Marriages based on adjustments shatter very early???
May 5, 2010 9:44am CST
what all of you have to say in this concept the marriages based on the adjustments are false and fickle!!they break very soon as the true nature of the poerson thinking to be an adjustment shows the true colour one day!!what do you say??
6 May 10
I believe adjustments in marriage is normal. Of course there are a lot of things we cannot be doing any longer because it just isn't our priority anymore. Like hanging out with my friends. That isn't my priority anymore since I got married. I still go out with them once in a while and get to do all the crazy things we used to do but it is always with boundary/limitations. We can have fun responsibly. Sacrifice comes in when you know that there are major adjustments we must do to make the marriage work. But don't fret. Theses sacrifices won't last long. As soon as the adjustment period is done -- in comes harmony. Since the two were able to compromise well and learn a lil something about the other, then it wouldn't be so hard to relate whatever it is what we've got to say.
6 May 10
Yep.. and once it becomes easier for us to be able to relate what we feel then without hesitations we can already tell our partners why we need to go out with our friends once in a while. Or why we constantly wake them up for a quickie. Because by then we know right away that they would understand. And oh yes ... "Understanding" is also a favorite ingredient of mine in a marriage. I simply love my wife for being all these to me.
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5 May 10
I think people need to be in relationships for the people they are - not for the people they want to be. No marriage certificate is the 'fix' all for problems. You have to be content with who you are and what you want. A person has to have common goals or have a partner that respects and supports them. I agree with you.