Why teenage girls feel the need to mouth off when they are with their friends?

@nixxi76 (3192)
Canada
April 18, 2010 12:39am CST
Tonight hubby and the kids decided that they wanted to go out and have some family time for my birthday. My b/day was on Friday but because of my work schedule we had to postpone our plans and celebrate it by going out tonight instead. We got into the city and decided to go have a bite to eat and talk about our options of where we wanted to go to have some fun. We all had suggestions from a movie to bowling, laser tag and then there was my idea to go roller skating at one of the rinks. When I was a teenager I would go almost every weekend or try to with my friends. Just in the last five years or so they relocated that roller skating rink to one of the very bad areas in the city so when we got there I noticed the types of people that were going there as to when it was in the nice part of town and away from scum. My step-daughter was skating by this group of girls and one of those girls rolled her skate fast at my step-daughter and she tripped with her skates on and wiped out and they began laughing at her. My hubby went to help his daughter and went to find out what that girl's motive was to feel the need to pick on J. He asked he if she was going to say "sorry" for doing that and she said sorry but in a very smug way and you could tell she wasn't apologetic at all (in front of her group of friends) and had a very bad attitude towards him. I came back to our table and found out what happened. I noticed that the group of girls were sitting there and making fun of my step daughter so I told J to start laughing and just look like she was having a great time like we were before this all started. So we were laughing and it seemed to make the group of bullies fuel up with more anger. My son decided to go skating again and I went to follow him and one of the girls said to me "take a picture it lasts longer" so I asked her to repeat herself and she was telling me that we had a staring problem. I played around using some of my psychology techniques and ended up realizing that I wasn't going to waste my time so the girl that started this whole thing with J... came to that table and started cursing at me and I told her to watch her mouth. We ended up going to the manager and letting them know what was going on and the girl and her group got kicked out of the roller rink. They were prompt and did NOT tolerate bullying either! I have never had a problem with teenagers ever and this was my first and hopefully last encounter with it. These girls were way out of line and they were lucky that I wasn't their age because the mouths on them deserved either duck tape or a good slap! But all I can do is thank them for giving me a reason to talk here on Mylot.. they are actually helping me out financially haha Do you have any bad experienced like mine with a mouthy teenager? What happened and how did you handle it?
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7 responses
@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
Well, I'm a teenager, but my friends and I never did something like that. I mean, that's so disrespectful. I can say that we make fun of people sometimes, but we don't go and trip them, or bully them, unless it's just a joke and we are really CLOSE with the persons involved. We don't go making fun or bullying strangers, never did and never will. I actually never heard of such a situation like that happening here. Teenagers here are afraid (lol) or have a great respect for adults, and we never curse them, especially if we don't know them. I was really surprised with what happened to you, because that's the first time I've heard of teenagers that you don't even know who could say those things straight to your face without a hint of decency and respect. I really hope teenagers who are like that learn how to fix their attitudes and manners.
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@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
18 Apr 10
Oh, and in addition, if we see someone do something like what those teenagers did to you, we automatically feel hate towards those persons, and we don't really find it "cool". :/
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@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
18 Apr 10
You know jeeyah, I didn't realize that there were young punks just like the ones last night too around but I guess I found that out. I'm glad you and your friends and some other teenagers have great respect for others and I wished these brats would learn that. Thanks for your reply Happy Mylotting!
@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
I just really hope that someday their kids don't turn out like them and also end up disrespecting us when we turn into adults. :/ Those types of people should be sent to an attitude-fix camp or something. Lol. Have a nice day! :)
• United States
19 Apr 10
Well it sucks that this had to happen on a day when you just wanted to have some fun with your family. Teenagers these days are just getting really bad and it seems that they have no respect for anyone or themselves actually. It's kind of sad that these kids have to act like this towards other people. I don't understand exactly why these teenagers feel the need to act out like that towards other people. I have experience with this especially with my younger brother who sometimes is mouthy but I quickly make sure to tell him to watch how he talks to me. This sort of behavior has to be nipped in the bud so that it does not get any worse.
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@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
19 Apr 10
Like hubby said, boys know they will get hit if they get smart but girls know that they won't get hit so that's why they get mouthy. I think this statement is quite true. The best part of the night is when the manager walked up to her pointed to her roller skates, told her to take them off and pointed to the door and said GET OUT!!!! With girls it's difficult to nip in the bud because they keep going and going and don't give up because they love drama. Thanks for your reply Happy Mylotting :)
@umit_umit (1988)
• India
18 Apr 10
well frien its true the teenage girls are insecure from inside and feels that they are superior then the rest sio thats why this problem accurs!even with me once it happened as i got down from my car ant one of the teenage girl remarked about being having money cause of their father or what they are not so much litterate and smart as we are?they have complex!dont worry its natural part of todays life!
@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
18 Apr 10
It's also a natural part of defense... if anyone even if it were not these little punks last night just anyone tries to touch the children I care about it's going to end up badly. Thanks for your reply
• United States
18 Apr 10
it's pack mentality.they usually wouldn't have a fourth of those b*lls without backup. yea,most of the teenagers where i live are like that.they have this thing called the bumping game where they'll bank to move right in your path on a sidewalk to see if you'll move for them. i've seen one or two kids get in deep trouble with the adult taunting-once in a while they'll try that with someone out of their league,and surprise,their friends don't have their back.
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@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
18 Apr 10
I remember back in my day when I was a kid, I would make up games with my friends that involved girl things.. now these days they seem to be making up really violent games such as this bumping game or choking games. It's pathetic and I'm wondering who originated them? THanks for your reply
18 Apr 10
ya now a days teenagers feel they should get more space than we used get in out days. if you try to correct them they will come right on your face.
@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
18 Apr 10
They sure do feel they should get more space than we use to get in our days! The heck with that! I'm not going to let some little punk hurt the children who I care about!!! Thanks for your reply! Happy Mylotting
• Australia
18 Apr 10
Alot of teenage girls have hormones going in them, so that should explain the anger, but it does definitely not explain there attitude! They deserved to get kicked out of that rink. Infact they should get like a 2 month ban from it or something. Bullying is so unacceptable. When I was bullied once in highschool, let's just say I set them straight, and then I became "cool." I guess these girls think they are cool, and someone needs to tell them off so they go way down to the bottom.
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@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
18 Apr 10
These little girls were soooo nasty I felt like slapping their ugly mouths off of them! We could see them just staring down my step-daughter and so we started laughing and having a good time and I guess this got them more mad or something. Why should we let them little punks ruin a good time. When we were outside getting into our vehicle and we seen her standing with a friend she was with and she starting shouting racial slurs like she hates jews (which we couldn't understand) plus she loved her N****ers (she was african). We just thought wow that's what uneducated people do around here? Thanks for your reply! Happy Mylotting
@urbandekay (18314)
18 Apr 10
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