friend or foe that is my question
May 5, 2010 9:18pm CST
okay guys here it is. i rarely find myself in situations like this. i mean i either know what it is or what it isn't. so a relative of mind came to me and said that she has a female in her life that she considers to be a dear friend. they went through a break in the friendship and did not really talk for the space of five or six years. i think she may have stated they spoke on several occasions during the seperation but it was only a few times. well they have since started to talk once again. things were going well. they were talking daily again like they once did in the past. well Ed (my relative for the sake of this conversation) and his friend were on the phone one night and Ed's friend said he would call back. well not only has the friend not called back, he has not answered or returned any of Ed's many attempts to make contact again and find out what has happened. Ed is wondering what happened and should he be offended by the action of his friend or should he just write it off and not call anymore? should he say the heck with him or should he further investigate? Ed cares about his friend like a brother and just wants to know what happened. why would the friend just abruptly stop talking to Ed like that? Anhy ideas would be helpful for me to share with Ed as I am not sure what to tell him. this is where the loop comes in for me. any help is appreciated.
6 May 10
In this situation, Ed must be open to any possibilities with regards to the recenr changes of his friend. Try to tell him the possible reasons of his friends actions. First, consider the positive; Maybe on times he calls she is busy or something is bothering her but she cannot dare to tell him frankly. Every actions constitutes reasons and I'm pretty sure that his friend has a good reason of not calling Ed or even not answering his calls."Friendship doesn't easily fades if it's real" Now, try to take a look on the negative side, It is too much pain to be rejected by those persons whom we valued the most.If she's really busy those times, why she can't even dare to call Ed on some other time and consult with him her status?Remember the famous quote " If there's a will,there's a way". So if she wanted to communicate with Ed, she will always make a way to keep in touch with him no matter what the cost. Confusing! right?!.. as my best advice to Ed, Do not easily give up but never expect too much. There's always time for every thing. If she cannot talk to you personally, give her some space but never stop showing your support and concern as her friend. If she wont answer your calls at least send her inspiring messages through mails or SMS. A true friend cannot stand from her pride when you remain humble. When she still cares for the friendship, she'll realized her faults and will missed you a thousand times but if not maybe it's time for you to move on...
6 May 10
It's not gonna be a problem if you don't let it be a problem. Just let him be. Good thing you found out the he doesn't wanna be friends anymore by not talking to ed so just accept it. Nothing productive will happen if he pursues this person any further.
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6 May 10
wow. just like that? no if, and, or but's about it hun? well if that's the way of it. but it would be nice if he would just let Ed know wouldn't you think? I mean the common courtesy after knowing someone for so long. the world is not the same amymore I guess. thanks for the input.
6 May 10
To be honest i would give up on a person that did not bother to return my calls aswell as did not even bother getting in touch with me.Perhaps the reason for the friendship started up was as at the time the friend had maybe had a break up with someone else and Ed just filled in until they made up again and now the friend do not want to get in touch again.Give it time and see if the friend gets intouch, but i would not carry on trying to get intouch with a person that do not want to chat to me.
6 May 10
There are times persons are going through a difficult period in their lives and just want to touch back base with something familiar. What your cousin need to do is understand that he has done what was place in his life to do and so he should move on. Or maybe your cousin was asking questions that his friend was uncomfortable with and so apparently don't want to preferred to dissolved the friendship again. Some friendship are not tell eternity and we need to understand this.