When Is it Ok to forgive someone ?

@LadyBoss (253)
United States
April 19, 2010 11:09am CST
I know the best thing to do is not hold onto grudges. And you should forgive people. But to a certain extent right ? What if for example something did something to you that was so horrible ? Would you want to forgive them because " its the right thing to do "? How do you know that they wont do something like this again ?
5 responses
@irene_27 (545)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
When to forgive, I guess, depends on the gravity of the mistake. But no matter how grave the offense is, you should eventually learn to forgive the person. Based on my personal experience, holding on to grudges gives me negative feelings such that of bitterness and anger which are not actually good for our health. Grudges can stress you out, it can cause high blood pressure, depression and anxiety. Remember it's not good to carry an excess baggage in ourselves... see how much they charge you for your excess when you travel??? (I'm just joking but seems a good comparison)... :D If we don't forgive, we may be the one to pay most dearly. On the other hand, when we forgive, it gives us a kind of peace that positively helps us go on with life.
@rberon1985 (5394)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
For me it all depends on the weight of the sin of that person.If he/she murdered my closest friend,it will take sometime before i can forgive him/her?I will wait till the pain is totally gone.My father left us when I was still young.he go with another girl.I know how painful it to my mom.It is hard to raise five children.But my mom is really strong to face it all.I know and I can feel that she already forgive my dad.But with me and my siblings,the pain is in our heart.We are not yet ready to forgive him.Maybe,if someday he comes back and apologize,we can forgive him.We are only created by God,so who we are not to forgive?If god can, why can't we?We just want to hear from him why did he do that.Now, we are all graduates of different courses, with the only support of my mom.That is why if our mom ask us to buy something for her,we never regret her.We want to pay off all her sacrifices.Without her,we will not be here and we will not achieve the position in life that we have now.I know my mom can't read discussion of mine since she do not know how to use the computer but I want to say "i love you mom".All your siblings are here for you.Sorry,if I was able to discuss here about my life.It is just really nice to voice out emotions here in mylot.I hope you like it.happy mylotting.
• Philippines
19 Apr 10
Well for me the best thing to do is to release all your anger. Eventhough its hard, You have to move on with your life. You know god wants us to forgive so we better give them second chances.
@busybee10 (3191)
• India
19 Apr 10
I heard and read many a times that we have to forgive - but now a days if we forgive people they are taking undue advantage and are sitting on the heads and also troubling. How far is forgiving acceptable - please share your thoughts.
@1hopefulman (34807)
• Canada
19 Apr 10
Matthew 6:14-15 (New International Version) 14For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. _____________________________________ God wants us to forgive people. As you say, it is the right thing to do. It is also the good thing to do. We benefit emotionally, physically, and spiritually when we are a forgiving person. When someone does something horrible to us, we can still forgive but it is good to be cautious and on the watch from then on as they could repeat their horrible action. We may even have to warn others so that they don't do the same thing to others. Yes, forgive, but keep an eye on them. We may also need to confront them and let them know the horribleness of what they did. We may also need to report it to the authorities. So forgiveness does not necessarily mean forgetting what was done and letting them get away with it. Some things can be forgotten, other things must be dealt with appropriate action.