Are you overly shy?

Philippines
May 5, 2010 3:34am CST
When I was little I was so shy that when there are visitors at home I'd go to my room and stay there for as long as the visitors are still there.LOL! But now I realized that was not a good thing because I was supposed to greet them and be polite in a way that they will feel welcome. But I guess that was excusable because I was just a child.Hmmm. I think, right now I'm still a bit shy sometimes in a way that I would hide from an old classmate whenever I see them at the mall or somewhere because I don't know what came over me.haha!I wait till they see me first and that's the time I greet them. I could never have the guts to approach first. What about you? Were you shy then? Can you tell why we are overly shy sometimes?
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14 responses
@Darkoli (255)
6 May 10
I'm very shy still, sometimes it is hard because I get that embarrassed feeling whenever I am around people, and I think that they are looking at me (when there probably not). I am trying to get over it though, by talking to people more, and instead of waiting for people to talk to me I try to start talking to them, but it's so hard for me. I would like it if I wasn't so shy because I could do so much more and even have many more friends, most of my friends are people who I sat next to in school, college and people on-line.
@Jargoness (1193)
• Israel
6 May 10
I know the feeling.. What if people were actually looking at you? What would be the problem? (Or what would the problem be? )
@Darkoli (255)
10 May 10
I would wonder what was wrong and be very self conscious about what I looked like. I would try to ignore it as to not attract attention to myself, that would just make it worse.
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@Jargoness (1193)
• Israel
10 May 10
Try to ask yourself "Hmm. Is something wrong with me?" instead of "Oh god, what is wrong with me?" It always makes me feel better
@jugsjugs (13045)
5 May 10
I am still abit shy but not overly.I tend to find it hard to talk to people that i do not know as i do not know the things that they like.I do make the effort to talk to people aswell as i try to come across to them as not being shy aswell.I never have a problem talking to anyone on the phone as i find that alot easier as it is not done face to face.
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• Philippines
5 May 10
That's good if you're not shy on the phone. Maybe it helps when people won't see our expressions. hehe
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@redhotpogo (4419)
• United States
5 May 10
Yea i'm shy, but not overly I would say. Not as shy as I use to be that is. But it doesn't bother me. Not everyone is suppose to be loud and out going. The world needs shy people like us, that will just listen to people. Thinkers, dreamers, idea people, that are only going to speak our minds when its important.
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• Philippines
5 May 10
Yes, indeed, the world needs us.You made me feel better. :)Thanks for your comment..
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• Finland
6 May 10
For some reason my shyness has started to kick in now in my "older" days. When I was little I didn't have any trouble meeting and greeting people, but now I never initiate a conversation, greet anyone if I see them on the street, in the mall etc.., I just try to sneakily see in the corner of my eye if they caught me :P No idea why the shyness has been getting "worse" by the years, isn't it usually something that is supposed to ease the older you get? :P
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@iGimp01 (188)
5 May 10
im really shy, especially in school, i can never answer a question very loudly and i... yea
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
5 May 10
I was tremendously shy as a child. i would run and hide if company came to our house. it was not until high school that i was able to overcome this. An English speech class gave me the boost of conidence I somehow needed.
@charylady (424)
• Philippines
5 May 10
i think some people are just naturally shy and others are more outgoing. i was shy as a child and i still have a tendency to keep to myself even now tho i try to interact more. what matters is that we are comfortable in our own skin. i would not force myself to be someone that i know i am not.
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• Philippines
5 May 10
Same here! I was also very shy when I was a kid. And I'd say that until now my shyness hasn't got away that much. Hahaha! When we hold parties at home, I'd go to our room because I don't like facing lots of people, or I just don't know how to entertain them. Or if I'm not in the room I'd be at the kitchen and help in washing the dishes. I'd do anything so that I won't get to face the guests. Hahaha! I still feel that way until now and I don't know when I'll be able to overcome this shyness.
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@IAmNena (178)
• Philippines
9 Jun 12
HAHA! I can relate to this! when I was young and whenever visitor came to our home I'd prefer to go to my room and lock in there so the visitors won't see me.Now that I'm a young adult I'm trying my best to change.I realized that I might miss life opportunities if I continued to be shy. :)
• Philippines
9 Jun 12
Yes, that's the spirit! Good luck to your future endeavors and I hope you'll enjoy meeting a lot of beautiful people along the way. Cheers!
• China
5 May 10
I used to be a shy girl ,and once talking to others, i felt nervous and my face turned red.even now ,i am still shy,i do not know why,maybe because i am not confident enough! but sometimes ,i am an extrovert ,haha,i have double personality!
• Philippines
5 May 10
Yeah, maybe we need to boost our confidence now that we are grownup. Thanks for you response!
• Philippines
5 May 10
Yeah. Sometimes i'm like that with someone i don't know. But to old classmates and acquintances, i'm very hospitable and courteous. I don't shy out on them.
• Philippines
5 May 10
I see. But I wasn't so close to everybody else back then, so I think that's why I'm shy when I see them.
• United States
14 Nov 10
It depends. I am shy at times but I am not shy at some times :) It depends on the situation for me.
@keval32 (1099)
• India
7 May 10
Hey, me too having the same problem. I also can't first approach anyone whether he is my friend or a stranger or relative. If they would see me I'll say "hello" to them, otherwise I keep try to run out from that place as soon as possible. That's the BIG problem of me. Still, at the age of 19, I can say that I am pursuing it. I don't know how to come out of this situation. Trying my level best.
@Jargoness (1193)
• Israel
5 May 10
When I had visitors at home I used to hide in the bathroom. I was more then overly shy until a year ago; group therapy helped me a lot, I met wonderful people there. At the end of the therapy we made a "performance" in front of our relatives, friends, colleagues, etc. At the very beginning of the course I was like: "no way. I'll never do it, are you crazy?" but after a few months decided to take part in the play. I'd never had so much fun like that time. Hilarious.. Am I ranting? Anyway, I'm still shy, but definitely way, way, way, way less than how I used to be. I still have some problem when I begin to.. know someone. Like, if I meet you once I have no problems, but after five, six times I start worrying about your judgement. Hah