do you respond to all or getting choosy?

Philippines
May 2, 2010 5:01am CST
Does it offend you or just getting feeling ignored if you post your best comment on others discussion without any response to them?I think i made my best response from one discussion that is only in my interest but the result is no response,so that time i thought that i don't give my best shot!!and that really makes me feel that i am ignored of all the comments that posted on her why she didn't like mine?
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30 responses
• Philippines
3 May 10
Honestly, I spend more time choosing to topics I would like to respond to. I first look up to my interests, then to those started by my friends, and then search for new ones. I have some posts that did not really get enough replys. And I do not get offended if I do not get any reply. Of course it is sad however, this is a place where everyone is free to exchange ideas. If I do not get any response, perhaps because my topic is not that interesting. I have several responses where mine were chosen as best responses. It made me feel great and inspires me to respond more to the topics. The bottomline is, whether or not I get a response, or be responded in any topics, it does not matter to me. I am here to share my thoughts and enjoy.
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• Philippines
3 May 10
hi chrissa,i think that i would rather enjoy from sharing my ideas too and giving the best of my responses,i will not feel any bitterness again from those who did not interact with my post..thanks for sharing..may i ask why is that you have a star of 9 but you only have number 168 beside your name?what was the meaning of that?
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• Philippines
3 May 10
Hello Kisses! I have only made 168 responses. I used to be active here for a short time, but I got so busy and never have responded for so long. It's only been 3 days now that I started replying to some of the discussions here. I guess the star speaks for the responses you made. I guess in the past, I made alot of longer and well thought out responses, which were chosen as best responses and gained positive remarks. I hope to get a star of 10 someday though. Happy mylotting!
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• Philippines
3 May 10
thanks chrissa, in my case i used to like mylot so much,..thanks for your response again,you really gave me the idea that questioning my mind from my start here.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
3 May 10
Some Members are that ignorant that they will not respond all they want is to make money here and yes it annoys me, I might take little while but I will respond back Do not let it discourage you as not all Members are like that Welcome to mylot
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• Philippines
3 May 10
thanks gabs,,you really convinced me for that..yes not all were like that and in spite of that matter i will continue mylot and don't let them be the distraction on my way to success.thanks again for encouraging me to be not dismayed!!happy mylotting!!
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
3 May 10
You are very welcome and I am glad you will not let them discourage you I am sure you will like it here
• United States
3 May 10
I try to respond to all response. Sometimes I don't add to a discussion if I see that the 'host/ess' has not responded to any. I am not offended but I just pass.
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• Philippines
3 May 10
hi christmas,sometimes i am just like you that if i see the discussion without a response of the owner i pass through it.maybe i am afraid that my comments will be ignored too,because sometimes they asked questions so questions need to be answered and the owner should absorbed.thanks for sharing and have a great day!
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@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
3 May 10
I will response only to discussion that I understand and capable to answer it. So you can say I am a bit choosy. I tend to answer a discussion made by my friend and it usually on my email inbox, so I can see discussion I like without browsing every discussion on mylot.
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• Philippines
3 May 10
hi nangisha,i check my mail a while ago and got it!!it is much easier now for me to know if somebody post a reply on my reply to their post..because honestly i can't view my previous post that was only in my interest..thanks for sharing!!
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@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
3 May 10
i liked to respond in any way i can when i start a discussion,that would be my motto! don't mind that person if he/she doesn't liked your respond,but always see to it that when you do respond too discussions do all your effort to earn for that certain discussion.that where we all are here for! there are a lot of users here to respond in everyway they can.if they don't then don't take it seriously,just go on to other discussions and let your voice be heard!waahhhh!
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• Philippines
3 May 10
hi annavi,,maybe we could be friends here in mylot.:).yes i agree with you and i really do know that you do alot of effort posting and sharing your response to others it was based on what you had posted on mine with my previous post..thanks again!!have a nice day!!
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• India
3 May 10
I Would Only Respond to a Topic I know. Or If i have Experience about it. I Don't go the Choosy Way. I Would Always Reply if i know Something About the Topic. And I haven't Experienced being ignored as i haven't yet made a topic.
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• Philippines
3 May 10
Hi enigmaslife,why not start your own discussion?it was really fun writing those,because for sure others will post a reply or put some comment about your questions..have a great day and happy mylotting to you!!
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• United States
3 May 10
When I post a comment there are times I direct, frank, bold or just straight to the point. If your response is helpful, encouraging, detailed and such then most likely you'll get best responses time to time. It's fun at times to be unique, daring or challenging depending on the topic. I am a bit choosy to which I do comment to those who reply back to my discussion. Think of it as people who buy magazine articles at a news stand or any store. People read based on their interest, entertainment or something that catches their eyes. Think of a metaphor when you do write a response back is your comment like a fruit full of juice, ripe and those that want to eat it? Or is it like a dried up fruit that tastes bitter and people tend to throw it away? Be creative and test it out. Hope this info helps you...
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• Philippines
3 May 10
thanks darkangel,i think that would be a great help on my part,because these past few days i was really thinking of some strategy.i think i would try to be creative and unique as i can..thanks again..have a great day!!
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@kharlav (1673)
• Philippines
2 May 10
Hi there. For me, I don't really get insulted for being ignored. Most of the time, I don't notice if I was responded or not, I often forget what topics I responded to because I often respond to so many discussions. Don't feel so sad about it kisses1981, the people who posted the discussions might be so busy reading the responses that sometimes they don't notice other responses.
• Philippines
2 May 10
thanks karlav,maybe i was really getting too emotional that i never see mine..i preview some of mine and i saw some still reply and i still don't reply on them,i think you are right that she just don't notice mine.thanks for sharing my with my downs lolz..have a great day!!
• Indonesia
4 May 10
Hi karlav, I agree with you. Mylot for me isn't my everyday must activity, sometimes I get too busy and can't visit mylot. And that's why.. It's OK for me if no one respond my comment, cause I can't always respond their too. Even, it's better if someone can say "Thanks...", but I think It's violate Mylot rule... So... it's not just their fault if they don't respond any comment...
@kharlav (1673)
• Philippines
6 May 10
@nauval: Thanks, that's another information for me, I usually forget the rules here in mylot, it's good that you told me that i just can't say "Thanks", i thought its okay but you just can't earn from it. @kisses1981: respond to many discussions so that you will forget what discussions you responded and will not be able to notice if you were responded or not and in the same way you earn more.lol... Have a great day kisses and nauval.
@puppynut (370)
• New Zealand
3 May 10
it's definately nice to get responses but people seem to come and go a little bit. Sometimes we post comments and can't follow up for some time. I think you can develop close friendships on mylot but you can never quite tell what is going on in someones life and why they might not have the chance to respond. I wouldn't get too offended but it is a shame if you put they effort in and got no reply!
• Philippines
4 May 10
hi puppynut,i think that it is how i felt when i experience that,a shame..because i have a thought that she might not like my response.all i really wanted is to develop also a friendship so i can rely on them too.thanks for sharing have a great day!!
@puppynut (370)
• New Zealand
4 May 10
I have friends who live just round the corner from me and don't even phone me back or text! I understand your frustration!
• Philippines
2 May 10
Nope. I don't respond to all. Sometimes some responses are similar to the response made ahead of it. So it will only be receiving the same response from me. Don't get offended if this happens to you. There are just way too many topics here that sometimes a person who posted the discussion forgets the one before it right away.
• Philippines
3 May 10
hi melloncollie,getting from my experience right now,i feel like i am stock on one discussion that i almost forgotten my previous,and could not reply on it right away..how i wish mylot does have notification like facebook have lolz..thanks for sharing have a great day!!
• Philippines
3 May 10
What notifications are you referring to, dear? Yes, mylot does have notification system. Just set it on your preferences so you'll constantly be updated regarding the discussions you posted and commented on. You can also receive notifications when your friends start a discussion. Have a nice day.
@kedralynn (992)
• United States
2 May 10
Sometimes it bothers me. But at least I know that I gave my best response. Sometimes I spend a lot of time trying to give a helpful response and it goes unnoticed. Yes it annoys me if no one seems to appreciate it. But hey I tried my best and that's all I can do.
• Philippines
3 May 10
hi kedralyn,,same as you that it really bothers me,she is new too in mylot so everytime she post a discussion that related to my ideas,i don't hesitate to write something that could help her as a beginner too.i also did my best that i want to shout for it why!!??lolz..thanks for sharing have a nice day ahead!!
• United States
3 May 10
I'm sorry your well thought out responses get ignored! You have a nice day too and maybe someone will notice your thoughts!
@Asylum (46839)
• Manchester, England
2 May 10
It can sometimes be laborious for a member to comment on all the responses to a discussion, and many of the responses do not really require a comment. Many members tend to reply to a selection of the responses, usually the ones to which they have something to add. I have no problem with someone failing to comment on my response as long as they do reply to some of the posters. It is when a member opens a discussion and does not reply to any of the responses that I feel that they are not really interested in the post but simply in gaining credit for the activity that it has generated.
• Philippines
2 May 10
hi asylum, maybe i am having an onion skin that is sensitive.i really have to learn how to be insensitive with all of the discussions,and be thankful for other still appreciating me.. thanks for sharing!!
• United States
3 May 10
That's exactly how I feel Asylum. If I am really interested and wish to comment, I will post a response to another poster. That way I feel at least someone is getting a response. But, normally if I see a discussion that I like and see that the person has not responded to anyone. I will pass it on by. That is not really a "discussion" and I wonder if they even bother to come back and read.
@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
4 May 10
Don't let it affect you. Chances are you already said everything in your post that the starter no longer has words left for her comments . Don't let your happiness depend on a single post because there are a lot more interesting discussions here. so far i have learned that there are members here who don't respond to others comments and i feel offended by it but that was before. in due time i realized that she really don't respond to all the responses the receives so i learned not to expect a response whenever i post in her discussions.
• Philippines
4 May 10
hi ybong,yes, i will not let that situation affects me again,and i will still post my best opinions here.,thanks for sharing here.have a great day!!
• United States
3 May 10
I understand what you are saying. But don't fret for one this is the net, people choose not to respond and that's ok. Better than a not so nice response potentially KWIM? Now in a way on the ignored thing... the only time it bugs me is when I get not a single comment on my topic, not a single one... that's when I start wondering is it too contraversial? dumb topic? did I write it oddly so they cannot understand the point I'm trying to make? And as a response to your inital question... I respond based on 1. Do I have the time to respond to everyone 2. I can't think of a reply 3. the old addage "if you don't have anything nice to say, say nothing at all"
• Philippines
4 May 10
thanks 3snuggle,i really do appreciate your response,and just like me i always think twice for the response that i post,before i write it because there are some topics that needs to hold my temper lolz,,have a nice day ahead!!
• Philippines
3 May 10
Hi I did not respond to all discussion; I tried to but my time would not permit me. My daughter own this computer so when she arrives from work, I'm not free to use the computer. Sometimes I'm choosy with the discussions that I respond. I go for relevant topics, topics that I can relate like your topic. Well maybe you have to spend a lot of your time in this site to open up more discussions and get more responses. Good Luck!
• Philippines
4 May 10
hi merced,yes me too i spend a lot of time here in mylot right now so i can relate to the topics which i am not relevant from those.i make sure that i always keep my eyes to the topics that i really love to share..thanks and happy mylotting!!
@idowrite72 (2214)
• United States
3 May 10
I don't post many discussions, but when I do I make a comment back to everyone who comments. I think it is a curtesy, but I don't worry or really care if I don't get something back. It is nice to know that my comment was read, but if I don't get something back, I don't think about it.
• Philippines
4 May 10
hi idowrite,and maybe if we responded back to our own discussion,they will feel better that we understand them.and soon they will respond back again to our new ones..thanks for sharing have a nice day!
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
2 May 10
I will eventually reach out to all my responses. But when I get few pages of responses, I will stop after maybe 20 responses and will continue the rest after a few days. Commenting can become repetitive when I have many responses but fear not for every responses is taken care of.
• Philippines
3 May 10
hi zandi,me too have a lack of time spending in front of my computer because of so many works to do but if i take on it i make sure that every little suggestion would take appreciation..thanks for sharing!!have a great day!!
@Jotomy (6084)
• India
2 May 10
Its all depend upon the people how they receive the things. Donot worry if they didnot respond to your comments. Have a nice day.
• Philippines
3 May 10
thanks for your comment jotomy,maybe i always assume that the people around is same like me.have a nice day too!!
@airasheila (5460)
• Philippines
2 May 10
Hi, good day to you Kisses1981, With respect to your query, dont feel bad if you feel that you are ignored. Maybe, its not the right term, maybe, it does not meant to ignore your response. Only, there are some good response meant only to be read. Please dont feel bad if you dont receive a reciprocal reaction to the query that you have responded. Perhaps, the person who received it feels overwhelmed and cannot find a right word to thank you for the responses that you did.
• Philippines
3 May 10
hi aira,i think i asked some question there on my response so i felt that she didn't like mine.yes you're right maybe she cant find the right answer write back.thanks for sharing and have a great day!
@Java09 (3085)
• United States
2 May 10
I usually respond to topics that I have something to say about.I can't respond to a discussion that I have no thoughts of.
• Philippines
3 May 10
thanks java,same to me i only respond to a discussion that i really do have an idea, i do not just answer it without any help or solution that they asked for.but if in case you did the discussion and out of five who responded only four of them you did reply..is there really an excuse there..