dysfunctional family

@kquiming (2999)
Philippines
April 21, 2010 6:40pm CST
my dad has a very dysfunctional family. they eldest brother is a raging alcoholic who doesn't have a job and only relies on his younger brothers and sisters for money. On top of that, their mother is a real byotch. I might seem to be the bad guy here, dissing everyone and everything in the house -- but I've had enough. Enough of the chaos and yelling and sometimes even violence whenever my uncle comes home effing drunk. He's their mom's favorite (my grandmama) so he gets easily away with it -- but who suffers the most is their youngest sibling. she's always acting the middle person trying to be peacemaker and get everyone to calm down. GOD I THINK I'M GONNA BE INSANE IF I HAVE TO STAY ANOTHER DAY HERE. Actually I don't even have to be here in the first place -- I don't live here. But as grandchildren, we're all required to spend a week of the vacation here in HELL*. So what else can I do, but groan. :o Sorry if I bored you with my sad story... :(
3 responses
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
I feel for you kquiming. I was raise in a not so good environment. My dad and my aunt (Rest in Peace) are the only responsible persons in their family. I am a product of a disheartened family, my parents separated when I was 7 0r 8 years old and I had to put up living under the care / custody of my grandparents since my father is a seaman. I still vividly remember the scenarios happening daily where tables were laid for mah-jong activities, drinking spree was my uncles way of life even in the wee hours in the morning, a lot of cursing and fist-fighting too especially when they get to become toxic. I thank God for sparing me from adapting their viscious system. I promised myself to create a God-fearing, clean-living family where Christ is in the center and the main model. Just be patient, try to reach out and know if there's any way way you can help them with their problems. Make a difference. God bless.
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
1 May 10
that's what i've been saying to myself too -- i promise it won't be like this when i make a family of my own. thanks for sharing your story here, it feels good to know someone who can relate to what i'm saying.... i know it's not gonna be easy, but, it's not hopeless. nothing's impossible ;p
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
i know its realy hard in that situation. also ive never experience but i think there a thing i can advice to you. prove to them that your different. finish your studies. if your working right now do your best in your job. focus on that but also dont forget them. also give them attention. always lean unto God. always pray because i know God can do everything. i hope it could help you.
@Trensue (5265)
• United States
22 Apr 10
I am guessing if it is that bad you should confront your parents and choose not to participate. Life is full of choices.