Could he still recognize and respect his mother?

@eil_noz (963)
Philippines
April 26, 2010 3:00am CST
I have a cousin whose parents are in abroad. My Auntie, who served as a mother to him were the one's who's taking care of him ever since he was young till now that he's 4 years old. I can observe that his mother doesn't loved him that much that's why he grew up to be somewhat stubborn and hard-headed. If ever that his mother be home and take care of him before he turns 5, do you think that the mother can win back my cousin's love?
3 responses
@beesm17 (107)
• United States
26 Apr 10
I think that it could happen, but its not going to happen over night. she is going to have to want him to and want to be around. at this age he is going to know if she wants to be around and if she doesnt then hes not going to want to be around her. I hope that everything works out for all of them.
@eil_noz (963)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
Hopefully beesm! I really pity the condition of my cousin who wasn't able to be with his mom because his mother would prefer being in abroad to work than taking care of his own son.
@beesm17 (107)
• United States
26 Apr 10
Yeah I dont know how people do that. You carry this baby around for 9 months and then you just leave it? I know somepeople do it for good reasons, but I know that I could never do it.
@eil_noz (963)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
yeah women not thinking on the family that they're creating. That pisses me off!Somehow whatever reason it could be it's unfair for the child not to be able to experience a mother's love. Thanks for commenting
@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
Nothing is impossible at this very young age. There's a saying that goes...love begets love. Happy mylotting :-)
@eil_noz (963)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
I believe in that too maharlikah! same to you, happy mylotting!
@beesm17 (107)
• United States
26 Apr 10
I think that hes at the point where he knows what a mom is though and its going to be harder. If he was under one then I think it would be easier for all involved.
@eil_noz (963)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
definitely bessm! It will be very though for his mom to prove to his son that she's a good mother
26 Apr 10
Hi there, 4yrs old is still young so it could depend how long the gap is. The motherly love and connection theory tends to be similar to animals in the sense that the child will always feel a special connection with its mother and this can normally only be forcibly broken at a later age. With humans its called 'being a teenager' ;) Animals have a similar thing whereby they can become ambivalent towards a parent and either move on or loiter an seethe a while. Have a nice day
@eil_noz (963)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
Maybe my cousin would recognize his mother but isn't there a big possibility that the my auntie who takes good care of my cousin would be most loved by my cousin instead of her mother
@beesm17 (107)
• United States
26 Apr 10
I think that he is always going to think of his aunt as a mother no matter how close he gets to his mother. He is use to her and he will probably think of her as his mom.