At what age did you have your first serious relationship?

@reco13 (605)
Philippines
May 3, 2010 1:20am CST
I was 16 years old when I had my first bf. I loved him and he loves me. At first, i also thought that this was just a puppy love and everything will also pass like what happens to most of my friends and their bf's. My parents also do not want me to have a bf that time since we're still young and loving seriously is not a priority. I was just asked to focus well on my studies. We get along very well and we can't let a day pass without seeing each other. I did better in school because I had an inspiration, same with him. We don't do anything wrong and we even became better persons that's why our parents were also proud of us. We are accepted by our parents and they respected our choice. Up to now, 8 years have passed, we are still together, happy and contented. How about you? At what age do you think a girl/boy should have his/her first serious relationship?
11 responses
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
4 May 10
I had my first relationship at the age of 20. He was my first boyfriend and I think it was serious too, at the time. We have had several fights, my family knows him and accepts him at home too. He is a good person but well, i realized that i needed to break up with him after 3 years of relationship because i see no changes from him - he is the kind of person that is "happy-go-lucky" type. He does not seem to care much about life, about money and still asks allowance from his mom so i think it was really time for me to sort of forget all about the years we shared and think of my future - think of what i needed my life to become.
@sweechi (157)
• Philippines
4 May 10
wow, so lucky of you. i have mine when I was 19 yrs old. But i guess, there's the discrimination involve so although we love each other, we have to stop it else we will just be hurting each other..
@_Honey_ (780)
• Philippines
3 May 10
I had my first bf when I was 16 years old. He was eleven years older than me. I was in second year college when I entered this relationship. I met him in an org in school where he used to be one of the pioneer members. We started seeing each other, dating and things went out smoothly. The relationship lasted for almost three years till I realized that he's not the type of guy I'd want to be with for the rest of my life. As soon as I finished college and started working, I broke up with him and started anew. Four years later, we met again. He's now married and has two kids. I still remember how things were when it was still "us". I still remember all the things we used to do and all the things we both like but I can longer remember how much I loved him. We're both happy with our lives now.
@mapuang (612)
• Philippines
4 May 10
it was 15 years old when i had my first bf. Yes I also thought that its just a puppy love and i kept everything to my family. It is so hard to tell them that i have bf. Then of course theres no secret untold. I told to my parents about him and accept him. But of course as a parent they warn me to finish my study and don't do anything. We both finish college and then we broke up because of third party involve and also misunderstanding on my family side. we've been 6 years in a relationship, its so hard to move on that time but as the years past of course i forget and forgive him.
@cbjones (1147)
• United States
4 May 10
I don't know. I suppose I'd try to make sure the person my kid wanted to hook up with had good intentions...But then I remember what I was like as a teenager. Good intentions seems quite laughable when I flash back to those times. i don't know what type of age limit I'd set before my daughter/son could start dating. I'd just make sure to let them know that you aren't always on the same wavelengths with person you are infatuated with at the time.
• Philippines
3 May 10
I had my first serious relationship when I was 17. I don't think we can control it. It depends on the person who gets in the relationship. I am 28 years old. Say, I'm not yet married -- and have never been in a relationship ever... I can tell myself that it's not yet time to get too serious. Meaning, it's entirely up to me if I'ma make that relationship a serious one or not.
@carlysle (271)
• Philippines
3 May 10
wow.. your one of the few lucky one, i guess. Most of the people in this lifetime would want a love story just like yours. Not everybody is lucky enough to have met someone so special at a young age of 16. I have heard a lot of sob stories about love and relationships that would scare the most romantic person alive. but as i have said you might be one of the lucky ones. dont get me wrong I have heard also stories about love that conquered everything. I think that a person should have his/her first relationship when she/he is ready. Its just instinct for parents to be protective of their child especially when it comes to relationships. But in the end its in our mistakes that we learn, we grow and mature. so, i believe that if one thinks he/she is ready then by any means start a relationship with the one that you love but just remember to balance everything including studies that just like in your case the relationship became an inspiration and not a hindrance to live life.
@ongtina (1232)
• Singapore
3 May 10
Great for you. I also had my first relationship at 16, that ended 4 years later in marriage and we are together even now, 26 years now. It's one and only for me. I believe a lot depend on a person's character and maturity for a relation to be lasting, rether than the age.
• India
3 May 10
I had my first serious relationship at the age of 20yrs but it did not succeed we carried our relation only till 2 yrs and than we had a break up because of intercaste my partners parents were not ready for our relation after my break up i had very bad time but i took it positively that whatever happens it happens for good and today i am very much successful in my life because i think a person who can leave you in just middle of your life can again leave you at any time in your life . As per my look out i think a girl or boy should have the first relationship after the age of 23 or 24 when they perfectly gets settled in there life and they can make their own decision and are not depended on anybody its always better to get into the relationship after you are settled in life that helps you to take firm and right decision making in life.
@evepin (721)
• Philippines
3 May 10
though i had my first bf when i was 17, i felt that it was not really a serious thing, when i think about it now. probably my first serious relationship was when i was 22 already. didnt have any bfs during college as i was too caught up with studies (NOT!). it was short-lived but i guess it wasnt meant to be. had another bf but turns out i was a third party. not good at all, and broke up with him when i confronted him about it. then next was the one that i married. very very happy now. i think it really depends on the maturity level of the persons involved to know when relationships should be serious. but maybe during college?
@pumared (514)
• Bulgaria
3 May 10
I had in 18 years old