Am I losing it?

@snam23 (3161)
United States
April 28, 2010 12:21pm CST
No, I'm not going crazy if that's what you were thinking. I was talking about myLot and starting discussions. I used to be able to start discussions so easily and get many responses too. I like to believe that my discussions helped at least one person. However, I have not got back my success at starting discussions. Is it because I have been away from myLot? Or because I don't spend as much time online trying to earn money? Or is it simply I am out of ideas? What do you do when you get writer's block? What do you advise me to do?
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@mysdianait (64234)
• Italy
28 Apr 10
You are not losing it - yet Maybe the users on your friend list, who used to respond to your discussions when you were active in the past, are no longer here? Or maybe they are just less active than before and have not got round to your recent discussions. I can't tell you what I do when I get writer's block, assuming that I have had it, because my problem is the opposite. I have many ideas for discussion topics and no time to post them. I just spend my time rsponding and commenting until I get a couple of days off together and then I will start one. Whatever you do, don't stop posting and get back to comment to us like you used to do before. That's what Lotters like
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@snam23 (3161)
• United States
29 Apr 10
I believe that my friends aren't as active as before but I know how that feels as I'm not any more active than they are. I guess I was being a little selfish. I feel like I had a presence on myLot and had lost it over the time I hadn't been here. I hope to rebuild it by becoming at least a little more active, but more importantly, I hope I can help others. I always write down my ideas as I usually forget them when I do have the time. Now a days I type it on my computer or iPod touch or even my cell phone. Something is always within reach and it helps to write notes down. The problem is when you have too many notes! I guess I will just have to start from the beginning, responding to others discussions and even reading them without responding. ^For that rule, I have decided to try to respond to everyone within 24 hours. Hopefully they won't have forgotten it by then.
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@hora_fugit (5430)
• India
28 Apr 10
I think the break really puts a brake on our momentum. We expect the things to be more or less same as when we left. And somehow they never are. Some members are less active, some are absconding and the new topics are introduced etc etc. I returned after two good years, so you can imagine what I went through My advice is don't try to be just like before. If things have to be that way, they gradually will. Take your time answering and relax. I guess no one can resist you...
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@snam23 (3161)
• United States
29 Apr 10
Wow, that is exactly how I feel every time I return from a long break! You described it so well. That is interesting advice. I thought that maybe by actively participating in discussions again I could find my old self. But maybe I have to learn to adapt as time passes and things change. I was never good at this But I will definitely take your advice. It is something I feel that can applies to life as well. Thanks so much!
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• India
29 Apr 10
Keep participating, but don't have any expectations for some time. That will make you more relaxed i hope...
@snam23 (3161)
• United States
29 Apr 10
Yeah, I guess I will have to give up that payment for April.
• Philippines
28 Apr 10
Same here. I am not very good in starting discussions. At least here in mylot. I enjoy responding to 'em tho. There are people who seems to have that special gift of wondering why, what, where and how - hence allowing them to explore possibilities. A question that leads to another. And VOILA! They have an instant discussion. I realized tho, that most based their discussions from their every day life activities. I guess you can always start with that. Recollect what happened within the day. Pick one and focus on that and explore all angles and begin asking yourself those questions... "why, what where, and how" I don't know if it'll work for you. Just hoping I can help you out a bit.
@snam23 (3161)
• United States
29 Apr 10
I think it may seem like that to those that like to respond more than start discussions, but for me it is not like magic. I think about an idea before posting it. I ponder it a lot and many times, I won't post it simply because I think it is not worth it. But I guess it is the right idea. Asking the right question can lead you to a very interesting and interactive discussion. But I have found what mylotters like to respond to and that is part of it all. Wow, I was actually going to do that! I had a very sad and emotional experience today during school and wanted to post it! Yes, you did help me out a lot! I will definitely try that in the future as well. That is some great advice and unique to. I I hope you can take some of your own advice well. I know it can be hard but it can be worth it. The advice you give me tells me that you were once good at starting discussions, will be good at starting discussions, and that you are a great observer!
28 Apr 10
don't really push it ideas will come into your mind..and also make your self relax in what you're doing..it helps you to regroup ideas in your mind.. :))
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@snam23 (3161)
• United States
29 Apr 10
I think this advice has been very useful as I've been pushing for the minimum payout. I have slowed down and am trying slowly to get back. Thanks for the awesome advice! It really did help!
@CRIVAS (1819)
• Canada
28 Apr 10
I have had the same problem for a while now. I used to be able to post several discussions a day but now, not so much. I try to start at least one discussion a day but lately that isn't as easy as one would think. I have two children, one of whom is going to be starting school and I haven't even had the chance to get her enrollment forms sent into the school. Although the weather has been mostly to blame for that one. But even if I am not swamped with household chores and the kids, I just can't seem to come up with anything that I find worthy of starting a discussion about. Usually I get over my writer's block by taking a nice hot bubble bath and just chillin in the tub, I find that it helps me clear my mind and gets the creative juices flowing. Hopefully your dry spell ends soon and you figure something out, although you did start this discussion which is telling me that you might be on the right track already. Hope you think of something, happy mylotting.
@snam23 (3161)
• United States
29 Apr 10
Heck, that has never been as easy as one would imagine. But maybe we were too good at it to think about it being hard. I guess my writer's block is partly due to me being busy with school like you are with your personal offline life. I guess we can't blame ourselves for that as it can seem more important but less fun than myLot. I think this is where prioritizing your goals and needs come in. A hot bubble bath is not an option for me (I'm at a boarding school) but hopefully something will come along that gets me over this. This discussion was for me more than anything or anyone else. I think that is how I get over my writer's block, by asking a general question or for advice on something that applies to me but could also apply to someone else. I hope you get your hot bubble bath so you can get that creativity back! Good luck! And congratulations, your kid is going to school! Good luck to them also!
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
28 Apr 10
Hi, snam23. So that is what writer's block means? I have never known what this term meant. All I can tell you is to keep your ears and eyes open for anything new. If you notice anything that is worth discussing in your life, or out in public, feel free to post it following the myLot guidelines. I get writer's block so many times. And I will always find a way to come out of it too. You will also.
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@snam23 (3161)
• United States
29 Apr 10
Yeah, pretty much when a writer is stuck and can't seem to write. I guess I will be trying that. My life has been up and down lately, so maybe I can twist a discussion out of it. I like the mention of myLot guidelines. Always important to follow the rules no matter what.
@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
28 Apr 10
Hi snam23, I've been out of mylot for a few days too. I really should get to posting, and I plan to today to make payout. However, I'd also like to spend some time offline today so I've really got to hurry up if I want to accomplish everything I need to and want to today. The best thing I can suggest for you to do is to just respond and comment to people, read news articles etc, and maybe then you'll get a muse to start more discussions. Good Luck To You!
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@snam23 (3161)
• United States
29 Apr 10
I also want to make payout but have so much stuff to do for school that I plan to do it all on Friday. Hopefully I can make it! Well, I've been off for a few weeks, no actually a few months now so hopefully I can slowly get back into routine. I think returning to some old habits like responding to others' discussions rather than just starting new ones will help a lot. Thanks for a the helpful advice! I am starting to get inspired again!
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
29 Apr 10
I can relate to how you feel. I love to write and consider myself a writer and yet I’ve had many times when I have sat at my computer and my mind has been completely devoid of any ideas. It happens to me on MyLot and elsewhere. I think trying too hard is detrimental and only works against you making the mental block worse. I think that sometimes you are not meant to write anything and the best approach is to let it go, relax and do something else. You cannot force ideas. I wouldn’t worry about it too much because it only becomes an issue if you stress about it too much. Here on MyLot if I am out of ideas I spend my time responding until I feel I have something to start a discussion with.
@snam23 (3161)
• United States
29 Apr 10
I guess responding to discussions is a big part of starting your own as many people have given me that advice. I think I tried way too hard to start new discussions. I guess the end of the month payment fever caught me off guard. I usually don't push myself, but this time I felt like I needed to. Now I know I should slow down and take it step by step.
@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Apr 10
snam23 hi When I get stuck about thinking up a discussions and the ideas wont come like they should, I go back to responding to others and so many times I will read a discussion or a response and something said triggers a new idea. Then I just go ahead and start working on that discussion until it looks good and post it. Responding so many times has set my brain to working again.
@snam23 (3161)
• United States
29 Apr 10
I guess I can blame myself for this as I haven't responded to many discussions since my return a few days ago. I respond here and there but it seems I need to go back to the basics which would be finding an interesting discussion and responding. That is wonderful advice. I hope you can always keep your brain working responding to discussions!
@rosekiss (30258)
• Eugene, Oregon
28 Apr 10
I get writes block too. I don't start all that many discussion, because I just can't seem to come up with a good topic of interest. I do try though, and I will keep trying, but I am just not as good at coming up with good topics like other users are. I guess it just comes easy for them, I wish it came easier for me too, but at my age, I am surprised I can think straight at all. I do my best though, and I must say that I have never had any discussions with zero responses, so that part is good. I am just glad that I am getting responses, and I am so thankful for all of them. You really aren't losing it, as I am sure lots of us have had the same problem as you. good luck to you and happy mylotting.
@snam23 (3161)
• United States
29 Apr 10
It takes time, experience, and patience. And I guess some users are just more creative or talented than others. It's like everything else in life. But you are lucky to as many people your age don't even know how to use a computer. It is mostly the younger generations that grew up with it that are good at it. So there is always something positive. The important thing is that you didn't give up and found your achievements. I guess I shouldn't give up either. I hope anyone who is stuck can find helpful advice in this discussion!