To Adopt or Not?

Philippines
April 26, 2010 11:41am CST
Do you think adoption is okay? I mean there are stories and films of true to life stories of adopted kids killing their adoptive parents/families. What are the pros and cons of adopting a child? Just what is the exact figure of these bad adoption cases? My family says that adoption is not good. Me and my other unmarried cousin thinks of adopting kids one day and the family is against it. They would rather have us adopt our kin and blood instead of someone else's. What do you think? In the process of child adoption do the center ever tells you about the background of the child? Do they ever withhold certain vital info about the child or do they tell you out right? Do you ever get to know the parents or not? Cab anyone shed some light please?
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
29 Apr 10
There are a couple different types of adoptions, and I really think that all of them are okay as long as your heart is in the right place. Yes, there are some horror stories that come from adoption, but in the grand scheme of things, these are the exception to the rule, not the norm at all. Now, for the different types of adoption, there are open adoptions and closed adoptions. With open adoptions you can know about the child's background and you may even be able to have limited contact with the birth parents of the child. However, in a closed adoption this is not the case.
• Philippines
30 Apr 10
Thank you for this info. This is helpful...
@bwaybaby (904)
• United States
26 Apr 10
Adoption is fine. There are flukes, yes, but those are rare. I have a cousin who's a bit psychotic, and my aunt is her birth mother. It happens, but it's very, VERY rare, and normally there are signs that there are problems.... The Orphan is not real :P The pro is that you are giving a loving home to a child that doesn't have one. The con is, well...the only one I can think of is that if the child knows he or she might go through a rebellious phase as a teen and say "you aren't my real parents"... but that happens to step parents all the time and most teens go through that phase. Normally, they do tell you the background. They can't keep everything from you, not legally. Meeting the parents depend on if the parents want to meet you, not the other way around.
27 Apr 10
I never said that to my adoptive parents. I actually used to get annoyed with people who said it because they were the only parents I'd ever known and it didn't make a difference that we weren't blood related.
• Philippines
28 Apr 10
In the legal process when you adopt the agency, from what I know indirectly withhold certain vital information about the child? Yes you'll know the parents background but there are some limits that the agency will impose. I wouldn't say that adoption is not good, it depends on how you raise the child. But your family's suggestions is more favorable. To adopt a child from one of your kins is more of an advantage because, he/she belongs to your family circle. If your family resented the idea of child adoption, the best way is, not to adopt. Resenments is not easy to handle.
• United States
28 Apr 10
I believe that adoption can be a very good thing. I have 6 cousins who are adopted and who have settled into their families very nicely. I think that in order for an adoption to work out the parents need to be 100% committed to the children they are adopting and to working hard to make things work out. I sort of plan on adopting one day down the road as well.
@qamarep (4450)
• Pakistan
26 Apr 10
yes adoptio is ok but the police watch dog should be there..