Long distance relationship:How you deal with it?

Philippines
April 19, 2010 11:23pm CST
I and my husband have been together for almost 5 years now. We just got married for more than 2 months now. For this length of time, we were only together in person for 2-3 weeks every two years. It's only this year that he came by few times already for our wedding. It's been difficult for both of us being far from each other. But even if we spend most of the time online, we could say that our love is getting stronger each day. Distance couldn't stop us from loving each other deeply. Most of the time though, it's very depressing to start and end a day without each other by our sides. We miss and long each other so much. Now that we are married already, we are looking forward to be together already for life. I just finished my papers needed to establish with him in their country, but sad to say I needed to wait for another 6 months before I can get my visa yet. No choice but to endure the longing for another few months. It's hard, but that's life! How about you? Did you experience being far from your spouse/partner? How do you deal with it? happy mylotting!
11 responses
@annierose (17416)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
hi assinertata, I have met someone here in mylot when I was new here. She was a Filipina and get married with his American boyfriend. That filipina become my friend and we do chat whenever she is online. She told me that she thought having a long distance relationship won't last but because of love, she and her boyfriend get married and able to surpass all the hardships and sacrifices being apart. She said that patient plays a vital role for the relationship to last. I can understand her because I am in a long distance relationship also. My boyfriend has a different nationality and we only communicate through online and on phone. I know how hard it is especially if there will be a time that both of you will be so busy that somehow you will think the love is not there anymore. But I can say that we must be very very patient. Hold on to God and never stop asking His guidance. He will make a way for you and your husband.
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@victorywp (3526)
• Malaysia
20 Apr 10
hi annierose! that sounds very familiar! i believe you mean aisaellis right? http://www.mylot.com/aisaellis22 it has been such a long time since the last time i saw her in mylot...
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
hi annierose! I never felt that love is not here anymore, it's always here between him and me. And if ever we get busy, it's for both of us. Communication is very constant and no relationship issue, it's just hard for the situation.
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
True Love conquers all, that's what they say and I guess that's true. Me and my boyfriend have been together for less than a year. I known him for less than two years. We came from different nation but still understand each other though sometimes, we had an arguments with a nonsense thing which I think, it's normal to every relationship. We live a long distance relationship bcoz of his job, but through the help of our modern technology nowadays, we can able to talk and see each other everyday. Yes it's really hard to have long distance relationship, coz you can see the one you love through cam and you can talk to him but you cannot be beside me. Sometimes messages on mails can be deceiving but the most important there is the real love you feel to each other. We can handle this kind of situation bcoz we both know each other well. Maybe we're not together now but Im sure we will be together in the near future. We are planning to live together as soon as possible. Love will lead us to the right way. So everyone who has the same situation like us, just be patient and Love rules everything.
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
I agree. I am glad you understand my post that well. It seemed I was misunderstood by others. I am glad also with the modern technologies that keeps our communication constant, although we still wish to be beside each other, that no computer screen blocking us, that we can feel our warmth, no connection failures anymore and most importantly that we can finally share every single moment together as in physically and in person. Thank you for your response.
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
The topic is very interesting. No matter what happen you must follow what your hearts' desire. Long distance relationship doesn't matter as long as you really love each other. As what they say "absence makes your heart grow more fonder". Just keep on communicating, and don't forget to say "i love you" any time of the day. In my case, I work as a Overseas contract worker (OFW)and I have only annual vacation to spend my time with my wife and my two kids. But my love is still there to give them guidance and brighter future. We have almost the same plan in my life to spend together with for the rest of our life with our family. Now, we are working on processing our papers to live in other country as one family.
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• Philippines
21 Apr 10
We never missed a day to spend time together, and we have no problems with communication, trust or whatsoever. Just sharing my feelings because we both look forward for the day that we can live together as a couple already and start to build our family. Our love is too deep, and we trust and respect each other, no question in these sense. Just sharing feelings.
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
my husband and I have been in a long distance relationship for about 3 years now. it's especially hard now because we're newlyweds and I feel it is only appropriate that we stay together on our first year. it's tough but we just have to stay positive and hope that one day we'll be together again.
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• Philippines
21 Apr 10
I could relate. We're newlyweds also, and that's what we are looking forward now, to get my visa and finally live together. happy mylotting!
@jazzbabe (166)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
Hello! Good to know your relationship reached that long despite the distance. I believe that distance does not interfere two people truly inlove. I still believe in long distance relationships to work, so long as communication is constant and regular. And that there should be mutual trust and faith. Best wishes to both of you and to other couples! :)
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• Philippines
21 Apr 10
Thank you jazzbabe. Indeed we are happy also that our bonding is getting stronger despite of distance. We are maturely in love, and both of us are committed to our relationship, and we would never miss a day to talk to each other most of the time. happy mylotting!
@cthawa80 (42)
20 Apr 10
my husband and i also living apart until this July. Since both of us are student, study commitment is our priority. I'll be going back for good after finish my course here in UK. Well....it is not easy to live on your own since you know that there is someone you can depend for. For me, i still can live alone but sometimes i feel so depress and need him sometime to cheer me up. The important thing in long distance relationship is trust. Don't always busy make a call and asking where is your partner is. Its look like that you are not believe in your partner at all. Just call to make sure each other circumstances. Good luck!! My husband and i spend almost all the time online. It's work. Not so high in cost plus you able to do others work. I'm doing the same thing. I'm doing my homework while online.
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
I think you misunderstood my post. I never doubted my husband, we strongly trust each other. What I am sharing here is my feelings of longing for him, looking forward to live with him. I got busy with my papers to get a visa so I can finally live with him in their country. And we always talk everyday, we spent most of our time online. I am not complaining about my husband, because I had no complains about him, even we're far from each other now, he always make sure that he's here with me all the time, especially when I process my papers. Please my co-mylotters, understand well the post before you respond.
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
My bf is a seaman and ours is also long distance but he calls everyday maybe all you need to do is assure each other that you love each other and one day there will be a time that the two of you will be together.JUST MAKE IT WORK.DON'T THINK OF THE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
• Philippines
21 Apr 10
Feelings and thoughts are different. I never think negative thoughts, it's just feelings of longing for him, because I miss him so much. We do talk everyday, and we support each other, but it's still different to have each other physically. In few months we'll be together.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
20 Apr 10
Time and distance apart is hard enough to take. Your heart is torn. you want to be with the one you love but the miles are too many. Keep love and trust and the relationship will survive no matter what the trials or circumstances may be. Love and trust are the strongest bonds any relationship has to have to succeed.
@agv0419 (3030)
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
You are Filipino too! Congrats to both of you even if you are very far from each other but you are succeeded. Long distance relationship is very hard and I salute both of you because you beat the odds.
@maikeruk (406)
• Germany
20 Apr 10
though question, i had one with a girl for almost 3 years we got separated after short time of been together by work stuffs and was weird we got so use to that that when we got together again we end up splitting. we got so use to just miss each other in the distance that once we got together after so long wasnt the same after a while.
• Philippines
20 Apr 10
since i do not have a partner till now, let me take the experience with my best friend... well that's it... we know we're best friends... that's it. very limited communication. but the relationship is what that matters.
@caiye786 (95)
• China
20 Apr 10
As the old saying ,if you are deeply in love ,though living faraway from each other ,you will feel he is near with you .the old also said that after a long parting ,the couples will like newly -married couples .in fact ,it seems change ,long distance relationship result many negative matter s.such as misunderstanding ,it needs too energy to keep the relationship ,how tired !