Will you leave your love So that He/She is Happy With another Person ?

Love - Will you Leave your Love and your Longing Behind ?
India
May 5, 2010 3:02pm CST
What will you do If after 2 years your Bf / Gf starts liking another Girl / Boy , spends most of the with Him / Her , but says they are Just Friends and Loves you .. Will you leave your Love so that He/She is happy with another person ? Or Will you be fine without Him/Her ?
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29 responses
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
5 May 10
I'll try to convince him to stay, but if I can really sense that he's no longer happy with me and I can see that another girl is the one who's pleasing him the most, I guess I'd take courage to do the right thing -- get myself out of the picture and leave them two alone, and move on with my life. Hopefully I'll find someone new.
• India
6 May 10
I tried this ,, left her to be free but it really hurts . I cant even tolerate when she speaks with that guy in phone.
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
6 May 10
of course it hurts but it's the right thing to do and it's not easy to do the right thing all the time.
• India
6 May 10
Dude, I know it hurts. every person in this world goes through it atleast once in his lifetime.so, the solution is Never ever think that you got a life partner till you get married to one. you should tell her clearly about your love. if she rejects then there is no way. dude, its very difficult to find the true love in this world. Take care next time. Raj http://www.funhere.tk
@_Honey_ (781)
• Philippines
9 May 10
Infidelity - One of the most common causes of broken relationships.
First I would like to know that reason why he went for the other girl. What is it that I lack that she does have? What is it that made him fall for her or like her? I wanted to know if he would really choose the girl over me or he just needs time to think things over. If he thinks things would be better of without me, then I'll leave and let the two of them start anew. If he chooses me, I would need to think it over too if I'd be willing to give him another chance and trust him again.
• India
16 May 10
Thanks for your response it really helped me a lot , I have the done the same thing what you have mentioned here , at first i thought of asking her about the reason but after i read your response i asked her on the spot and clarified with her about certain issues and now my heart is a bit releived now i feel good inside
• Philippines
6 May 10
Hi, if the signs are pretty obvious and that there's a third party, well what can I do if he doesn't love me anymore. When I had my first break up, I don't remember the exact moment I was over him, I think it just happened gradually. I just kept myself busy with work, friends and having fun. After almost a year, he and I talked together, the things of the past forgiven. I also believe that I meant for someone. And besides, why mope around and be depressed when there is so much in this world to experience? We all have friends who stick by us until the very end.
• India
6 May 10
thanks for your suggestion . It helped me a lot just made a call to my close friends and i feel a bit releived with their suggestions too
• Philippines
6 May 10
I hate liars. If he will say that they are just friends and that he loves me, well I think he is lying. Of course, I will be hurt, and jealous, and we will always fight, because I can't stand him spending more time with another woman, instead of devoting most of his time with me. That isn't right. If this is the scenario, I think it is better for us to part ways. If I see him happy with someone else, why would I stay? I have read a quote saying that if you are able to give up your happiness for another person, that's the time that you realize what love is.
7 May 10
yeah i agree with you! Liar are always liar and there is no guarantee they will spend an honest life with you.. Oops i forgot to add we should give them at-least once chance1
• Indonesia
8 May 10
I will let him choose between me and his friend, it's up to him. If he is happier with her, than I will let him go. I will be fine without him.
@chaloa (29)
• Czech Republic
8 May 10
Relationships are always difficult. For me it would be difficult to leave someone who says he loves me and i am sure i love him. But if he would be hanging out quiet often with different girl it would make me jealous a lot. I would feel somehow hurted. If he would really LOVE ME as he say, he would prefere to be in my company and not in a company of other girls. Anyway i would let him to choose. Let him alone and see if i would be missing in his life or not. I am sure, that time would show everything. So be patient! Time will show u if the person really loves u as says. And If it will not work out well, i am sure there is other person better for u.
• United States
8 May 10
shoot i would leave. forget that!!! if they wanna be with someone else let them. i am way too special to be dishonest too.. and so are u. it might hurt but remember..she isnt hurting..so let her go
@LittleMel (14059)
• Canada
7 May 10
It would be hard and I would be all upset about it but sometimes in life we have to let go of some things or some people then I would do it if the person doesn't love me anymore, what is the point of either he or I, staying in the relationship? so my answer is yes
• China
7 May 10
it is hard to make decision,maybe i will go crazy.
@manojt2 (179)
• India
7 May 10
Of course! In fact if you flip LOVE, the other side you get is SACRIFICE. If you really love the person, you only see to it that he / she is happy and that's what your motto should be. Although I know you cannot make any person happy or sad, but efforts must be taken from our side to make a person happy and the easiest way is to sacrifice for a noble cause.
@andy77e (5170)
• United States
7 May 10
Well first, I would not be with someone unless I'm married to them. Something that involves me, is going to be 100% all in, or not at all. I play for keeps, or I'll move on. Second, if per chance I got married, and she decided she wanted someone else, it would likely ruin me, but I'd say go for it, and show her to the door. She wants someone else, she can have him. And he can have her. Someone like that is obviously not a very good person, so I clearly don't want her anymore.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
7 May 10
hm, it`s hard to answer this question.in one my side i dot want to leave her but in the other side i dont want to see she hurt because never love me
• United States
6 May 10
I would absolutely leave. I have no problem w/it. I encourage him to leave from time to time.
• Dubai, United Arab Emirates
6 May 10
I will make her know that I love her deeply..... Even then if I find she's happy without me.... then the only thing I can do for her is just slowly go away from her.... I think I won't be happy without her.....but someday all will be fine......
@ronaldinu (12454)
• Malta
6 May 10
It is hard to let go someone you really love. Love is not possessive. So if you know that the person you love will be happier with another person you will let her go. It s really hard to come to this decision but I am sure that you will feel better afterwards.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
6 May 10
If I were very sure that it was really more than just friendship then I would just leave. I would not want to be with a man that spends most of his time with another woman anyway.
• Philippines
6 May 10
Hi, if the signs are pretty obvious and that there's a third party, well what can I do if he doesn't love me anymore. When I had my first break up, I don't remember the exact moment I was over him, I think it just happened gradually. I just kept myself busy with work, friends and having fun. After almost a year, he and I talked together, the things of the past forgiven. I also believe that I meant for someone. And besides, why mope around and be depressed when there is so much in this world to experience? We all have friends who stick by us until the very end.
@qamarep (4453)
• Pakistan
6 May 10
yes if she cant be happy with me then i willeave with her but then i wont be able to fall in love with anyone else because my trust will be broken on all humanity
@meirhu (367)
• Israel
6 May 10
It's really a shame that more people don't know the polyamorous veiwpoint. Why do you have to leave at all ? You can STAY and ALLOW your love to have additional contacts - whether hie (he or she) is in love with this additonal contact or not. As long as hie doesn't want to LEAVE YOU or asks YOU to leave. If hie has a new love then just work out with hir (him or her) the time schedule - when hie wants to be with you and when he wants to be with hir new love. Simple - right ?
• India
6 May 10
I would always want to be someone who loves me and not with the one whom I love. If someone I love begins to like someone else then the best thing to do is to let him or her go. Let him or her be happy with the person he or she loves and I will be happy with the person who loves me.