What do you think of those people who don't act proper in churches?

Philippines
April 21, 2010 7:36pm CST
To be honest, I am so sick and tired of the people that go to churches who do not even know how to dress properly. I mean the Lord accepts everyone who enter to His temple but these people should start realizing that they are going to visit the house of our Creator so why wear plunging necklines and short skirts? Can't we manage ourselves to be descent in front of the Lord? And please stop chatting especially if its time to hear the Lord's Gospel. I am saying this because last Sunday I saw three young girls and boy entered a church. You will notice them because they were chatting and pinching each other as if they were in a mall. Two of them are dating I suppose. Why? because when they sat in front of my seat the boy's arm was all over her girl all through out the mass. Have you had the same experience also?
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@ajarvaise (453)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
In our church (I'm not a Catholic and no offense to anyone), we always dress properly according to the church dress code. No skirts above the knees, no plunging necklines, no sleeveless blouses, and no unnecessary chatting. It's our way of showing respect when inside the house of the Lord. So far, I have seen some of what you've described in other churches. Some even use going to church as a form of dating. I think the ones in authority should at least implement a dress code or at list the do's and dont's inside the church. I mean, we are going there to hear the Word of God and to worship Him. Can't we at least show some respect and conduct the proper attitude inside the church? He is not just anybody like our boss. HE IS OUR GOD, OUR CREATOR. The least we can do is show some respect.
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
22 Apr 10
I've seen a few people walk in with questionable clothing like there was a grown woman that had a dress on so short she bent just a tiny bit and got a view of her butt which didn't look like it was covered with underwear and some of the dresses that I see the females in are way too tight. As for behavior most of the young people at my church are actually very well mannered. At least in the church service. Not sure how they act in the morning classes though.
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• Philippines
27 Apr 10
we have both in common egonzales, i'm also sick and tired having seen with my two eyes people who acted differently in the church, Frankly speaking, people who do not behave or people who may act properly inside the church don't have any respect of the church where he belong. He should be pleasing to all people, Churches is not a dating place or talking nonsense inside the church.
@jd107nette (1454)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
me too! i find it hard to accept that there are still people who contradict the simple requirements in church.. although i know that it wasn't God's commandment to dress properly, i think it's pretty much understandable to do so. Also, i do not like people who gossip in the church.. they talk like they're the only ones around.. Many would pick the church as their meeting place and they would even date inside and be intimate.. yeah that really happens a lot.. i hope they could choose other places like parks and malls and give respect to those who are praying
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
22 Apr 10
Acting properly in church should be a given. We need to show respect while we are attending church. If we are disrespectful in church, we will certainly show disrespect in other places. If parents teach their children how to properly behave in church in their early years, they will have less problems as they grow older. Good behavior needs to follow us daily. Church services are a good starting point.
• United States
28 Apr 10
prayer is the answer, these kids I will say are not mature and the the Devil trys to use them without them knowing it to keep your mind off the Word of God. Pray for them and also it is good to talk to the pastor , or preacher about it and maybe the kids themselves in front of an elder of the church in the right way. perhaps ask how did you like the service today? I was hopeing you kids would calm down for I could hear it. The best is to Pray the Lord to send someone to them to talk with them to them about the Lord . God will send the right one to talk. I rememeber once a lady spoke in church that she laughed about the way OTHERS dressed, she laughed at the ones that cried and prayed and guess what??She herself NOW tells about it and is a great worshipper of God and sings and loves the Lord, why? because the righteous prayed for her but never cast her out but prayed and the Lord showed her the way....raise a child the way it should go and it will not depart from them..
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
every bit of word you said is true, sometimes these people are being use by the devil to distract children of God and the best thing to do is to ignore and pray for them. Happy day!!
@wavelander (1526)
• Portugal
22 Apr 10
Well, i'm not much a church lover but i think people should respect in some aspects like not being almost naked, talking loud with others... If you don't want to respect, don't go.
@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
22 Apr 10
I agree with you some woman invited me to her church when I moved into this neighborhood I said well after you get ready for church come by she informed me she was ready she was in a tanktop they showed everything an her short shorts were yuk an of course she was wearing flipflops I was taught to at least be presentably in church
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
22 Apr 10
I no longer attend church but I think the same pretty much goes for any gathering where there is a speaker. I don't much care about how people dress. What I do care about is how they act. The giggling and clowning around is rude and distracting. I think the speaker should stop and address these people right there in front of everyone. If that doesn't quiet them then they should be asked to leave. You would think that if they took the time to attend that they would want to hear what is being said. Apparantly thats not the case. Still, others are there to listen and it is unfair to them to have to try to hear above people that don't have any respect.
@rosegardens (3034)
• United States
22 Apr 10
Kids will be kids, and unfortunately it sounds like someone is not available to guide them properly. It is annoying to be exposed to someone's careless exposure especially in church, but also in other public places such as grocery stores, restaurants, etc. All that can be done is pray, and if you feel bold enough perhaps stick a pamphlet in their hands regarding dress and chastity. I'm certain there are some pamphlets available online regarding these things.
22 Apr 10
you know. we can't blame the way they act. you can't even tell to their faces to stop what they are doing. why? because you are a nobody. you know what. for me. people who do this kind of things in churches or in public has no sense of privacy. because they want people to see what they are doing. but you know what. here in our country. we set rules in our churches. people who wear short skirts and plunging necklines never had the chance to go in front of the church to get the communion. though we have this policies. we don't remove their right and obligation to serve the church. so we allow them to enter the the church. :)
@markleob (1902)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
well, not in my church because the christian denomination where i am now a member emphasized to the members on how to dress properly while in the house of God.. before i am a member of the church that doesnt care what the attire of the member is... . i feel like, wow, it is insulting the religion and just letting others commit sins as well.
@ivansama (758)
• Bulgaria
22 Apr 10
hah l don't care about how people act in churches. A church is just a building and you should act dress and talk just like you do in any other public place. Good thing l don't go to churches tho.l hate when people "shush" me.
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
Yeah, same experience... Well, you cannot blame them, maybe they're too young to realized all those things. I guess, they're family is not well-mannered. Family should be the one who taught this kind of things. My mother usually tells me, if you're going to a church be sure not wear indecent dress/clothes. You have to respect the church and our Lord.
@JAYMAR777 (840)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
That is a good opinion about going to church. I go to a young church which doesn't have a lot people yet, and were all people know each other. So in other words those kind of things doesn't really occur. But with regards to bigger churches were people doesn't know each other, or they just come and go, it should be best that they should practice the right etiquette to place were they are in. I agree God accepts everyone but people should make sure that they don't distract everyone by what they wear and what they do. I guess those 4 people you have seen in church are there for the sake of going to church and appease God somehow, but their hearts are not really for the Lord.
@chabawel (329)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
Hi there....I agree with what you say about proper decorum while attending a mass or service. But, unfortunately, not everyone is dressed properly and accordingly to where they are. But if I know an elder in the church,I will ask the elder to talk to those people who are not dressed right. That is the proper way of handling this, actually.The elder will speak to them and be righteous about the proper way of being presentable in attending a service or a mass. Approaching an elder means you have done something about it. And we, of course, have to set example all the time for our brethen on how to dress properly and accordingly so as not to stir or draw attention from other people attending the mass or service. Happy mylotting.
• Malaysia
22 Apr 10
i attend church on sunday. most are decently dressed though there are some not so well dressed for the service. a church is a place of worship and listening to God's Words. to me proper attires is the norm. again i dont know about other customs and cultures. i dressed up in blouse or skirt, medium or long length. at times i wear pants with collar t shirts or blouses. i put on shoes or high heel slippers. thanks egon for sharing.
• India
22 Apr 10
may be unwillingly they go to church to show others that they r not atheist but from inside they dont respect the all mighty may be their ego dont let them do that and hence they behave like this
@laniekins (4579)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
I've seen a lot of them and I hate it whenever I saw improper dress. It makes me wonder if they are only going to church to walk in the cat walk or if they wanted to be seen or they are just fashionistas. The worse is the midnight mass, teenagers go to church just to meet their friends and crushes.
@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
22 Apr 10
I also experience that one and I would I say what a nerve she has. I really dont know why they are dressing up as if they are just going to the mall or to the party. They will expose everything when they are in the house of our Lord. It's really irritating to look at them wearing those clothes that way. I dont know why they parents could not say anything to wear some decent clothes, because even the mother is also wearing sleeveless, backless clothes. duhhhh It is always like this every sunday, never happened that I went to church all the people could wear decent clothes.