why do we fell soo sorry for ourself?

United States
May 7, 2010 4:10am CST
I was thinkin why do we feel so sorry for ourself, i think self pity is a useless emotion. its for one thing tiring, it take all of our joy and energy to bring it out. how can we replace the void that self pity drains from our life? And what can we do to make sure that it never return?. can self pity come from bad relationships, or health problem?
4 responses
• Philippines
7 May 10
sometimes we feel this if we feel hurt by our friends or bf/gf nor family and we dont have someone to turn too like were just alone. specially if we tried to give our best to it and yet they didnt appreciate it as what more can we give. we felt sorry coz we felt that we failed. i sometimes felt that specially now though i just need to be strong for my baby as i dont want my baby to get affected with what happening to me.
• United States
7 May 10
Hi, homeshoppers. I forgot that one - the feeling of failure. Self-pity can enter thru that door. We have to watch out that we don't fall into that trap. Thanks for the reminder. I like that you are thinking of your baby. So often we meet really screwed up adults because their parents passed the wrong outlook on life on to them.
@redhotpogo (3935)
• United States
7 May 10
different reasons for different people. some people like to feel sorry for themselves, because they want attention, and they know that someone will give it to them. other people feel sorry for themselves because no one else will.
@StarBright (2799)
• United States
7 May 10
You sre right. self pity is a useless emotion. It is also a high form of self-centeredness, selfishness, being ungrateful and laziness. Lots of times we feel sorry for ourselves because we have gotten ourselves into a mess we should have avoided. Other times we feel sorry for ourselves because we want someone else to do something for us. All we have to do is look around and we will find someone else with equal or greater problems than ours. We will also see those people going on with their life and making the best of a situation and even helping others.
@kevs4jc (18)
• Fiji
7 May 10
I don't like self pity or feeling sorry for ourselves either. What I would try to do is discipline myself not to feel sorry for myself. Its hard to do. But once done, it really feels nice. it makes us see clearly of issues. Self pity I think can stem out from a number of things including bad relationships, especially at childhood. For example, when we are young, our parents might treat us second best or does not give us that special attention that we need. We might think, at that young and tender age, that we are not at all important, and that can make us feel down of ourselves. When we have fully grown up, we might think that the problem that is rooted from that childhood trauma has disappeared. That might be true for some, but for some other people, the problem of self pitty can become a problem even when they thought they have dealt with it, since it's in the past. If any person is dealing with self pity, they should ask GOD, through prayer, in Jesus name, to help them get rid of the problem. It does not stop at prayer alone. We have to do our part as well. That comes back to discipline.