how do you discipline your kids?

@evepin (723)
Philippines
May 9, 2010 9:20pm CST
i have a 2yo daughter and i guess she is in this stage what one calls "terrible twos." she's pushing all her limits, testing her abilities and our patience as well. she wants to assert herself always. sometimes what she does is something that i dont approve of, but she gets very demanding and cries like crazy. she refuses ro brush her teeth or get her teeth brushed, we have a hard time bathing and feeding her, etc etc. how do you discipline your kids in this regard? do you spank? give time outs? ignore? or talk to them? i tried talking to her but all she does is wail and cry. any opinions and thoughts you care to share?
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• United States
10 May 10
My daughter is 3, and I promise the terrible twos will turn into the terrible threes! What I do, depending upon what is going on..but usually, I start by talking to her telling her no she cannot do that because..it's dangerous or bad. I Will tell her no, stop, or brush your teeth, two or three times before I will either say "if you do not stop that I am going to smack you bum" "If you do it again you will get spanked" or "You have to the count of three to start brushing your teeth or I will spank you bum." if she does it again I will smack her butt, no hard of course and repeat what I was correcting on firmly when I do it. When it comes to hear eating. When she refuses to eat, I will continue to tell her while everyone else starts to eat, and if she does not eat before the rest of the family is done then she can go to bed without eating. There are not second chances for dinner, and there will be no snack or dessert or anything if she does not eat her dinner. If you have to put her to bed one night without dinner or even two nights, she will start to her dinner all the time for you. I do not give time outs because my daughter will not stay in one place for it. When my daughter would start to wail and cry and throw a huge tantrum I just sit there and watch her let her cryfor about 15 to 20 minutes until she tired and start to say what I was trying to say again, and I do it taht way until she lets me say what I have to say.
@evepin (723)
• Philippines
10 May 10
i do most of the things you do too, though i rarely threaten to spank if my daughter doesn't obey me. sometimes though the temptation is too great to just smack her in the bottom but i feel very guilty and then i get depressed. sometimes i feel like i am such a failure in being a mom but i really want to be the best mom for my daughter. maybe i'm just confused and dont know how to handle difficult kids. i have younger brothers whom i helped raise and i dont recall them being very naughty or hard-headed.
@alocure (372)
• United States
10 May 10
your not a failure you must discipline your child you dont alway have to result in spanking.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
21 May 10
One key to success in disciplining children is our ability as parents in being assertive without losing the attention and affection. With a firm but loving, the child will not feel bullied and scolded, but it felt very note. One mistake that often here, parents tend to impose penalties when children are violated with the use of physical punishment. we must remember that our law is an undisciplined behavior rather than physical.
@alocure (372)
• United States
10 May 10
well from experience i can say what my parents did or what i do as a preschool teacher since am only 19 i dont have kids. for one take her by the hand sit her down and talk to her dont yell explain in a calm voice "whats wrong" why are you doing this? explain to her why she should do this or that.. consider making a chart, not a chore chart but its similar, tell her that for every check she receives for when acting out and being told to do something she will be awarded on Friday you can take her to the park or spend the evening shopping such as mothers or day day out. treat her with a happy meal every other time for good behavior. hope this helps1:)
@BlueAngelRS (2900)
• Canada
10 May 10
My daughter is 3 turning 4 this month.......I use the 1,2,3 system..... For example when she is wailing and crying and throwing a temper I count to 3 and tell her to go to her room until she is calmed down then she can come out and talk to me.....I've done it so much with her she actually runs there herself to calm down lol....... For the eating part I would when she is calm explain to her if she doesn't eat it it will be wrapped up put in the fridge and saved til the next meal..... I hope this helps....