BATTERED or BUTTERED?

By dee
@yresh12 (3222)
Philippines
April 17, 2010 8:15pm CST
Going to school having a BLACKEYE! I have told some mylotter friends about my ex-boyfriend who used to hurt me. I was so in love with him.. I was thinking of posting this to inspire people who are going through this that they can actually go out of this situation. It all started with a slap on the face. Thinking that it really was my fault I let it go. I thought that is was okay. He will never do it again and promised me. I believed him. After being with him for a year,he did it again. The worst part? We met early morning and I was getting ready for class. I forgot really how it started. He was a criminology student and karate was his forte. Pushing me on the bed,with a flying kick and punch. Who wouldn't have black eye. He wet my uniform so I can't go to class "EXams" I missed my first class for that. I cried and cried till he let me go. I stick with him for a month after that I left him because he threatened to kill... Realization for me was earlier than most people who are experiencing this. Hope I could encourage you to leave that no sense partner of yours..or you'll end up in a coffin in the future..
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9 responses
@cripfemme (7719)
• United States
19 Apr 10
Oh my God! I'm glad you're alright. I would never stay with such a person even for 1 minute. My personal rule is you can yell at me, we can fight, but if you hit me we're done. After that, I don't think I would speak to them. Ever! You should have called the police.
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
I learned my lesson the hard way. I think that's enough. Besides it was a long ago. I forgave him..
@cripfemme (7719)
• United States
19 Apr 10
Please, please, tell you don't take him back. I hope "I forgave him", means your friends and nothing else.
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
We are not even friends... I have no plans and am not planning to...
@TheAdvocate (2395)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
Good for you! Nobody deserves to be physically abused. I read in the next discussion that he slapped you the first time because you came home later than he told you to. Even if you violated his law, there was no reason for him to slap you. Hurting someone when you are angry is a sign of pent-up anger. It is a red flag that he cannot control his anger. He has not even confronted you why you were late. What if you had a valid excuse? That guy was just plain selfish. I hope to God he does not have any more girlfriends after you. So he's a criminology student. If he ends up being a policeman, that's bad news for citizens. He seems to have anger management issues. Will he pass his psychological exams?
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
Hello!! He did not even graduated from his course. He stop schooling when we broke up which is a good thing I think. He was very violent and very much hot blooded. I'm always afraid at that time. I don't even want boys to go near me because he might just get angry. We quarreled on the street before and he walked out and I saw him beat up a guy good thing his older brother dropped by.
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
My point exactly, the guy has anger management issues. It's true what they say that it's difficult to get out of a violent relationship because you always hope that he will change, that you will be the cause of his change. But people like your ex need professional help, one that you alone cannot provide.
@basqui (3890)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
Oh, what a jerk!? I'm referring to your ex. WEll, women are not meant to be beaten. I have always responded to discussions like this and I have reacted the same. Even if women have done something wrong, they are not meant to be beaten, they should be treated as dolls. I wanna share about my ex who dumped me. She left me for another guy. When we were together, I never hurt her physically. I may have said hurtful words but not really lift even a hand for her. Then I was informed that that guy beats her whenever he's drunk so I was really upset even if we're not together anymore.I even threatened to kill the guy, what a stupid idea. But I just let it go for her to learn her own lesson. Maybe it's karma, ain't it? Well, I usually pampered her before and she left me for a lady-beater, the guy even have a son already. I got over it already anyway and I'm happy with my present one.
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
I'm glad your happy with your wifey now basqui.. you should too because you were heartbroken before. I'm just glad that I got out of it and I have no hard feelings toward that person. I just wish him all the best...
@basqui (3890)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
Oh, we're not married yet yresh. Thanks anyway. Maybe he'll find another girl who could take all the punches, kicks and karate chops. Let's wish that he find a girl who knows taekwondo so that they could have a good sparring session.
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
I think that would be great.. Well I call my friends girlfriend and boyfriends hubby and wifey.. hahahammmm..It's funny I hope so he finds one who's good in Karate and get the sould out of him... bawahahahah...
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
You should've left him the first time. I'm just curious, what did you do that made him slap you?
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
hello frontvisions! It was A christmas party,a pool party actually. He told me to go home at a certain time. Like two hours? who would have fun just by staying for two hours...? I went home like 9 pm and he slapped me before I got in in the front door. I thought it was really mine but I realized it was really unreasonable for him to do so...
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
Yes, it is unreasonable for him to slap you like that. Too unreasonable..
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
I think it really is very very much...
@dawnald (84157)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Apr 10
I'm glad you left before it got really awful. My cousin's first husband was abusive that way. It wasn't until one day she saw her daughter treating her son the way her husband treated her that she had the courage to get out.
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
The worst part is they got married. I'm also glad that i was able to let him go. I'm not a fan of hurting people either.
@pierrella (1088)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
Wow, good thing that you left him. I'm sorry to hear about this but I hope you're doing good now without him. That was the right decision.
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
I'm very proud that I did. There are lots of people who choose not to and who couldn't leave that crazy partner behind. It was 2 years ago and it's no biggy to me.
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
It was a good decision you made right there. If you love him then that's good but he is only your boyfriend and definitely doesnt have the right to slap you or do anything that will help you physically or even emotionally. Men like that are psychos. I juts hoped that you realized that earlier rather than suffer those things by being hit by him. Anyway, its better late than never. Good thing you didnt hit him back cause if it was me, even though I know that I wont win, I am really gonna hit back.
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
I know that it was the most best decisions I made. I'm happy that my mom and dad did not tolerate what I was doing. I feel like Romeo and Juliet at first they were very right to go with him. I'm happy. I got over him long long way over and am happy right now..
@samson1967 (7423)
• India
18 Apr 10
You girls are very kind hearted and forgive the people who harm or hurt you. As long as you are soft and not rebellious the guys will make use of you, after all 99% of the boys come behind you just for your pissing organ.
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
Ooooh ewwww... That's sucks...
@cloud31 (5811)
18 Apr 10
This is more horrible than the first discussions of yours.Such a waste to fell in love with such guy and Its good you finally get out in that situation and I'm happy you did,sometimes love made us blind no matter how we're trying to realized we can't move away from those situation when love is taking over you,his no heart i guess just imagine how strong he was compare to a girls body,his not but an evil.
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
Hey Ij... It is but as I told you we encounter this things for us to learn and apply it. I had been traumatized by that event both consciously and unconsciously. I just have to move forward. That is the only way...