Do you confront or ignore office politics?

@mimpi1911 (25479)
India
April 30, 2010 11:11am CST
Office politics is a gross thing and it's tough to deal with it some times. No one could ever dodge the filthiness of office gossip. I have seen people stoop down too low, cursing and mud sprinkling and creating a bizarre office history. So, when someone (some colleague) has all bad things to say about you, what do you do - confront and stoop down to eye for an eye level or just ignore?
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• Philippines
30 Apr 10
I don't like gossips at all...LOL..especially not in the office. And you know how a story gets bigger and bigger. And some are very unfair to fired the employees over some gossips. I usually don't mind gossips going around the workplace, especially if it doesn't involve me. I take an ear about things, but I don't participate in spreading the gossips. And if it is about me, I do correct it at once. But happily, I haven't got much trouble when I was working. I think if you stick to your work and do your job well, nothing can be said about you.. Have a nice day too my dearest friend Mimpi!!!(^^,)
@mimpi1911 (25479)
• India
30 Apr 10
You are right. If we do our job all right, we hardly have to bother about it. I try to keep myself busy and recently with all those work pressure I hardly have any time to entertain in gossips. And even when I had, I found it distasteful. I can never really bash anyone and listen and be part of it. BTW, how's your grooming going?
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• Philippines
30 Apr 10
Yeah, me too, I don't like to bash anyone. I might get curious about it... But not add to it. That would be like advocating the crime..LOL.. My grooming? Hmmm, I have not yet started, lazy me...LOL..I have some friends who said I shouldn't be that stress about it. And I don't look my age, at least I have a plus point there..Hehehee...But I have already bought a new blouse, just in case, to be prepare and not to run out of something to wear.. And the special guy?..not that special..yet..LOL..but he is still single..We don't know...
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@mimpi1911 (25479)
• India
30 Apr 10
OMG! Did you say, he is single! You are blushing now! And yes, I agree with your friends. you just relax and just be your usual self doing little bit of shopping and grooming now and then. You are already sounding so beautiful and confident. Love and hugs.
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@balasri (26553)
• India
1 May 10
I always make my colleagues understand what kind of person I am from the beginning. Then it is up to them to sling mud on me and face the dirtiest consequence or to become a person nice to me for whom I would do anything under the sun within my limits.
@mimpi1911 (25479)
• India
1 May 10
You are a dynamic task master and handle this quite well. I think your employees must be very proud and at awe of you.
• Philippines
1 May 10
Hello Mimpi, I agree with you, office politics and gossip is very common. Even though the employees are all professional but they can't help but be unprofessional some times or maybe most of the times. If ever I will be in this situation I will just ignore them. It would do me no good if I will try to get even with them. As for me, I will just continue to do my best with my work, avoid and ignore them, then I will be happy with my work. I don't care if the people in position would believe them or not as long as I do what is right, I'm fine with it. As they say, what comes around goes around. Take care and have fun mylotting!
@mimpi1911 (25479)
• India
1 May 10
That's how I feel about it as well. I have always tried my best to do my job in the best possible way and my boss appreciates that. I never let go of any moment and try to be creative and different. That makes me occupied all the time. i am glad that you do the same as well.
• Philippines
30 Apr 10
I've had this happened to me before. And I learned from it well. Now I know better than to meddle in other people's affairs. If they have something bad to say about me, I just let them. Besides they are not the ones paying me. Same thing happened to my wife. Every company she goes into. It seems people have a tendency to feel intimidated over her. She would always go home to me crying or complaining. You see my wife just graduated from college. And she's only been in 3 companies. It hurts me like hell because I know how tough it could be. Know I believe she is becoming much more stronger. Work is work. They are just co-workers. They don't know anything about us so why pay them attention. Let them waste their time babbling while we concentrate on more ways to get that promotion.
30 Apr 10
Ive only been in this job for just over a month and I am so sick of the office politcs, I just want to go to work, not get involved and come home, If someone has bad things to say about me then fine, as long as its not my boss saying bad stuff then thats all that matters! Im doing my best to ignore everything thats going on around me!
@mimpi1911 (25479)
• India
30 Apr 10
I am sorry to hear that but I think you are doing the right thing by just ignoring it. I think, you should put up the good work and do not compromise with your creativity and productivity. Our work has the last say, trust me.
@Hatley (164468)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Apr 10
mimpi we had no office politics til a skinny odd nasty nice woman took over as second in command under our branch mangager. she somehow managed to get me and another person of the same fired for being in our eighties although the branch manager wrung her hands and said,oh you are one of my best employees, always does more than her share, so Ihate thig, Ihave to let you go, anyway you are almost 80, I asked, then you think Im not doing my job, and she hemmed and hawed then said, well you are almost eighty. the other gal got the same trash too, we then learned that the new second in command had threatened to quit unless Emily the branch manager fired us.headquarters got wind of this, deemed it an illegal act on those women's part and fired them. I was offered to come back to work,but had to refuse as I had broken my shoulder and no longer was able to use my left arm. You need both arms to shelve books believe me. so I had to refuse regrettfully as I had loved my job and the steady paychecks too.
@mimpi1911 (25479)
• India
30 Apr 10
That's dirty! But I am glad that your system acknowledged the wrong. I find, job ethics have changed over the years. People do shameful things, they lie, cheat and manipulate to get promotion, which i just cannot fathom. Morality does not change with place or time, does it!
@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
4 May 10
I usually just ignore office politics. Well, not really ignore. I am aware of it and I do talk about it to some friends but we really cant do anything about it. That's because we were just students.(at the time anyway.) It's the school department office that is just oozing with office politics. We even feel bad for some of our teachers who we are close to because they get all the dirty work and not the credit. There were even some times that we, the students, were asked to write reports and memos for some teachers. Of course we would write our names on it at the very end and sign it for official reasons, only to find out that that title page(if there was) or the last page where our names and signatures were, are scrapped. Then the teacher who asked us would place a new title page bearing their names and signature. Its a form of intellectual dishonesty and teachers are not allowed to ask students to write official memos/reports/etc for them, in the first place. There were still a lot more incidents regarding office politics with the issues within the actual office but its better not to recall. I guess my point is that, there were times when I got to the point of wanting to go against the department but Im really not stupid. In my mind, its either I report them to the highest school authority but they could get back at me with my grades, or I try to talk to them about it(they really dont listen because previous generations have tried), or I go against them which probably could get me expelled. So regarding this, we just seemingly ignore it because we didnt have any power to change it. We did however try to talk to those new teachers who had no idea what they were in for. We gave them support and gave them advice on what to be prepared for.
@Candymin (145)
• China
4 May 10
Hello, Mimpi. I prefer to ignore office politics. It has no good to my job and turns out to be a waste of time to confront those people who immerse into making gossips and finding fault of others. Sometimes it is tough to deal with but I try to dodge the filthiness and bizarre surrounding to keep a healthy relationship with my colleagues. Have a nice day! Happy mylotting!
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 May 10
Honestly, I'm barely aware of it...
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
3 May 10
Office politics are actually one of the main reasons that I decided that I would never work for someone else again in my life. When I worked at the hospital there was nothing but drama between myself and the coworkers. Everyone wanted things done their way and there really wasn't any room for team work. This really rubbed me the wrong way because it is important to work together in that kind of a situation, but it seemed like everyone was just out to help themselves and not each other or the co-workers.
@myzire72 (1157)
• Singapore
2 May 10
I think those people who are involved in office politics are just too free and have nothing better to do. For me, I prefer standing on neutral grounds and not get involved with office politics.
@dpk262006 (56563)
• Delhi, India
2 May 10
Hi Mimpi! I do not feel like indulging in politics in office. I prefer to ignore it and take a neutral path. I do not side with anybody. If any of the colleagues say bad things about me or spread negative publicity about me, I least care because in my hearts of heart I know, how I am and how do I treat others and above all how I perform my job in office. If I am sincere and responsible towards my duties in my office, I do not care about any colleague's criticism. I know it very well that hard workers are always respected and regarded and there is no substitute for hard work. Have a great day!
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
2 May 10
I’ve worked in offices for years and I have never avoided office politics. I don’t bother getting even with people; the way I figure karma takes care of everything. I recall being pushed out of my job by a nasty colleague and watching her get fired after eight months and me getting my old job back with better conditions! I hated being pushed out of the job I loved but I didn’t do a thing to revenge myself and it all took care of itself! I am hoping not to ever work in an office again because having being away from it for a few years and living a life of peace, I don’t think I could handle it!
• Boston, Massachusetts
2 May 10
Hi Mimphi, I deal with it. But do some reflection and discernment sessions before acting on it. It's the best way of handling office politics. To deal with it with the proper person--the management.
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
1 May 10
Hi there mimipi, It's horrible isn't it? I work in a very small company and we have it going on there. I try my darndest to stay out of it. It's unbelievable. Sometimes it is about me but mostly they just trash each other. They go on facebook and make slanderous remarks about each other.It's childish. I don't perpetrate it. If it is aimed at me, I just ignore it. It's always something ridiculously dumb. By ignoring it, I've managed to stay pretty removed from it. The hardest part is when one wants to talk to me about another. Just listening can cause problems. I've made it clear to all of them that I like all of my co-workers so while I won't repeat what is told to me, I also would rather not hear it.
@drannhh (15247)
• United States
1 May 10
I generally deflect the comments with something humorous or at least witty, but in most of my jobs I have found it advantageous to stay in the loop so to speak, with office gossip, as in my profession, most of it is true, at least in part, or if false it tells one something about the people who are spreading it. Business is a dog eat dog world and we need to take advantage of every clue in order to survive. Even if something that is said is not true, it is usually of some value to know it was said and not go around with only one eye open. I don't usually stoop down OR ignore it, but rather I try to deflect it with humor and replace it with the truth.