love. There are factors that suddenly happen that causes the husband and wife to fall out of love. One example is when one partner cheats the other. Another example of falling out of love is behaviors that one partner cannot accept from the other. Of course there are more reasons for partners to fall out of love and some are impossible to mend which results in separations or divorce but there are husbands and wives who could mend the relationship and make it work. Share your views and we will learn from each other.
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21 responses
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
17 Apr 10
Sometimes I think couples could work out their differences but one or the other has no desire to do so. It takes two people equally committed to the relationship itself to make it work. If only one is trying then it just isn't going to work no matter what. Yes people change and often in different directions. Sometimes I think people give up at the first sign of trouble when if they stuck it out, they might find they grow closer as a result. Cheating, domestic abuse are deal breakers. Beyond that, most problems, I think could be worked out if both of them are really trying.
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
there's always the effort and the willingness for both relationships to prosper as long as both are really want to do they're best in the relationship. love is not just a feeling but in marriage it's a sworn statement for both lovers to love each other.
• China
16 Apr 10
no doubt that couples can fall out of love!diverce happened around us by and often,sometimes i am just freaked out by the power of temptations.i broke up with my gf 3 years ago,and till now,I cannot move on easily.how can these couples deal with this,especially the couples who've spent long time together or even have some kids.
@Masmasika (1922)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
That's life today. No one could really tell what may happen in the future.
• Philippines
16 Apr 10
I think that's why there is divorce
@Masmasika (1922)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Yes, you are right.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
16 Apr 10
I honestly thought that love could be forever, that when you find your 'one true love' you'll live happily ever after, to which love will never fail. I had experienced at one point in my life that it could all be true. I have seen how my parents have been in love a long time. Ever since I could remember, they've always been the sweetest couple in the world. They weren't all mushy and stuff. They were more of the type of model parents you'd like, responsible, loving, you could never see them fight or even speak against each other. They're really in love as you could see. Anniversaries were really special. You could well see that they love each others' company and know that just being together is enough. All things were well, until very recently. Now that they're older, almost in their 60's things have changed. It's really sad. They no longer talk as they did before. Often spending more time apart than together. You could see that they now formed complaints. Though not really fighting, you could well see the distance. I asked my mom about it, and she just shrugged saying that as time goes by, love fades (well not really fade but the excitement has gone down). Further because of a fling on my father's behalf because of golf (I really wish those umbrella girls get banned in those areas). Their relationship never went back. Though they do try their best to hide these things from us, but I could certainly feel the tension. It's really sad that for more than 30years they've really proved to me that true love exists. But now, it all remains in the past. I think it's possible that couples fall out of love. Time could only tell when people would grow distant. Most especially nowadays when temptations are vast and it's easy to cheat. Cellphones, internet, and other stuff and situations give chances to people to seek excitement in other people. They don't see it at first, but these 'curiosities' had caused them a love so true. I can never really say that I could be fortunate enough to experience a love that both of them shared. But I'm happy that I was fortunate enough to see it. Sadly, it was just like a dream. Now, it has faded.
@deejgeek (192)
16 Apr 10
Of course it is possible. There are lots of family being broken every hour? Every day? Or worst every second. This will happen if they lost the most important ingredient in a relationship which is "Communication".
@Masmasika (1922)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Yes, good communication is needed in order for a relationship to work and perhaps thrive.
• Philippines
16 Apr 10
A couple can fall out of love. And fighting to regain the love that was lost is where you will see real love. It is easy to love someone at first. But will you still love them after all the years.
16 Apr 10
Of course it is possible. I only think a few very lucky people truly find their soul mates, others have to work really hard to keep their relationships alive. Situations, feelings and circumstances always change and you have to be able to do that together, as a partnership. You have to be prepared to compromise in a relationship and learn to grow together too.
@Masmasika (1922)
• Philippines
16 Apr 10
Yes, you are right. Partners should learn to grow together in order to make the relationship work instead of separating.
@grkelly (1216)
• Malta
18 Apr 10
Yes it is very true that marraige does not survive. This is often due to selfishness, taking the spouse for granted, lacking respect and failing to give a helping hand and a shoulder to lean on in difficult moments. The person who used to understand you so much may fail to do so after some time by choosing to put himself first in everything.
@gmkk1986 (473)
• India
17 Apr 10
Ages are changing as well mindsets for the new also changing where the part of enjoyment comes just of instance and for time pass. This may cause lack of interest between partners and making them to love others while they are in relationship and strict bonds. This majorly happening just because of lack of understandings between each other and unfaith about the relationships.
@Blondie2222 (22578)
• United States
17 Apr 10
Yes it is possible. I know a couple that has been married for 12 yrs and now her husband told her he not in love with her anymore that its not her its him speech...Shes torn of course because ehs the only guy shes been with. It happens to everyone, boyfriend/girlfriends and married couples. Just because you get married doesn't mean all the things you feel when you were bf/gf stops. But ive seen alot of couples that been married for 40 yrs and our still happy. Hope that happens 2 me!
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
17 Apr 10
Love is a complicated emotion. Relationships of any kind are difficult to maintain unless they are nurtured. It is easy to fall in love with your special someone. It's keeping that love alive that can be challeging. Some people fall in love and they know their love is forever. Others have to work harder at it and this gives opportunity to love to fall by the wayside.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Of course it happens all the time. They find out a lot about each other which could be horrible or terrible or unacceptable and so they start hating each other. I have read news about couples killing each other because of hatred. Love is indeed a tricky feeling.
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Oh yes very very possible.HOwever it makes things more complicated cause of legal factors. Love in any form needs nourishing and when couples forget this just because they are confident that they are married, that is when love is put in danger. For me, marriage is not a guarantee that love will stay forever although i am not saying that people doesn't need to get married , cause they must.But couples must not just sit on this confidence and think that they have enough just to keep love burning alive. (^_^)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Yes! It is possible..We cant say that a couple will last longer..Some people change there mood and expires there love with each other..Maybe because of misunderstanding due to many problems in the family..
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Hello masmasika, Love is filled with a lot of possibilities, you can be compatible and happy now and then in the future you ended up separating with each. Love is like a flame, if there's no friendship involve, the flame will die out for sure. it happens in every relationship, that's we should always consider dating a mandatory for lovers.
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
yes, it is possible if you ride on the temptation who is always awaits to every-ones couple. some possible is getting of distrust to each partners. other possibility is PRIDE. if no one come into at risk to owns ones fault, the problem become bigger until it ends up into a separation.. what is important getting into a relationship? "God must always a center in your relationship."
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
17 Apr 10
that is possible. Open communication is the best way to solve the problems. I admit to my husband that i get bored with him, and i told him that i had affair. Then we introspect our self to solve it out. there would be a day every week that i am free as my self and he is too. And now it works. I called the day as 'Me day'.
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
I've been happily married with my husband for more than 11 years now and I can't imagine either of us falling out of love with the other but even my parents too, got separated too when I was about 19 years old. There was a third party, that's why. My dad had another family and my mom could't stand him so he threw him out of the house. :( From this experience I told my husband when we were still new as boyfriend and girlfriend that I will not fight for him if I learn that he has another relationship. I will not be able to endure seeing myself in the same situation that my mom was when she learned of my dad's unfaithfulness and had to suffer some years before finally splitting with him. It was heart-breaking and I really felt sorry for her that I did not have any sympathy for my dad when they broke up. (Although I don't treat him badly when we get to see each other, I still respect him as my dad). Maybe problems that don't involve third parties can still be mended or resolved between couples but for me, when one of you gets involved with another, the hurt is really irrepairable since it signifies the lack or total loss of love with the other.
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Yes very possible. Man and woman can fall in love and fall out of love. We cannot control the feelings of others as well as we cannot control our own feelings. But it is also possible that we fall in love again to each other. If it's possible to fall out of love because of different circumstances...it's also possible to each one to mature.We cannot make others love us but we can make ourselves lovable.
@arakawaii (271)
• Philippines
17 Apr 10
Yup it is possible, its should not just love itself to keep you together, there are factors as well, to maintain the relationship intact, I guess there are relationships that are successful not because of love but because of satisfaction.