what do you think of interracial relationship?

@sweechi (157)
Philippines
May 3, 2010 11:17pm CST
my bf and i have been together for a few years now. But since im filipino and he's chinese, well our parents doesn't agree with our relationship. Specially in his side. His relationship has to be with the one whom is pure blooded chinese. We both know that all will stop..I think it is lame knowing that two people are inlove yet because of race, in the end it will stop. I cant bear to think race would really be a factor in one relationship. sheesh. What do you think about those types of relationship?
1 person likes this
16 responses
• Philippines
4 May 10
It's fine with me. I don't care whether she's chinese, japanese, american, etc.. If i really love her, i'll fight for her. I won't care if her family doesn't approve of me. I've done it before but she's also the same race but it doesn't make any difference nevertheless.
@sweechi (157)
• Philippines
4 May 10
I guess that makes him a little coward to fight for me..
• Philippines
4 May 10
I will fight for you. :)
@madteaparty (2763)
• Japan
5 May 10
As you, I'm in a interracial relationship, and I don't understand why some people whant to "keep their breed pure" . Love is not about races or sexes or anything that you can think that people use as a social barrier. Love happens and it doesn't distinguish, so interracial relationships are perfectly fine and natural
@sweechi (157)
• Philippines
6 May 10
i feel the same way
@redhotpogo (3935)
• United States
4 May 10
If people are in love with one another race should not matter. We all came from the same race, we will all be the same race one day again. We are the same.
@sweechi (157)
• Philippines
6 May 10
Yes. We are came from God anyway. We should actually love anybody we see and not belittle any race since we are all the same.
• Philippines
4 May 10
Chinese has a solid practice in their tradition of marrying the same race. Although some are breaking it nowadays. Some chinese who are in medium class are not so strict about it. Those belong to a well off family, they still believe and practice it. You are not alone in your case... Filipinos now are engaged in inter racial marriages. They are open now to all race. Although it's not a big factor anymore to the couple because it needs a mutual understanding... It's only the belief and people around that make things complicated. What is important is the two people who will live together.
@sweechi (157)
• Philippines
6 May 10
filipinos yes they are engage. chinese are so closeminded most of the time. Well at times i felt from what im seeing with my chinese friends, that its okay for any race except not filipino. Its so weird.
• United States
6 May 10
I think that as long as the two of you really feel that affectionate for each other, then you should be able to be in a relationship, no matter what race
@kenites (337)
• Philippines
5 May 10
I really don't like this attitude from chinese, i think it's very descriminating. I have a lot of chinese friend and they tell me that if they want to marry somebody it should be also a chinese. And when I asked them why, well they just tell me that that's what their parents want. I even know of somebody, a chinise guy, who married a filipina teacher. The chinese guy was condemned by his family and to the extent disowned him. I pity the guy but I also admired him because of his courage to fight for their love. My advice for you my friend if you really love each other then you have to fight for it. Fight the tradition and status quo. Love can do a lot of magic.
• United States
5 May 10
I have always been in interracial relationships and I cannot simply help it because I am attracted to people who do not look like me. All my boyfriends' parents liked me and my parents also know about the guys who came in my life. Currently, I am again in another one and this time we are planning on getting married. Well, I am not sure about the parents concerns. My parents say they won't be saying anything against my wish because I am over 21. Race and religion shouldn't matter in love. What matters is hapiness. Also parents should not have such weird expectations, for they are not the ones getting married. And marriage should not involve pleasing the society. At the end of the day, the couple live with each other under one roof and not the society. And do your boyfriend's parents suck blood? Their demand seems pretty lame. Blood color has nothing to do with race. No matter who we marry, his or her blood color will remain red. A country's name doesn't change anything.
@mapuang (615)
• Philippines
5 May 10
I think race is not important but of course as long as you adopt each other culture. in relationship although both family disagreed in your relationship as long as you love each other just continue your relationship. It is all depend on both of you if you want to stop it or just continue no matter what.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
4 May 10
i think of interracial relationships as a good relationship. When you love someone, race is not really a big issue. And yes, there have been many cases where the family will object because of race differences. But we always know love will find a way. :)
@jap468 (106)
• United States
4 May 10
I think it is going to happen like the whole world will be about the same race. I think it will happen soon. I think its okay I mean who am I to judge interracial couples.
@qamarep (4453)
• Pakistan
4 May 10
i think that it is a very beautiful thing to have an interracial relationship. this way we can tell that we care about humanity
• Philippines
4 May 10
Ooh I also have a chinese bf but he's a filipino chinese though. :D Anyways, I respect couples in an interracial relationship. I'm not against that kind of stuff. Being in love is one of the greatest feeling you'll feel in your entire life. If the two are in love with each other, then no one should break the two apart. As for you sweechi, hang in there. In time, his family will accept you because they'll realize you're a great person that's why you and your bf have been together for years. Now that's love.
@Iriene88 (5352)
• Malaysia
4 May 10
Dear sweechi, I personally think that one should pursue their love especially if both loves each other very much! Not many found true love in this life, therefore we should cherish it. However, I believe both of you knew what is the outcome, the consequences and the best solution. I personally do not forbid interracial relationship but it did varies on which race and religion at times.
@messsmg (46)
• Romania
4 May 10
I'm sorry that you are in such a situation, for sure it's very frustrating. Tradition can be big pain in the b, I believe that parents should keep away from a child decision when it comes to sentimental relations. They can give an advice if asked but not to impose something. The only person that should decide if you want to have a relation with someone of other religion, race, etc must be you and no one else. I think that you shouldn't let your parents decide for you and your partner should do the same. After all it's your live not theirs.
• New Zealand
4 May 10
Hey in my opinion it's fine. If it floats one's boat, not particularly mine. I can see why some people may disagree. But in my eyes just let them be. I saw a good video by a guy on youtube called kevjuma. He told his dad that he got a girl pregnant. The dad said "what?" he then proceeded with "Dad she was black". The dad replied with "WHAT!". Some people might take the whole interracial thing the wrong way but hey if it makes you happy don't let society get in your way
@Catkin (480)
• United States
4 May 10
Similar problems occur when people of certain religions wish to marry outside of that religion. I have a Jewish friend whose parents expect her to marry a nice Jewish boy, but it's not likely that is going to happen! Honestly, I don't think race, religion, or a number of other factors should matter. Ultimately, it is the lifetime happiness of you and your boyfriend that is at stake. Families can't always get their way, if your relationship is strong enough, you two can make it work!