Life is painful sometimes

Philippines
May 4, 2010 10:38pm CST
..fellows, I'm so down.. I felt like crying over and over again.. But I can't.. I have to work for my baby.. I can't always focus on my trouble and forget my baby, the only person who gives me the strength to go on living.. life is really painful sometimes, but I guess, we have to live with it.. no matter what, life is still life.. the difference is how we live it and overcome life's problems.. It is so easy to say we have to be strong.. there are really times when we feel like giving up already.. I just hope I can still go on a long way and hope for a better tommorow..
1 person likes this
21 responses
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
5 May 10
Definitely, life is painful, cruel and ironic sometimes. But, even when life is unfair, there is always a reason to live and take every battle that we encounter every day. Every one of us has its own story to tell about the trials and challenges that come our way every day. You have to realize that it is not only you who is experiencing that pain. My friend, think of the best times and the reasons why you need to live. As you have mentioned, your baby is a reason for you to go on with life and living. In a positive note, think that we have a good Lord to hold on and He created tomorrow for us to have the chance to correct our mistakes. No matter how cruel, painful and ironic life is, there is still happiness and joy life can give you. Because it is you who is keeping that burden which makes it painful. Do not worry too much my friend, trash those unnecessary loads on your mind and lean on to the Lord, entrust to Him your burdens because it is He who can lead you the way. I do not want to sound spiritual or preaching you because I also complain sometimes, but again faith is my shield and sword to take every trial that comes along the way. Finally, life is too short my friend. Take it and live life to the fullest because you'll never know when is your time. Spend each day with your loved ones.
• Philippines
6 May 10
..indeed, both of you are right.. the thing is, there will always be the time that we have to speak out our mind and the pains the we feel inside in order to make our load lighter right? I believe in God and I have faith.. its just that, I feel like I can't stand anymore.. I do my best to look on the positive side of life, but sometimes, I can't focus because I'm overcome by the pain that I feel..anyhow, I value all your advices and comments.. It is through your views that I understand more about life.. thanks..
• China
5 May 10
We all know that life is not fairy tale. What we need is to solve all kinds of problems we have encountered. I have ever thought that life is cruel, cuz I could only see what pain I have got. However, my uncle told me that life would not be life if no pain would take place. I suddenly saw the light and felt relieved. My fellow friend, why don't you regard pain as a necessary and meaningful part of life? My teacher once told me that what had ever made you feel painful would make you be stronger. You will gain something from all your experience. Cheer up!
• India
5 May 10
Hi dear, There is a lot to learn from you. Even your baby will idolize your life when he grows up. Such a mental strength is not very common among people. You are right. It is easier said than done that we have to be strong. There are tough times when you feel like you can go no farther. I have heard about your baby. I hope you two are doing well. I know how much hardship you faced in order to raise your baby. Being a single mother is not easy at all. Let us pray to God for no matter what befalls on us, He always has something better in store for us. Hard times come and go, like those ripples on water. God certainly has some good intention to put us through situations like this. We the human beings, with our limited knowledge often misunderstands him, but there will be a time when we will appreciate those troubled moments for coming in our lives, as they are our real friends, they are the true mentors. Thanks God bless you
• Philippines
6 May 10
..yeah.. this is really the time that I really feel I can't continue moving on.. It is only when I realize I have one very important reason to go on that I try to regain strength.. I just hope and pray that my baby will grow with a good heart and the wisdom to see the difference between right and wrong and chose the path that is right for her..
• India
6 May 10
I have great respect for you, and all because of this principle you have. God bless you
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
5 May 10
Yes! Life is indeed painful. So many things we have to bear, and so many things we have to endure... even our daily life is a struggle. I feel sometimes with technology and with all the good things our life has to offer, why do we even have to pay for those that are supposed to be free - like the beach, like the mountain climbing... Life is painful when we struggle more, life is painful when we go and think about all the things we did just to make everything okay - and yet we are disappointed. =( your attitude is right, we only need to hope for the better, we need that and we need to know that we will be alright... soon
• Philippines
6 May 10
..you're right.. i'm so glad you understand me.. thanks..
@veejay19 (3589)
• India
5 May 10
hello raynejasper. life is always painful but there is always something that motivates us to fight back and go on with it, in your case your baby. Your baby is your source of strength and will continue to be so until he/she grows up and becomes independant. What about your husband, does he not support you? Sorry to ask this question.I pray to God to bless you and give you the strength and courage to go on with your life. Wish you all the best.
• Philippines
6 May 10
..thanks for your prayer.. it will help me a lot.. I'm the breadwinner of the family and my husband seemed not to care if we have enough food to eat or not.. I regret the day I married him.. but this is reality.. I can't just let go of him and file a divorce.. It's not allowed in our country.. and still, I want to hope that my husband would later realize his responsibilities as the head of the family and let go of his old games..
@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
5 May 10
I dont know what are the causes of your pain and sufferings now but I am glad that no matter life can be painful for you, you still get strength to live for your baby. That's a very courageous act by a mother, no matter how tough your life can be, always remember that there is a little angel beside you who is hoping to live and you are the one who can make that happens and make his life comfortable. I will soon to have a baby and despite of what happening in my life right now, I am looking forward to see the baby and live the rest of my life with her.
• Philippines
6 May 10
..then you are a courageous mother too.. i hope that we can continue moving on despite of everything.. keep safe always and take care of your baby and yourself..
• Pakistan
5 May 10
Think over it ! i asked for the strength GOD gave me difficulties to make me strong, i asked for wisdom and GOD gave me problems to solve, i asked for prosperity and GOD gave me a brain to work. i asked for courage and GOD gave me obstacles to overcome, i asked for favors and GOD gave me opportunities, "i received nothing that i wanted But i received everything i needed"
• Philippines
6 May 10
..what a very nice quote.. thanks.. that was a very good reminder for me..
• Singapore
5 May 10
It's difficult for me to tell you to be strong when I myself need to tell myself to be strong. We both have kids to live for and we do need to work to get by. Life can be painful sometimes, but they are painful for a good reason. I think you are much stronger in the sense that you still get up and go to work. I have been very depressed for the longest time ever. Getting back to work is very difficult for me. Luckily my work is flexible. And I try to find other ways to make money, online and offline to supplement in the meantime. Do what's best for your child and yourself, raynejasper! Never give up on what you believe...
• Philippines
6 May 10
..right.. thanks.. we have no choice but to move on because of the main reason that there are other people who needs us the most.. no matter how difficult life seems, we have to live with it and by it..
@joram328 (503)
• Philippines
5 May 10
Hi raynejasper! I hope you're feeling better now. Just try to keep your mind off the more painful aspects and be more sensitive to what is more important -- like your baby. I am sure your baby is adorable. Only children have that innocence that is truly genuine and without pretentions. Focus more on the sweetness of life. It may not always be sunny and bright but take consolation in the fact that all people go through the same emotions as yours, although not at the same time and degree, but all of us do, trust me.
• Philippines
6 May 10
my precious baby - this is my baby's most glamorous photograph
..yeah.. indeed, she is adorable.. here's her picture.. thanks..
• Philippines
5 May 10
I really understand the way you feel right now. As what you've said, life is really painful sometimes. This is a fact and there is no way we can resist it. We just have to go with the flow. Just allow things to happen the way it should be. Life has a dark and a bright side. Just don't forget that there's always a rainbow after the rain. The problem you are experiencing right now is a common problem experienced by others. For some, it is only a minor problem. You have to always bear in mind that everything happens for a reason and that you are not alone in every trial you face. Personally, I am also bombarded with a lot of problems and stresses nowadays. Though I feel sad but still I don't want to lose hope. All people have problems. And I know that God will never give me problems which He knows I can never bear.
• Philippines
6 May 10
..indeed yes.. somehow, this is the time when I needed somebody to confide in in order for my burden to become lighter.. there are always the time when we felt we can't hang on most especially if we feel we are all alone.. because we don't have somebody else to share our problems..
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
6 May 10
whenever you are feeling down and troubled, look for the secret garden. it helps...
@tjen_anni (317)
• Indonesia
5 May 10
I'm glad that you think your baby gives you strenght to move on life. Yes!! Life is painful sometimes. However, we have to get through all of this to be a better person in the future. I believe this process that you have been through would lead you to be a better man.. Think about your baby when you felt giving up, our child is the only reason we are alive...
• Philippines
6 May 10
..right.. I do agree.. tnx..
@Khulit19 (101)
• Philippines
5 May 10
You got to be strong because the more pain you have conquered it will lead you closer to happiness. But in life, don't just focus on the pain, think that there are also happy times like seeing your baby grows happy and healthy. And I'm sure one day he/she will appreciate all the things that you need to go through in his/her sake
• Philippines
6 May 10
..you're right.. that's why I'm trying to divert my attention to her instead of my problem..
@joanick27 (141)
• Philippines
5 May 10
I agree with you. Sometimes life is really unfair. But as a mother we have to be strong. It seems that we don't have the right to be weak. Just be free to cry and let your feelings out. You'll see, there is light at the end of the tunnel. You will soon find yourself smiling after all the tears. Problems are really part of our lives. We don't have a chance but to deal with it intelligently. Hope you'll be okay soon.
• Philippines
6 May 10
..thanks.. actually, with the various messages of encouragement of the mylot family here, I know I will be okay.. thanks..
@rhodalyn (251)
• Philippines
5 May 10
don't give up..problems are a very important part of life..it will make you a better person for the future..one thing is certain- it will be solved soon as long as you have faith everything will be fine in a right time..
• Philippines
6 May 10
..yeah.. I keep that in mind.. I just can't help crying..
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
5 May 10
Just remember that your child needs you and that life is not always the way that we would like it to be. I have had many problems lately and I know that life will have to get better soon. I just remember that I have to be strong and hang in there during the rough times in order to enjoy the easy times more.
@_Honey_ (780)
• Philippines
5 May 10
Hello. I feel sorry for how you feel. I may not know the reason why you're feeling that way, I hope that you're agony will fade soon. Just hang on and never forget the reason for all the hard work you do and I would say that it would be your loved ones.
@piya84 (2581)
• India
6 May 10
Hii there Life is just like that.There are some times where you cant do anything but fight back.Use your whole potential and dont give up.I am sure you will come out as a very strong person out of this.These are times when god take our exam.Look towards these things positively.This of a time in future when you will be out of this and you will look back proudly.Best luck!
• China
6 May 10
Indeed ,my friend,life is painful sometimes.But ,it also has happiness other times.Several days ago ,i also felt very low,because something made me at loss and i really don't know how to do it.But i think the whole thing again and again and find it's simple itself,the thing is that i think too complex.So when you feel upset,you can see the things from other angle,maybe you will have new views about it and will be happy again.You have a baby ,and when you feel low,it always gets together with you and bring you the happiness ,so you can get through the pain with the baby's accompany.Good luck to you!
• China
5 May 10
I guess so ,but it depands on how u face it sometimes. hope u could keep your smile whenever happen.... life is not suferring. believe me. all will gonna be okayyyyyy
• Bulgaria
5 May 10
Can sometimes really painful. We dont knows what our lives lay in tomorrow so we must be prepared for any surprises, although it is sometimes very difficult.