Just as they put us in Day Care Centers, we put them in Homes.

It is common, i guess in your country to put old people in nursing homes, the richer people getting nurses and so on... in the Philippines, though we have a home for the aged, we still do not bring our old parents in these places. most of the people in homes are those without family anymore. if you have a family it would be shameful for your kids to not take care of you as an old person - this is for Chineses too. We have such high regards for our parents that we do not plan to put them in homes when they are too old.

If there is anyway that I can do it, my parents will not be put in a home. I have taken care of my son, for the past 15 years, and would gladly take care of them, if the time comes. If there is no way that I can I will put them there, but those places are just plain scary.

Hi ladee, very good discussion for the ladies and gentlemen of mylot. Yes the parents leave the children at day care center and go to work to take a better care of their children and bring them back when they reach home. Whereas the children leave the parents at homes permanently. because they cannot take care of them at home. It is not fair on the part of the children.

You are sooooo funny! However it is a good point. The trouble is that children today are lazy. When we grew up, family was number one. THese days its video games, cell phones, computers, etc. Life has become so easy. There are so many more cases of depression. I believe its due to the ability to encase yourself in a room without ever having to leave. You can do all you need by computer or phone. These factors make it easy for them to put us in a home. Day care isnt always the best answer either but its a big difference than the decision to put a parent in a home. If anyone tries to put you in ahome Email me I will take ya. As long as you dont mind the dogs, cat and bird. lol dl

Laydee, you bring up a really good point. I know we probably have joked with our parents at one time or another to treat us nice because we pick out their retirement home - LOL. I know I have, but when you really think about it, it's kind of sad! Here is my take on the whole thing. Putting kids in the day care makes sense. Sometimes the parents need to work to provide for the family. I still think parents need to set aside time each day to spend with their kids, but sometimes they need someone to watch them for a little while. As far as retirement homes go, it all depends on the situation whether or not parents/grandparents need to go there. Sometimes they need special attention and care that family members cannot provide on a daily basis. I know what you mean about them being expensive too. A good friend of mine had her mom in a pretty nice facility, and she had to pay $8,000 a month! (Her mom has since passed away, but talk about expensive!) I think the elderly people who are put in homes and still have family alive should have those family members visit them. It's a little different when the elderly have outlived their family members and are at the home by themselves. However, I think on one hand being in the home with others their age is a good thing because these people can connect with others and have relationships with lots of people their own age. Again, though, I think if family members are going to put their parents/grandparents into a home, that doesn't mean they should leave them alone! Even though they're not taking care of them, I think they still need to take time to see their family member in the home. My grandma takes care of my aunt because she developed multiple sclerosis a few years ago. There was a lot of debate amongst my family members whether or not my aunt should be put in a home. They eventually decided that my grandma would take care of her. In my opinion, either way, if my aunt was in a home or not, we as family need to make it a point to go see her. I don't see her that often because of my crazy schedule, but it's great that she is still around and has family to go see her. I think it's perfectly ok to put your older family in a home as long as you commit to visiting them - don't leave them alone or they will get lonely...but you never know, they'll probably make friends at the facility too. Great discussion, my friend!

I think It's just fair. Well, if we can't take care of ourselves when we're old we'd be additional problem for our kids. It's kinda hard to accept but it seems fair to me.