why do we have to please everybody?

Philippines
April 23, 2010 5:12am CST
it is not that i am not friendly,,, it is just i don't like to please everybody... why do i have to please everybody or anybody? if they do not like me, so fine..whatever,,, if they do not like the way i speak or treat them, k fine... everybody is different.. we live in different lifestyle..so there is no need to please everybody isn't it... people just need to accept who i am and what i am... they can not change me.. if they will change me just to fit on their tastes, then i will be just as hypocrite, won't i? oh people...
24 responses
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
23 Apr 10
my thing on this, if i am alright with them then the respect should be there. we cant make everyone happy, we must make ourself happy first, but as long it dont hurt people we love or like. or if it means us being nasty towards stranger. i am the sameway if someone dont like me because of my bleife and life stlye. or just how i see things. oh well. what you see is what you get. i refuse to change my ways to make people happy, mostly strangers. i was once why i was worry a t shirt that had a picture of the devil on it and said born to raise hell. the doctor asked me i had it on ? simple no a/c in my truck. then he was like it shows i have a bad attuide and i dont care what anyone think of me. yeah i dont care what anyone think of me, and it dont show i have a bad attuide. but as you are polite and respectful to everyone then dont worry about it.
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
yeah they surely will...we can't please them at least we are honest to each of the people we meet and know...
• United States
23 Apr 10
i know i am, i tell people who wants to be my friends. i dont have money, i dont have a big house, or a fansty car. i dont wear designer clothes. i aint all that smart. what i belive in is for me, i wont push it off on you, and dont push off what you belive in on me. but here i am the real deal, like it or leave it i dont care. i even tell family the samething. i am not going to change for no one at all. i will not change my point of veiw for them either. came in this world alone, i can go out alone too
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
well, i learbed to go out alone too,,, before i can never go out alone, but now i already learned,, because everyone can never be pleased and sometimes they just make things worst...
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
23 Apr 10
No one doesn't have to please everyone by sacrificing one's self esteem.. Your post makes me feel that you sacrifice your own pride, while striving to please others. That is not healthy! I keep a safe and happy relationship with everyone around. If I don't like anything, my actions speak louder- or rather, my silence speaks for me... And after some time, people realise their mistakes and ask to be forgiven...
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
it was not i really tried hard just to please everybody..it is just to my experience that a person will not really understand who i am.. that person may say how many times i already did that thing to him/her and he/she will say i am being so humiliating... so if he/she really knows me why can't she understand who i really am? i do not know, that is why i have questioned do i have to do everything just to please that person? if he/she will not understand me why shoul i work hard just to please him/her?
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
24 Apr 10
I agree with you... Striving to please friends or relatives to an extent is alright... But it would be inhuman to expect us to go the extra mile and hurt our own pride and strive to please others... I can't do that... You can't do that... And I assure you that no one will do that ever.... Have a good time!
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
yes i think u dont like to please people you dont belong here browse for the meaning of netiquette if u still cant understand what wikipedia says about it message me and i will explain it to you
• Philippines
25 Apr 10
waaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh please stop being mean okay.. if that is what you really think of me, i will not force you to like me...
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
will, that is what who really you are! at least you are truth to yourself., to please everybody is very normal to me., i easily please to anyone because of the environment where i belong., sometimes to pleasing to everybody can influence people surrounded you who are very friendly., pleasing people can make them to encourage to do things and challenge them to do good things to other.,
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
pleasing people may be one of your best assets... keep up bro...
@airasheila (5458)
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
Hi Shigeraldz, You are absolutely right. What you have said is perfect. For me, we are not liable to please everybody. Since we are different to one another. However, there are some situations that might need our sense of sensitivity. There are times, what is fine with us might not be fine with others. Like for example, in closing the doors, to others, its alright with them if they just close it and bagged it down, but for me, doors must be close gently. Especially if you are living in a flat or boarding house.
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
i do not mind them now actually... they may not agree to all that i do and say at least i am just being me...
@Triper (71)
• Portugal
24 Apr 10
Nobody is perfect, just try to do your best and ignore the bad people. Nobody has to please everybody is just that there are times that you need to and other times that you've to or something bad can happen if not. Is the life and the world we've, sometimes people need to do sacrifices to progress in life.
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
yes nodoby is really perfect. even others pretend that they do....
@anne25penn (3310)
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
I have given up trying to please everybody when I was nine. At that age, I have realized that people will hate hate you for the smallest reason possible, and I'm not even talking about kids here. I have learned that no matter how hard you strive, there will always be a teachers pet. Same goes at work where you are more productive, but since the boss doesn't see you in the smoking area, you won't get promoted.
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
yes people will hate you in even smallest reason possible.
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
try to please anybody by making friendship then.. if you are planning to run this election, now during this campaign period you should be intellegent and planned it will you should gain friendship and don't ever try to snab anybody., by making friends then you can please everybody not only that, do some helpful project specially for the youth and do proposal. if you noticed that somebody do not like your attitude then try to study his attitude., so that you can please him.
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
i am not a politician... i just wanted to be true to myself..and if they can not accept me..so be it...
@dqdovute (62)
• Bulgaria
23 Apr 10
We must be friendly with all other peoples , we must respect them if we want from them to respect us like we do.If somebody don`t like us ,this is his problem , we don`t care about it , we live our life , enjoy it with friends happily and so.He can pay as out of his attention.
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
i respect people... but sometimes other people do not respect me.. it seems like they should be the one to be only pleased and i am sick of it... not a give and take relationship...
@missweety (628)
• Latvia
23 Apr 10
Hi! I have been living like I live, trying to be myself, talking what's on my mind but just recently, I saw that my words sometimes really hurt people, here is not a talk about lying to other people but sometimes it is better just not to say everything just because people get hurt. According to Bible you have to treat people good, love them like you love yourself. And then life will love you. You will see how many things just go your way. Don't you have sometimes a feeling that all troubles just happen to you and without any reason. Why just you? All starts from your inside! Be happy, friendly to other people, don't think bad about other and life will treat you good!!! Everything will go your way! And of course - you can be yourself! Be happy and happy mylotting!
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
if we can't say anything good about somebody it is better not to say anything..that is why i just shut up my mouth and do not say anything at all...
@markleob (1904)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
well if you were to ask me about it, i dont really do things just to please somebody or anybody... as long as i am happy with what i am doing then that is already okay for me...
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
yeah as long as we are happy with everything we do. it is not a problem anymore...
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
23 Apr 10
We just think we need to please everybody. It is our way of gaining acceptance from others. First we need to please ourselves and be happy from the inside. After we achieve this we can try to please someone else. As long as we are pleased with ourselves, anything else is an extra reward.
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
but though no matter how hard we tried to please and still they don't... they don not deserve to be pleased...
@mackiejp (376)
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
Not all people in this world we can please and we are not required to conform to how they think or act. We are all unique individuals and we tend to change not for the reasons that people want us to change but because it is our freewill to change. As long as you have not hurt anyone then go on, do what exactly you think is best for you.
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
yes as long as we have not hurt them, as long as you know what you did and it is right, there is nothing to worry about. Go for the day, go for your life.
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
we don't have to please everyone because no matter how we try, we actually can't. people will have comments or talk about you but after a while it will just pass but people who cares for you will accept you for who you are.
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
yes we do not really have to please everybody. if he can not accept who we are then he is losser...
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
i used to be like that before. but then i realized that i cannot please everybody and then later on, i'm beginning to lose my self identity. so i stopped doing it. it doesn't matter anymore if they don't agree to what i say or do. what's important is that i know for myself that i haven't hurt anyone around me, and i like what i'm doing. so what i did is the other way around. i don't wanna be hypocrite. it's up to them now if they like me or not. i just wanna be true to myself.
• Philippines
23 Apr 10
yeah, it is now up to them whether they will like me or not... the fact is i was not being hypocrite..
@benny128 (3621)
23 Apr 10
we don't have to please everyone, and I certainly don't lol, I rub a lot of people up the wrong way and people find me arogant some times. But I in my opinion ain't I am very confident which comes across arogant sometimes but if people do not like me or find me offensive or arogant then its not really my problem lol, I live my life the way I want too and think live should be lived and my main priority is my family above anybody else. So not try and please everyone as you don't have too in this life.
@benny128 (3621)
23 Apr 10
excuse all the typo's lol its early in the day here lol,
@piya84 (2589)
• India
24 Apr 10
Hiii there If you are talking about your work place then yes there are many offices where back politics flourish and you have to be in team and please your boss no matter how the treat you.Best way is to be your own boss and start working for yourself. You are right but world isnt a perfect place and there some bad things and good things out there.
@charylady (424)
• Philippines
24 Apr 10
katie couric (the CBS Evening News anchor) says "you can't please everyone and you can't make everyone like you". everyone is different and we have to be true to ourselves. people will just have to accept us for what we are. we can't be happy if all we think about is how to please everyone else.
@busybee10 (3191)
• India
23 Apr 10
Pleasing some one makes us feel that we are dependent up on him/her - and there are chances of taking advantages of these weaknesses also. Yes - to move on in this society and balance our works there are some unique occasions wherein even though you have sufficient knowledge about the subject e3ven then you have to please the party. For example - my boss is a US resident and I am working with him - though I can manage things myself because of my enormous experience I have to pleas him obeying his commands -this is because he is paying for me only for this I have to please him.
@deejgeek (192)
23 Apr 10
We really shouldn't please anybody. Because we should be ourselves. So what if they will not like our attitude or the we are. The good thing is we are living our life to the fullest without thinking about the thoughts of people around us. Don't mind them. It is just a waste of time.