How to soothe the aching heart????

wow..i am really please for you. That is a great news.Well, i have separated from my husband ( when i was dating him)for about one month. And i know how long it feels. I always call him when weekend---for hours--maybe people who had seen me call me crazy. but I know that only caused my missed become hug, so i decided to hang out with my friends and make my self busy with works. But sometimes it won't help much. then i write a diary about him, poetry, romantic words or something like that. Then when we met, i let him see my diary

hi mr_ pearl, I understand what you are feeling at this moment in time, where your heart aches because you are longing for the one you truly love despite of all the barriers set infront of you and your environment. It is a feeling of killing your time while missing her and every time days passes by, the feeling of emptiness may be filled in your heart.. But, despite of this condition you got, the love both of you shared, no matter how many distances are, the relationship still exists, becomes stronger, and make your individual lives remember the importance of the person and faith that in the end, you will find ways to be in each other arms.. This trials in your life, is a test of time, patience and understanding. A challenge for both of you to face, a guide for how are you going to deal every decisions both of you will make, a chance for both of you to fix other problems and give solutions on things in life like your family on how to accept the person you love. A good foundation of relationship that even distance cannot separate, is a spirit that you are unified, a security of love and affection that even no personal meeting at all, the calls, emails are the bridges to impart the continuous bonding, hopes, plans that will benefit both of you. This, is the time, though how crucial it is, to be strong enough and be secured that you are appreciated and being loved. That, thinking always all your plans in the future, getting married and having your own family, will happen as long love will find it's way.. In this simple ways, thinking all the good things to come your way, and the assurance that she do really love you..this will cure your aching heart..Because, you are inspired and her love will see you through, with that attachment, whatever you feel right now, she also feels.. If you want, you can make many mails to her, imparting your deep thoughts, letting her know everything so that you will feel relieved and be always inspired in life and your plans.. In fact, you are much blessed for other people do suffer heartaches caused by their loved one, which cannot be healed instantly and harder to recover from pains.. So, let this trials in your life have her as your inspiration to overcome any unwanted circumstances toward achieving your goal. HAppy mylotting..

One way is to ask God to show you the way to submit however to his will in your own and in your lady's life. But ask him and TRUST him with patience not anxiety to clear the way and the path for you. If this is his will then all will work out guickly and soon. If it is not his will then you will see that, and know he has something much better in mind for you and for her. Tell God how much you desire and ache to be with this woman and she you. And pour your heart out to him then stand back wait and let God take over. Trust him and you win.

Only once and that was eons ago. One gets smart after a while ! If you feel this strongly go get her in any way you can. Life is just too short to be unhappy. quita88

It is hard to be away from someone you love and there is no "cure" for that. But letters are such a slow way to communicate. Do you both have computers and internet service? You can make long distance phone calls thru the net at no additional charge, if you purchase the equipment. You can even get a mini camera set up to view each other on your monitor while talking. It might be worth the small investment to be able to look at each other and communicate in real time. One work of caution about long distance romance. After a while, you long for that feeling of love and sometimes your imagination creates an almost magical relationship between two people that have not shared their real lives for a long time. Things and people change over time and you are both clinging to what you had almost 2 years ago. All I am suggesting is that when you can once again be together - don't rush to the next step in your relationship. You are really starting over after so much time, so take it slow and give yourselves time to get to know each other again.

If you really want to be with her and wanted to start a family now, why do both of you have to wait for long and be miserable in the process? Why can't you come to her and be with her, so that you can start planning the future. What's keeping both of you from saying your I do's? If there's a will, there's a way...

my bf and i planned to marry before 2010.becasue 2011 is my year of birth considered in relation to the 12 Terrestrial Braches. and now he can walk to my home for 10 minutes.yes,you must say i am lucky and it sounds as if it were the nearest distance in the world. so he will be blamed for not dating with me if i can't touch his face everyday.if i were you,i would always chat with other girls.please let nature take its course.after all ,we have to keep ourselves alive.

Everyone has needs and I am not talking about just s*x; When this relationship starts to interfere with ones health you two need to consider a friendship status.... It is hard enough to keep a once a month meeting relationship let along not seeing each other for over a year..... I am not talking about our service men and women because that is a special circumstance that can not be helped

A broken heart and deteriorating relationship is not the easiest thing to overcome. So much of your soul and spirit has now bben interrupted. Time heals all wounds but we are discouraged at the length this time of healing takes. The best thing we can do for our broken hearts is to try to find something to fill the void. it makes the pain easier to bear.

I've been away from my loved one before. I used the phone to communicate with her. It was the best day ever.

Patience is what you need my friend, and lots of it. You know what they say, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder!" I had a long-distance relationship with my current hubby and I would commute (in total) 200 milese a week on the train to be with him. Eventually that took its toll so I made the momentous decision to come and live with him. That was in 2005 and we married in 2008, so I did something right! You will too.

I totally understand what you are going through. my heart aches everyday, especially if i dont hear from my sweetie. we live 900 miles apart and though we havent even said the L word... but I know the feeling is there. I am considering moving back, as that is where I am from, but I need to have a job, a place to live, etc. i used to work with him years ago and we are friends, but we started "dating" online in Feb and I saw him in early April. I know, I know-- its not much time but it feels like forever. just to talk to him is wonderful, and i wish i was in his arms right now...

If you really want to start a family with her and be with her, and the feeling is the same with her, then why do you have for long? Is there really a need to wait that much before you both say your I do's? Why can't you follow her and be with her now? If there's a will, there's a way...

Not yet mr pearl but i feel you;) i think you better extend your patience beacuse there is a right time for everything, you have to wait for the right time to come, eventhough your far from each other the good thing is that the feeling is mutual and i think you better hold on unto that for now.