Do You Believe in Mr/Mrs Right

@wolfie34 (26792)
United Kingdom
November 16, 2006 5:59am CST
I believe there is NO one out there for me, so I am spending the rest of my life single. Do you believe there is a Mr/Mrs right for you?
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• United States
7 May 07
Awww I don't believe there is no one out there for you, I know there is, they are just taking their time to get to you, and believe me I have gone through years of not being with anyone special and I know how it feels. For me, I feel very fortunate right now in my life I am with a wonderful man that I love deeply and we have a very good relationship with very little arguments or disagreements, unlike most of my previous relationships. I am too much of a realist to believe in soulmates but I do believe that there is someone for everyone in this world and there is not just one but many for us that we are able to adapt to and be able to have long term relationships with, now if we are able to keep those relationships and not run them off or send them away then we truly are the blessed ones.
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
7 May 07
Thank you my friend, trouble is because I have been hurt so much in the past and have had two disastrous relationships the brick wall is well and truly up so if the right person DID come along then I wouldn't let them get anywhere near me for fear of getting hurt again so I am my own worst enemy in every respect.
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• United States
7 May 07
We all have those walls and sometimes the people in our lives try to tear them down, but the injuried souls that we are, we build it back up, no matter how much it hurts, you just have to want the wall to come down someday and are willing to take a chance is when the sun shines down brightly on us allowing us to find that one person that does not mind the wall and understands why we built it.
@dan20071 (724)
• Romania
11 Feb 07
Well.. Just think about how many people live on this planet and even if you don't want to believe it, the thought that there might be someone out there looking for someone exactly like you are will flood your mind. Your words make me believe that you were hurt by one or more women but that doesn't mean that you don't have a Mrs Right in this whole world just waiting for you, it just means that you are looking in the wrong place. Eventually, your destiny will change your point of view by showing you the contrary of your statement :). Even if you don't look, you might be found, so just get ready for that moment. Good day Wolfie ;)
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 07
Thanks Dan!
• United States
11 Feb 07
Sometimes when you're NOT looking is when you find that person that matches you so well.
@stateroad (730)
• United States
11 Feb 07
I gave up looking for Mr Right after bad relationships. I thought 1 person was Mr Right I was with him for 7 years and he dumped me when I got ill. Obviously he was not MR Right because he bailed on me when I got ill. I then met someone who I dated for over a year he was not Mr Right either because he just emotionaly and finacialy abused me. So now I am giving up trying to find him. I am single and I am ok with it. I now am afraid to really trust again. If I meet someone else how do I know he will not hurt me either.
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 07
Exactly, you hit the nail on the head! My heart is guarded with a sky high fortress and barbed wire, I have been hurt too many times, why leave yourself open and vulnerable? Some people are meant to be alone, and I have resigned myself to that fact. Thank you for sharing, appreciated.
@sechsey (1836)
• Canada
11 Feb 07
Well sometimes you dont have to try to find mr right. He will often come to you especially when you least expect him. He normally comes as well when you think you dont need any other guy in your life at all. So maybe, you dont have to look. Live your life and just relax about things. Be happy. Dont expect too much. Before you know it, itl hit you... usually hard.:) I for one have been on a few bad relationships before I found my MR Right. I also went through the stage where you would ask yourself if i am doing the right thing(marriage) and if if this is exactly the Mr right that was meant for me. I didnt believe before on Mr right or Miss right because, really, there's no right person neither is there anyone perfect anywhere in the world but there will certainly be someone who fit just nicely in your world. And who will make everything right and be right as well. hurting in a relationship is just common. We will always get hurt no matter how much we try to protect ourselves. And in loving someone hurting is often the twin. I know for a fact that when we have given too much already of ourselves and have been hurt numerous times from the past, the more we get cautious and the more we barricade ourselves from the same thing again. Its natural. We ought to learn something right? But for me, I just had to give everyone or the guy a benefit of the doubt. everyone deserves that. And it will always be a risk to love someone and especially when it's about Mr Right Someone. :)
• United States
7 May 07
i'm sorry to say it, but this discussion is making my depression worse right now. i am feeling so alone and lost and depressed lately. i always know this is going to happen around my birthday, and it seems to get worse every year. Reading this just makes me feel like maybe there is nobody out there for me. Maybe there isn't. i mean, i love my currtnt boyfriend, but it is not likely to last forever. In my situation, it is very hard to find anyon who would be interested. People just don't want to deal with my life.
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
7 May 07
Sorry you are feeling depressed, I go through black periods of depression myself. I have had relationships before where I have felt trapped, manipulated, used and abused, it's hard to realize it but sometimes I am better of being single, I couldn't go through another relationship like the last two again. Here's a virtual hug, hope that helps x
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
7 May 07
No I don't believe in that anymore. I am alone and content. I see in your picture you have a cat, at least you have a pet, where I live in my apartment building they don't allow any pets, I am hoping to move to another State where I can have a couple of dogs. My landlord is a creep, he tells the tenants, no pets which means: dogs, cats, birds, anythng that crawls or breaths and no fish either! What a loser, I hate him!
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
7 May 07
I actually have FOUR cats and a rabbit, I live with my housemate and the landlord is ok about the animals thankfully, otherwise we wouldn't have moved in 3 years ago. What a meanie of your landlord he sounds like a creature myself but I'm too much of a gentleman to say what creature LOL! Animals provide so much love, companionship and comfort. Sometimes animals are better than some humans! Thanks as always for your response my friend.
• Philippines
11 Feb 07
feel the same way before but hey don't worry you'll have somebody with you when least expected.... you'll find her, you just have to open your eyes & your heart...you might never know you already have her in your hands & yet not notice it.
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 07
Thanks for your response and welcome to Mylot.
@Naomi17 (624)
11 Feb 07
I am living proof there is met my hubby when i was 16 married him at 19 and we are still in love! Without him life would be so lonely i have someone to talk to,and hug he is my best friend sure we've had a few arguments the last one must have been at least 3 years ago lol I think you meet someone when you least expect it your a nice looking guy and a nice person don't give up on love yet!
@rosie_123 (6118)
11 Feb 07
Well funily enough, I know we were discussing this recently in another thread, - but -yes - I do, because I have found him! I didn't meet him until I was 30 though, and even managed to be married, and divorced before that time without finding "true" love, but when I met my partner, I just knew. Sorry if that sounds slushy, or cliched, but it really did happen!!!
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 07
Don't apologize, glad it worked out well for you and thank you for sharing, appreciated.
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@rosie_123 (6118)
11 Feb 07
Thank you. I think the trick is not to look for someone - if they come along then great - if not, just enjoy life without!
@melody1011 (1664)
• India
16 Nov 06
Fortunately for me I have found my Mr. Right. Keep looking and you will find her. But dont be too choosy as you might just about miss the one meant for you. Best of luck in your search for mrs. right
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
16 Nov 06
I am happy being single and I do not want to waste any more time looking. Thank you for your response, glad you have Mr Right.
@Chele2k2 (241)
24 Feb 07
It is when you stop looking, it finds you in the most unexpected places :o)
@Bizziebod (3526)
7 May 07
I think I'm going to have to agree with you! Once upon a time I did hope that there was a Mr Right out there but my hopes have faded over time by people letting me down and feel I'm so much happier and better off sometimes!
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
7 May 07
The old saying goes better off to be alone than in bad company. After two disastrous relationships I'm certainly not holding out for a third. I think society pressurizes people to be in couples and life is geared around two people rather than single people, not fair I know but the fact of life. We have to be labelled! Better off alone, yep sometimes I think some of us are better being single!
• Philippines
16 Nov 06
When you say, MR RIGHT or MRS RIGHT, it means that whoever he/she is, whatever is his/her background, it's the character that matters and the compatibility between you and him/her. If you are looking at a list where you compare the person, it's not right. It's how you connect to him/her and vice versa.
@rsa101 (16942)
• Quezon City, Philippines
7 May 07
I would guess you have a high standard when looking for your mr. right. Maybe you should lower your standards there is not such thing that will meet your every whims and ideal of it.
@mssnow (9493)
• United States
7 May 07
I do believe in mr/ms right. But you already know that. I also know that when the right person comes along you will not be single again. You will not convince me other wise Wolfie. she just hasn't shown her self to you yet. I know there is someone out there for me too. I am not looking but when they fall in my lap I will know :) Until then , You will always be my number one man lol. Wuv ya my Wolfie poo xxx
@kaka135 (14157)
• Malaysia
7 May 07
I believe there is Mr or Mrs Right for everyone. I always believe that someone is tying a red line with you. There must be someone out there. You may know him, but you may not he's the one yet. Or, you haven't find him yet, but he'll appear in front of you some day. Sometimes, you may not find him, coz you have missed him. He may appear in front of you, but you didn't realize it's him, or you just didn't appreciate it.
• Kottayam, India
7 May 07
Better to be single, and you get Mrs and starting missing but better not miss.
• Philippines
7 May 07
Hi wolfie! Well, I think there is no Mr/Ms Right. He/she becomes Mr/Ms Right because we see them like that. Maybe because of love or admiration. I'm single too right now, been separated for almost 4 years. And I think sometimes I'm better without it, gives me less headaches and heartbreaks.~~lol And eventually, if Fate permits at the right time maybe, someone will enter my life. But yet, we are still no sure if he will Mr. Right. Have a nice day Wolfie! (^^,)
• United States
7 May 07
I think there is someone out there for everyone. People have to work at finding their perfect partner, they can't just sit home all the time, or swear of friendships because how are you setting yourself up for finding the right person? You're not. You can't just do nothing and expect them to find you.
@batpig (99)
• China
7 May 07
i do believe in that... coz i once found him but...but...but at the wrong time. that is no doubt of Mr./Mrs.right, just the matter of time.
• Canada
7 May 07
Hi Wolfie, I am sure that when you are not looking the right person will come along. I believe everyone has a soulmate/mr or mrs right for them. The only crappy part is you have to go through a lot of crappy ones to get to the right one.I found my Mr.Right and I married him last March!
@raydene (9874)
• United States
7 May 07
Hey Wolfie,There is someone out there for you,Honey,and I know you will find the right one soon.You are a sweet guy and I'm sure someone will notice sooner or later. I do believe in mr/mrs right...I found my Mr Right many years ago and he's still right...lol Hugs
• United States
24 Apr 07
i definitely believe there is someone out there for everyone. If i didn't believe that i could not go on. i have someone in my life who i really love right now, and i cannot say that he is "the one" or anthing, but i do know i love him and i do know that is is right for now. i believe that even if he is not "the one," that person is out there. i believe it for you, too, Brian. i have to believe that.