is it wrong for a girl to tell a guy that she loves him?

@rhodalyn (251)
Philippines
May 5, 2010 1:37am CST
..is it wrong?some same yes because a girl should not be the one to make the first move..but what if you can't help it already..is it wrong to express your feelings?
10 responses
@jimmysun (401)
• China
6 May 10
no... i dont think it's wrong for a girl to move the first step...if the boy is good boy and worth to be loved and the girl really loves him then just tell him how her feelings is and, not to wait till lose him just remind of telling him the feelings...
@rhodalyn (251)
• Philippines
7 May 10
yah..not telling him would just give me so much regrets..
• United States
5 May 10
Well, I heard that in some cultures it is wrong. But when the guy is shy I don't see reason for the girl to stop in making a move. There shouldn't be line drawn when it comes to expressing love feelings. I say every girl should take her chance.
@rhodalyn (251)
• Philippines
5 May 10
your right..its a rare situation that one may have a chance or opportunity..not grabing it will lead in regrets..
• Latvia
5 May 10
Why? Its an old and very conservative steryotype that the girl shoudn`t do it... Its different times now...
@rhodalyn (251)
• Philippines
5 May 10
yah its different now,,but its not wrong to express your feeling as long as it can make you relieve...
• China
7 May 10
Wrong or right ? It differs from man to man. For a very very shy boy, maybe the girl have to make the first move or she will miss the love and the boy. I think the girl should be sure the boy love her but he is too shy to say I love you,can you be my girlfriend before she make the first move.
@kedralynn (992)
• United States
5 May 10
I don't see anything wrong with it. I think it's outdated to think the guy should do everything. That he should court her and pay for everything. I made the first move to let my partner know I was interested. I didn't want to play coy or play games. And we're very happy today. I also don't let him pay for everything. It's nice to get gifts but I can take care of myself too. I don't want him to support me. I want a little independence. And I told him I loved him first. I think he was scared to say it. He was worried I didn't feel the same. So I just said it. I'd rather have said it and been denied than have sat around wondering "what if?"
@allamgirl (2145)
• Philippines
5 May 10
it depends on how the girl feels about that guy. personally, i think it's okay, as you said, what's wrong with expressing your feelings, right? if it were me, i would tell the guy subtly that i am interested, i would just not blurt out, i love you, if i can help it. but i would do that if it means not doing it, i would lose the person that i love. then it's up to the guy to respond to you. if you're shy about it, just think if it's okay with you to lose the chance to be with that guy, just because you're too afraid to say it to him.
• Philippines
5 May 10
I hate stereotypes but sometimes it can't be helped especially if it's been in your culture or tradition for years before you were even born - like saying that it's wrong for a girl to make the first move in confessing her feelings or love towards a guy. That's so long ago, not to mention unfair for us girls. I mean, if you cannot contain the feelings any longer, and if that's how you really feel, why won't you just spill it out? It's better if you let the truth come out of your heart once and for all, than keep it to yourself and regret it for the rest of your life. Anyway, there's nothing wrong in being truthful - to the other person and most especially, to yourself.
• Philippines
5 May 10
They only say it's wrong cuz they think it's a turn off. I don't think it's a turn off. It's fine if someone confessed her love for me. Actually, i think it's sweet.
@emerillus (477)
• Philippines
5 May 10
Nowadays, in this generation, it is not wrong to tell a guy that you love him. It's just a matter of telling him in a way that won't freak him out, or not to make it sound like you are so head-over-heels super in love with him. Or make it as if you are not expecting a positive response. Just so it can make you feel better, then tell him.
@advokatku (4039)
• Indonesia
5 May 10
it's okay, and it was not a wrong thing a girl more early say the word "love" to his guy. right now its time emancipation of women so women can do things usually boys done