favoritism

Philippines
April 25, 2010 1:16am CST
is it okay to have favorite/s among your own children?
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10 responses
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
25 Apr 10
Well yes i have a favorite among my children, its my wife. He is my favorite of all! And next is my kids..
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
nice one there! yah... i think my hubby is my eldest! coz men never grow up!!! hehehe
• Bulgaria
25 Apr 10
it is an old-know truth - all children are loved by their parents, but some are more loved than the others maybe it is not "ok", but i guess it is something natural - although they are your own children, they are also different persons and you like some of them more i think the right thing is to give equal care and attention to all of them even if you all know one of them is your favorite
• Philippines
25 Apr 10
very well said!
3 Jun 10
I dont think there should ever be favourites among your children. Yes, there will always be one child who is better at something and another who is better at something else though nothing should make a parent show favouritism. Unfortunately it happens all the time - I know I felt the odd one out with my brothers and sisters though I dont know if that was so much as my mum showing favouritism or more what children growing up always feel at some point
@junrapmian (2169)
• Philippines
8 May 10
I don't think so. It will be a reason for rivalry among siblings. And besides, it will build ill feelings with each other. I want my children to be close at each other and treat each other not only his/her brother/sister but also his/her best friend. If there would be favoritism among them, they will also have some ill feelings to their parents and that I don't want to happen.
@Eppie2010 (509)
• Philippines
14 May 10
Do you have kids already? I have 3 and my 2nd child is my favorite, why? because she's so hardworking, organized, likes to study, etc. BUT I NEVER SHOW IT not even to her. But of course I love them all very much no matter how naughty or stubborn my eldest and youngest kids are. It's just sometimes parents can't help to have favorites but for me I make it a point not to show it.
• China
8 May 10
Having a favorite child is unfair for other children. I think parents should be fair for their children.
@syndibee (799)
• United States
6 May 10
I think the attention a parent gives each of their children has to be different. This is often misunderstood as "favortism" I really don't think many parents have a favorite child but they recognize what each of their children needs to grow and become a complete independent individual. As someone else mentioned, some children need more than others. When this happens people automatically assume that child is the favorite. It is not right to have a true favorite, If this were to happen then that person really shouldn't have more than one child. It is right to recognize the differences within your children and respond to that.
@shibham (16977)
• India
25 Apr 10
hi asherra... no, i don't think that it is right to have a favorite child among own children. have a nice day.
• United States
26 Apr 10
i don't know if you call it favortie some of them need alittle more help than other and they our alittle more affection in there own way but i do know that parent do have there specal one
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
25 Apr 10
I don't think so- but it happens all the time. I think that parents should give equal attention to their children so no one will feel left out or unloved. Nothing good comes from favoritism...