Is it true that it is difficult to have babies when you're 30+?

@emdyey09 (264)
Philippines
May 6, 2010 9:57pm CST
I usually get this opinion from people that women who starts to have family at the age of 30+ has trouble conceiving. Is this true? I wanna know it from you fellow woman mylotters. I personally see myself getting married at around 30ish. And I always get that remark that I'll have trouble conceiving at that age so I'd better do it younger. But I knew someone who married married at age 37 but did not have difficulty conceiving. What do you think? What's your advice?
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@markleob (1904)
• Philippines
7 May 10
nope... there would be no problem to pregnancy if both are productive.. we could just have a little problem upon delivery of the baby..
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@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
7 May 10
Hi markleob! Thanks for the post. Forgive me for saying this, but, I thought you were a guy. Hehe. I was hoping for inputs from women who started having babies at the age of 30. I am really curious if they had difficulties conceiving.
@markleob (1904)
• Philippines
7 May 10
yes i am.. it is just i know about this.... it is taught at shools especially in bio classes... more on that, i like to read informative articles rather than nonsense story books like harry potter.. i prefer reading medical books, i have some at home since my aunt and sister are nurses.. i am also an active listener of "Kini ang Akong Suliran" it is the most popular visayan radio program of radio mindanao network wherein doctor L.L.R. excellently gives her pieces of advice to the cases that were sent to her daily...
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
20 May 10
well, it's good to know that you're interested on those kind of stuff. Thanks for the post! ^_^
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
7 May 10
I have heard of that but there were still some women who were able to conceive babies in that age range. They said its going to be difficult but its stilll worth the try. I am also worried that I am not gonna get pregnant at that time so I decided to get married before I turn 30. I am married now and it has been a year and I am not pregnant yet. I do hope that one day soon, before I turn 30, I am already gonna have a child.
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@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
20 May 10
From the comments I have read, it seems that it really is case to case basis. And there seems to be a lot of factor that affects a woman's capability to conceive. My boyfriend's parents got married when they were 30 and his mom did not have problems having babies. She even had 5 children, with 2 years gap in their ages. But, I think one reason she did not have difficulties is because she's not stressed at that time. She quit her job as a doctor and stayed at home.
@BART78 (2933)
• Canada
7 May 10
it depends with each individuals, don't get fat so you would'nt have problem giving birth at 30's..
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
28 May 10
Hehe. That's a really nice advice BART78! Thanks very much.
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@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
28 May 10
Hehe. That's a really nice advice BART78! Thanks very much.
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@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
28 May 10
Hehe. That's a really nice advice BART78! Thanks very much.
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@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
12 May 10
I was worried about this situation too cause I just recently turned 30 and into relationship for 6 years and I don't know when I will get married. They say that that was true but there are few who says its depends on your body. They say that to be able to have a fast and normal delivery you have to always walk and exercise. I know someone who is about 8-9 months pregnant and she still work. After giving birth I asked her was it hard and she replied "no" it was like no pain at all.
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
31 May 10
Thanks for the comment laniekins!! I also got that advise from my friend. She told me to walk and walk because in her case she didn't have any difficulty in the delivery. But I could only imagine how very painful the birth process is. Still working at 8 or 9 months? I guess that's okay if she works in the hospital. Hehe.
@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
1 Jun 10
Yes, she still works on her 8-9 months and that's her first baby, you really have to work. I heard there is painless delivery but I guess this is expensive.
@Sreekala (18787)
• India
7 May 10
Hi emdyey, It differs on individuals dear. Normally a lady can conceive upto the age of menopause. But some experts are saying rarely there is chance of pregnancy in women after the menopause too. There is no problem at the age of 30 for conceiving. Doctors have an opinion that having baby before the age of 35 is good. There are chances of problem after this particular age. But I know many persons who delivered after the age of 40 that also a normal delivery. So it is entirely depends upon the physical health of the women. Now women are focusing more on their career and getting married lately. Even if they got married they will plan for a baby according to their career. If you want to get marry lately I can’t see any problem for it. If you have a regular menstrual period, then nothing to worry. (If a women have irregular period may face some problem in later period for conceiving). Eat healthy food and consult a doctor for suggestions before conceiving. Physical fitness is always important. Good luck to you.
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
28 May 10
Thanks Sreekala! I totally agree that the biggest consideration in having late pregnancies is the woman's reproductive health. In my case since I've always had regular period, hopefully I won't get difficulties should I decide to start a family at 30+ (but not late 30s ^_^). Most my friends are career-driven, but I guess I've to advise them to check their health and see a specialist (if they have problems with their period) if they plan to have babies a lot later in their life. For people who generalize that it would be difficult to conceive at 30+ , now I can tell them (confidently!) that it is not always the case because I now know quite a number of women who had no problems conceiving even at 30+. ^_^
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@Sreekala (18787)
• India
18 Jun 10
Thank you very much for the BR. Just back after the vacation and that is the reason for late reply.
@maximax8 (27048)
5 Jun 10
I think it is fairly easy to conceive from age 30 to age 35 years old. Between age 35 and 40 it might take more time for a lady to get pregnant. I know plenty of ladies that successfully had a first baby at age 30, 31, 32, 33 or 34 years old. Then they successfully had a second child before age 40. I had my second son born when I was 34 years old. I had my daughter born when I was 36 years old. My sister had her fourth child born when she was 39 years old. These days many ladies concentrate on their career when they are younger than 30.
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
Thanks for the comment maximax8! Maybe we could generalize that it's still okay to start having babies at early 30s. And it really depends on the reproductive health of the woman. But basically, early 30s is still okay.
@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
21 May 10
i had no trouble personally. i had our daughters when i was 31 and 35. i guess it just depends on the person.
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
31 May 10
Thanks for the comment cher913! I guess that's maybe because you had a healthy and active lifestyle. Or maybe because you're lucky and blessed. ^_^
• Philippines
8 May 10
I don't think so.a friend of mine had her first baby when she was 32 or 33.I heard that having a baby when in 30s is much better because the woman is already fully mature, both physically and mentally.I would prefer to have a baby when I turn 32.
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
31 May 10
Thanks for the comment my_name_is_coco! Well... I'll say, join the club! Haha! There are a lot of us women nowadays prefer to have babies at 30+. (Well, in my case, I used to prefer having to start a family at a younger age, but right now that I'm 27, and it was quite clear to me that my bf plans to get us married when we're 30, I've to change preference. ^_^ We're using this time right now to take care of our finances so we don't have that problem later on when we get married.)
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
8 May 10
i am not a woman but my wife gave birth when she was 35. though i can say that she had a lot of miscarriages before we hit the jackpot. but it is a case to case situation i guess. the sister of my wife gave birth when she was 36 and she didnt have a problem at all. one of our cousin gave birth when she was 42 and that was her first baby. there are also a big range of hollywood stars who conceived and gave birth and they are all 40 and over. so when that time comes the best way is to have a regular check with your obgyne for she can answer all of your questions.
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
31 May 10
Thanks for the comment se7enthbird! Most people nowadays do start having babies at a later age. The pregnancy difficulties (from what I gathered from the comments here) are really case to case basis, with of course, in general, the older women have more health risks than the younger ones. I think, the main factor is really the woman's health. So, in my case, since I plan to start a family when I'm 30, I better start minding more of my health.
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
7 May 10
Well I dont think thats thats true, if the two people are healthy, and physically still able to bear children there should be no difficulty in conceiving a child I know of a woman past her 30tys still got pregnant and had a healthy baby. With that said I think that babys conceived by older mothers are at a higher risk of birth defects docters say that older mothers have a higher risk of having a child with physical or mental problems or both, of course its not a guarantee, and if the mother is reciving proper medical care the risk is much lower, so thats something to consider, but like I said as long as the two adults are physically still capable of reproducing it can and will happen there are many woman past there 30tys having healthy children some woman are in there mid 40s even menopausal women may still be able to have children but there are health risk to consider.
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
31 May 10
Thanks for the comment apples99! I agree, there are indeed a lot of health risks to consider when you start having babies at a much older age.
@qamarep (4453)
• Pakistan
7 May 10
i have heard that the dangerous age for this matter is 45 and plus.. not 30+
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
31 May 10
Thanks for the comment qamarep! Really? So it's 45 and plus huh? Hmmm.. I believe, it's just a way of the general public to scare off women in late 20s who are single to get married soon and start having babies! Now, if I tell them this info, I'm sure they won't believe me and think it's just my excuse for not getting married sooner. =P
@jugsjugs (13045)
7 May 10
When i had my last child i was 32 and i fell easily pregnant with him.Alot of my friends are nearly 42 and they have children under a year old and they also found it easier to get pregnant.I think it all depends on how well you are as a person.I think i had more problems falling pregnant when i was in my 20s.
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
31 May 10
Thanks for the comment jugsjugs! Why do you think you had more problems when you're 20s? Isn't it that 20s was supposedly the best time to get pregnant?
• India
7 May 10
yes. scientifically yes. after the age of 30+ complications of delivery are raised. chances of sizzer are mostly in that cases. and its very tough for mother health.
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
31 May 10
Thanks for the comment priyankaajain!
@iGimp01 (188)
7 May 10
my mum was 40ish when she had my lil brother, she found it really easy and had a hour labor
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
31 May 10
Thanks for the comment iGimp01! I am confused. Do you mean, she finds the pregnancy easy and had only difficulty on the delivery?
• Philippines
7 May 10
There is! I gave birth to my eldest at the age of 31. I spent like 10 hours in the labor room and another 2 hours in the delivery room. Then , another 21 year old woman was rushed in the delivery room and in just 10 minutes, a baby was already crying. I waited for another 30 minutes before my baby was out.
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
31 May 10
Thanks for the comment Lucky_day! From what I gathered here , it's really a case to case basis. What do you think is the main reason why you had difficulty on the delivery room? I would still applaud you though because I assume you still have a normal delivery and did not opted to do a C-section. A friend of mine advised me to walk a lot while pregnant to not have difficulty on the delivery. She said, she only had one forceful push and the baby was out.
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@Jotomy (6157)
• India
7 May 10
Yeah dear, now a days after 30 years it become difficult to conceive also. Because of the changes in the atmosphere, food habits, time sense etc., If at all they conceive after 35 there may be growth problems with the baby. First conceive should be below 30 years then if you conceive next time after 30 years is ok, but first conceive after 35 years is not good. But there are some cases where the woman conceived at the age of 40 years best example is Madonna (2nd issue), she conceived after 40 years of age. If you are strong and healthy then ok. And there is stories in the bible also woman was blessed with a child at the age of 100 years. That time they may very strong and healthy i believe and god grace also there. Now every thing become mechanical, no interest in life, over expectation in the life, stress, frustration, depression, tension and many matters making woman infertility and if at all they conceived they are not fully fit to give natural delivery. So girls must have a plan about this. The elders experience should take into consideration and must act accordingly.
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
28 May 10
Thanks for the comment Jotomy! The people of the Old Testament though have way different biological clock compared to the women of today. People at that time live till 300+. ^_^
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7 May 10
I do not think so, just keep yourself health. My aunt gave birth to her little when she was 34, so I have a litte brother, younger than me about 22. Good luck for you.
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
28 May 10
Thanks for the comment ellickmichael!
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@oldchem1 (8144)
7 May 10
I can tell you a very big N O !!! I had my three daughters in my 20's, when my third one was born I was 28 and that was our family complete. I went back to work and was on the mini pill. At 38 I became pregnant wit my fourth daughter - the doctor blaming the fact that I was taking antibiotics making the pill less effective. I went back on the minipill but at 45 , when I was diagnosed as menopausal I found that I was 16 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby boy!!
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
28 May 10
Still, you started your family at your 20s. They say if you did so, you won't have problems conceiving. However, if you're planning to start having babies on your 30+, that's when difficulties conceiving comes in. Thanks for your comment oldchem1!
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@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
7 May 10
For me not because if you don't have a sick it is ok to have a baby.
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
28 May 10
Thank you very much for your comment ebuscat!
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• Philippines
7 May 10
i think when you reach 40 then its your first baby that difficult -.-
@emdyey09 (264)
• Philippines
28 May 10
Thank yo for your comment jetjetkulet!