How do you deal with a bf/gf who is insecure about your loyalty?

Philippines
April 26, 2010 2:30am CST
I give my girl friend flowers and try to make remember little things which seems to be very important to her. Example: her birthday, the first movie we went to, and first kiss.
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@sugaree (109)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
I just tell him that I love him, all the time.. Even when he least expects it. Of course, i supplement it with actions that show how much i care for them. It doesn't have to be in the form of material things. Sometimes, the little acts of love that are sometimes overlooked are what make people feel special. :D
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• Philippines
26 Apr 10
Yes. Girls are very keen to dates and firsts. hekhek. Am I girl?guess not because i'm not so good with dates. I'm so oblivious to dates actually.hehe.I'm more of a guy.LMAO. But seriously, i can't remember things of the past and dates. I usually don't look at the calendar.So, I really do understand you boys if you don't remember something.
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@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
well, that only shows that he is indeed insecure, he needs a reassurance, or he himself is not being loyal thus pushing the blame on you. it could be of many things, actually when someone is acting with such insecurity. I would rather talk to the person and point out there is nothing to worry about the relationship. You both should know that you are loyal to each other, and that you love each other too much to cause such pain. if he insists on what he thinks and feels and has no chance of listening... i guess you ought to have a break with him until he realizes the truth.
@weasel81 (2502)
• Australia
26 Apr 10
hmmm it's hard depends on how insecure they are about things. my ex was reall bad and then when my ex sis-inlaw had an affair. the accuastions of me having on got even worse. eventually start of last yr, my ex changed the tone of the accusations. it was more serious, he was for ever saying i was having it off with my work mate. even thou i wasn't, it ended with me not being able to help or go near my work mate out side work hrs jsut to keep him quite and not accuse me of anything. sometimes it doesn't matter what you do they will always feel insecure about something.
@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
26 Apr 10
joedollarhuat, Technically, jealousy belongs to some rudimentary emotions - same level as anger - just that it's even harder to eradicate, but it's almost as destructive as anger in impact when overwhelmed. I think the great thing about Love is that it alone will allow anyone to experience an entire gamut of emotions and humans should always learn to deal with them. But when it comes to different emotions, our ability to handle them varies according to one's personality and psychological archetype. Learn to understand what's going in and out of your love's emotions and learn to study them. Then gradually engineer it in such a way that it could make her life a whole lot easier and implement it as part of both your core values and mindsets. The key to evolve our emotional flaws is to work from within. Superficial solutions and actions are usually short term and does not address the root of problem. Take care.